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Dating & Parenting by a Single Dad

Grilling With Grandpa

grilling BBQ tri-tip steak with grandpaMy parents were in town last night and planned to meet me and my kids for dinner. Usually when they visit we eat in a nice restaurant. (My parents always offer to treat, and somehow that never gets old.) But last night, with Bay Area weather as warm as it was, I offered to BBQ.

Perfect. While Grandma and Grandpa took my son swimming at their hotel pool, and my daughter coached a soccer practice, I ran to the grocery store. (For some reason, I once again had an empty fridge. I swear a teenager eats for ten.)

I grabbed some vegetables and a pre-marinated tri-tip steak. Tri-tip comes as one big hunk of meat, and usually takes 45 minutes to cook (the grilling instructions on the label back me up on that point.) I fired up the barbecue and got the meat cooking, pronto.

Back in the kitchen, I mixed a perfect gin martini. I would have waited for my parents to arrive before shaking cocktails, but my dad was dead-set on getting himself a beer from the hotel’s complimentary Happy Hour. (Crappy beer, he admits, but hey, free is free.)

Then I got to work – chopping tomatoes and garlic for bruschetta, marinating asparagus in olive oil and balsamic vinegar, peeling potatoes and setting them to boil for mashing. Half an hour into the cooking, everyone showed up.

“Want me to check on the meat?” Grandpa asked.
“If you want,” I said. “Everything’s timed to be done in fifteen minutes.”
I was sipping my martini when he came in from the backyard.

“It’s medium rare,” he said.
“Already?” I asked. The potatoes weren’t even boiling yet.
“I cut into it. It’s pink inside”
“Well then, we better get it off the grill,” I said.
“Even if you take it off, it will keep cooking,” he said.
“All the more reason to get it off now. We aren’t eating for fifteen minutes.”

My dad got the meat off the grill and brought it inside.

“It’s medium now,” he announced. “It’ll be well-done by dinner time.”
Sigh. All of us like our steaks medium to medium-rare.

“You could slice it and let the heat out,” Grandma offered.
Great idea! I sliced while Grandpa watched.

“Look at that – it’s already well-done,” Grandpa said. “It’ll be black char by the time we eat.”

Why my martini didn’t kick in and put me in a more relaxed mood, I’ll never know. But at this point, I sort of lost it. “There’s not a whole lot I can do about it,” I said. “And having you say dinner’s going to be terrible doesn’t help!”

Grandpa smiled, not missing a beat. “I didn’t say it would be terrible. I grew up in the Midwest. We overcooked everything! Why, I remember as a boy eating meat so overcooked it could have been an old shoe!”

How is it that parents know just what to say? Somehow, that actually made me feel better.

Please pass the salt. It’s over there, next to the shoelace…

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April 18th, 2008 Posted in family, home, life, parenting | 4 comments

No More Bottom Dwelling… Dad’s House Bumped to Top of Alltop

Dad\'s House single parent blog bumped to top of AlltopAfter a few weeks of lurking at the bottom of Alltop, the blog collection that brings you All the Top Stories, All the Time, Dad’s House was bumped to the top of the dads list, featured in the first few rows. This is great for single dads and single parents!

A goal of my blog is to let the world know that single fathers are perfectly capable of caring for children and running a household solo. I have half-time custody and teens in the house, so my issues are different than, say, a solo mother with full-time custody of a toddler. But there’s tons of common ground between me and other single parents - dating, relationships, parenting concerns. In eight years of divorce, I have a lot of experience with modern dating. Believe me, it’s different. (This isn’t your father’s Olds Mobile that we’re hooking up in… um, what’s your name again?)

Single parents are parents, and our voice needs to be heard. And it’s being heard, with Lori Gottlieb’s recent single-parent-themed book and movie deals, Tina Fey’s new movie Baby Mama, writers and bloggers like Quest for T and Single Mom Seeking (high up on the Alltop moms list).

Then again, after my rant against Alltop’s number one blog, Dad Gone Mad, maybe they moved me up to keep a better eye on me…

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April 18th, 2008 Posted in parenting | 3 comments