Comments on: Be Wary of Dating Expert Advice Sites http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/ Dating & Parenting by a Single Dad Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:25:09 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: whatmenthink http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/comment-page-1/#comment-69 whatmenthink Wed, 26 Mar 2008 19:26:20 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=66#comment-69 Dating experts, image consultants, online dating, speed dating, etc. They can help to an extent. I know plenty of people who have had much success with them. However, they normally had succes with the opposite sex. The reason they took on these services was to compound their success or because of time restrictions. I think its reasonable that they charge for these services. They are valuable resources of used correctly. Ultimately, success in dating comes from within. Confidence and self esteem are key. After that hygeine and fashion greatly increase your success rates. Dating experts, image consultants, online dating, speed dating, etc. They can help to an extent. I know plenty of people who have had much success with them. However, they normally had succes with the opposite sex. The reason they took on these services was to compound their success or because of time restrictions. I think its reasonable that they charge for these services. They are valuable resources of used correctly. Ultimately, success in dating comes from within. Confidence and self esteem are key. After that hygeine and fashion greatly increase your success rates.

]]> By: dadshouse http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/comment-page-1/#comment-72 dadshouse Thu, 20 Mar 2008 05:18:47 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=66#comment-72 Hi Dating Goddess - thanks for checking in. I admit, I've learned a lot from dating these past years. In that respect, internet dating has been worth it. But now that I know myself better, quality of connection is more important than quantity of women I meet. Online dating may be an efficient way to meet new people, but it makes it way too easy for both parties to simply click "next" and move on to someone else. Like you, I've had my share of dating relationships simply disappear... When there's a mutual friend, people tend to be more respectful. Hi Dating Goddess – thanks for checking in. I admit, I’ve learned a lot from dating these past years. In that respect, internet dating has been worth it. But now that I know myself better, quality of connection is more important than quantity of women I meet. Online dating may be an efficient way to meet new people, but it makes it way too easy for both parties to simply click “next” and move on to someone else. Like you, I’ve had my share of dating relationships simply disappear… When there’s a mutual friend, people tend to be more respectful.

]]> By: Dating Goddess http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Dating Goddess Thu, 20 Mar 2008 03:44:39 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=66#comment-71 Hi David: Thanks for your comment on my blog. And we have Rachel Sarah in common! I agree about eHarmony. None -- zero -- of the men I met F2F from there went farther than a coffee/lunch/drink date. I've had better luck with Match or even Yahoo! I've met some wonderful men in my 3 years dating men I've met online -- and some I've dated for several months. But then one or both of us realized we weren't really long-term material and called it quits. Or they just went poof -- unfortunately all too common behavior, even among educated, successful midlife men. I think "success" depends on your definition. Have I met my soul mate? I may just have, connecting with a man who's been quietly pursuing me for 18 months. If this doesn't work out, will I consider online dating a failure? No. I've learned a lot from dating 88 men in these 3 years and feel I know a lot more about myself, what I want, and men than I would have if I'd just waited to meet men the "natural" way. I would have had far fewer dates since I work alone from home, and my work doesn't allow me to date my clients. So online dating has been worth it for me. Dating Goddess Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 http://www.DatingGoddess.com Hi David:

Thanks for your comment on my blog. And we have Rachel Sarah in common!

I agree about eHarmony. None — zero — of the men I met F2F from there went farther than a coffee/lunch/drink date. I’ve had better luck with Match or even Yahoo! I’ve met some wonderful men in my 3 years dating men I’ve met online — and some I’ve dated for several months. But then one or both of us realized we weren’t really long-term material and called it quits. Or they just went poof — unfortunately all too common behavior, even among educated, successful midlife men.

I think “success” depends on your definition. Have I met my soul mate? I may just have, connecting with a man who’s been quietly pursuing me for 18 months. If this doesn’t work out, will I consider online dating a failure? No. I’ve learned a lot from dating 88 men in these 3 years and feel I know a lot more about myself, what I want, and men than I would have if I’d just waited to meet men the “natural” way. I would have had far fewer dates since I work alone from home, and my work doesn’t allow me to date my clients. So online dating has been worth it for me.

Dating Goddess
Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40
http://www.DatingGoddess.com

]]> By: mssinglemama http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/comment-page-1/#comment-67 mssinglemama Wed, 19 Mar 2008 02:11:50 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=66#comment-67 Awesome post! It's true ... most of the online dating sites are scams. E-Harmony for example keeps profiles up long after the users have become inactive. Sigh. Awesome post! It’s true … most of the online dating sites are scams. E-Harmony for example keeps profiles up long after the users have become inactive. Sigh.

]]> By: dadshouse http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/comment-page-1/#comment-68 dadshouse Tue, 18 Mar 2008 15:38:02 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=66#comment-68 Great question. How do single parents meet adults for dating? (And how many do we have to meet?) Like you, I lead a busy life, with work, kids, cycling, cooking dinner. When I was internet dating, I was putting effort in every single day to try to meet women online. While internet dating did make it easy to meet people, it was exhausting trying to find a good match. Looking back, my best and longest lasting relationships arose mainly from meeting people off-line - friends' parties, neighborhood barbecues, professional contacts, coffee houses, being set up. So, how am I meeting women? I'm not actively searching right now. I'm going through my days with an open mind and a positive attitude and letting life unfold. Great question. How do single parents meet adults for dating? (And how many do we have to meet?) Like you, I lead a busy life, with work, kids, cycling, cooking dinner. When I was internet dating, I was putting effort in every single day to try to meet women online. While internet dating did make it easy to meet people, it was exhausting trying to find a good match.

Looking back, my best and longest lasting relationships arose mainly from meeting people off-line – friends’ parties, neighborhood barbecues, professional contacts, coffee houses, being set up.

So, how am I meeting women? I’m not actively searching right now. I’m going through my days with an open mind and a positive attitude and letting life unfold.

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/03/18/be-wary-of-dating-expert-advice-sites/comment-page-1/#comment-70 singlemomseeking Tue, 18 Mar 2008 14:50:13 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=66#comment-70 Well said. But please enlighten us: how are you meeting women?... Seriously, between this week's parent-teacher conference, my full-time editing job, maybe working out at the women's gym, helping the kid with homework... I want to know. Well said. But please enlighten us: how are you meeting women?… Seriously, between this week’s parent-teacher conference, my full-time editing job, maybe working out at the women’s gym, helping the kid with homework… I want to know.

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