Comments on: Single Parent, Empty House, Full Life

By: sway

sway — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 20:32:48 +0000

So, Im looking online to get some advice.. technology age, advice and shared experiences are so readily available. I am, or have been a single mom. My son is now moved out, and I am totally lost. I have just completed a 3 year diploma and can’t find work in a primarily french / bilingual city and seriously considering moving. I feel like such an experienced fish out of water its ridiculous. I have no friends in the same boat as me, I am paddling alone. Though I have friends for support and family, they just dont understand and I am starting to feel like the “needy” one. I have always been strong and independent. Health issues have struck me down ( fibromyalgia, anxiety, IBS) and so I am limited in my abilities. I just got rid of my dog who I had for 5 years and now, am truly on my own. I have travelled the world and know that wherever you go, you go with you. Meaning I feel like I have been there done that, and that and that and that.. so whats left for me? this is the question. Also I dont have a job right now, so occupying yourself with stuff that usually costs money is not an option… alone, broke, lost and running out of hope… yikes…

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:52:03 +0000

SDMktg – it took years to get used to it. It took a lot of spiritual inward looking to pull off (by spiritual, I don’t mean religious). i.e. that even if you’re by yourself, you’re not “alone”. We’re all in this universe together, each of us interconnected. Plus – nothing in life has any intrinsic meaning. The meaning exists in our minds, and is different for every person based on their life experiences. Which means: if you’re alone, it doesn’t mean anything except that you’re alone.

All that said, I miss sleeping with a woman! I love when I have a girlfriend to curl up next to and spoon. The in-between relationship times are tough. But manageable.

By: SDMktg

SDMktg — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:38:22 +0000

How long did it take before you got used to the nights alone? My split was 3 1/2 years ago and though I spend most of my nights without them with my girlfriend the handful of nights she's busy and I'm alone still give me that uneasy feeling. When the night actually comes along it's never that bad and time passes quickly but I always dread it and end up trying to find friends or family to fill the void so I'm not alone in my empty apartment. I guess learning to be truly alone with yourself is a pretty key piece of the journey. SDMktg's last blog post..NFL Week 3 Tailgating Menu - Tri Tip Sandwiches with Grilled Onions and Peppers

By: amygirl29

amygirl29 — Sat, 10 May 2008 03:37:31 +0000

Yeah, the whole thing is just plain wierd. We’re avoiding doing the paperwork because it’s just so final, but it’s inevitable. So I appreciate your site. You seem to have your head on straight about the whole thing and I like your writing.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Fri, 09 May 2008 05:36:58 +0000

Hey, thanks. Glad you like the site. Divorce is tough, I know what you’re going through. As such, I hope to amuse, inform, entertain, and provide the occasional voyeuristic thrill. Life after divorce is interesting, to say the least, but it can be happy, healthy, and fulfilling.

By: amygirl29

amygirl29 — Thu, 08 May 2008 02:56:29 +0000

I just found your blog–lots of great ideas. I’m 3 weeks out on my own and am in that “what is my identity without the kids” place. I never thought of eating at the bar alone at a restaurant. I think that’s one I’ll try. I’m not interested in dating yet, but that doesn’t mean I want to sit at home by myself either. Good site!

By: Mac

Mac — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 08:31:34 +0000

when my son is w/ his mom, I’m out- dinners, movies, hanging-out w/ other singles- when I get home, I read or talk to people on the phone- after that, I’m usually sleepy and fall off to sleep.