The problem I found is that sex, by its very nature, is very, what the French call a certain… I dunno what – Intimate! And where intimacy is involved, human emotions are sure to follow. I haven’t found a foolproof way yet to eliminate the injection at some point of those squishy, unruly, goshdarn EMOTIONS! They really do ruin everything! Sooner or later, the longer the hookup goes on, one or the other partner is gonna blurt out the “L” word, or worse, want more of a commitment – outside the bedroom. Or even worse than that: finally become satiated with all the free, EASY, MEANINGLESS sex, and there goes your trusted reliable monogamous hookup….

To want a deeper more meaningful relationship than just sex is, I believe, what sets us as humans apart from the animal kingdom. And that very desire is what ultimately leads to the death of the hookup relationships.

At which point you might consider pondering the age-old adage: is it better to have hooked-up and lost than to never have hooked-up at all?

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As a twenty-something single female, I have to admit that I am part of the no-strings-attached system of hooking up. But, let me plead my case before the single or divorced MILFs try to beat me down…

I am just going to come out with it…sex is pleasurable and it is going to happen. I am in my mid twenties and I am not going to deny I crave the physical contact and intimacy that sex brings.

That being said, I also know that (opposite to most my age) I don’t have a clue what I really want in love or a man at this age. I personally don’t think I am even going to look at a serious relationship until I am 30 or so.

My problem is not monogamy, it is that I know that people my age (twenties) are trying to learn about themselves and understand their place in life. It seems a real bad time to commit to another person when you know in advance that both of you are going to go through changes until you figure some stuff out.

That is why the hook up ultimately works for myself and many like me. Personally, I can not look at a man and honestly say I love you, simply because I am not sure what that really entails right now to myself or a relationship. So why live a lie?

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There are those who have casual sex for the wrong reasons and get hurt or allow their emotions to get involved which tends to skew their view of relationships.

Then there are others who are satisfied being intimate with a person on a physical level without having a conventional relationship to accompany it.

I believe that as long as the people involved are honest with themselves and their partners about their intentions, the relationship – or the sex – can be a pleasurable experience for both.

And I know… I’m probably dismissed as a Victorian prude.

My observation is this — all the great romances / relationships depicted in film, are usually monogamous, and require some degree of suffering and sacrifice. Deeper feelings come from commitment. Just my take.

Even in the current mega-hit “Iron Man,” Robert Downey Jr.’s character evolves from being a womanizer to a more sensitive, deeper guy.

I bet it’s challenging to raise daughters today. You have teenage daughters, right?

Thanks for writing and linking. Looking forward to reading more of your posts.

Take care, Cheryl