Comments on: MySpace, Facebook, Yahoo IM – How Do Parents Eavesdrop Anymore? http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/05/30/myspace-facebook-yahoo-im-how-do-parents-eavesdrop-anymore/ Single Parent Dating, Raising Children, Parenting Teens Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:03:21 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Craig http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/05/30/myspace-facebook-yahoo-im-how-do-parents-eavesdrop-anymore/comment-page-1/#comment-19948 Craig Thu, 12 Nov 2009 23:34:57 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=210#comment-19948 Obviously, by all the participation you have had on this topic, it is definitely a hot button issue. I have been struggling with my 14 yo son and all the texts, myspace, etc. The thing that struck me hardest was when I realized that this behavior is no different than mine was at that age. The difference is that it was easy for me to "hide" it from my parents. When around adults, we "turned off" the cussing, dirty jokes, etc. My parents had it easy...they were simply ignorant! Now that I am a parent, this normal teen behavior is right in front of me. (I check his texts, emails, and myspace often) but I am now forced to decide how much to let slide as "normal" boy behavior, and what deserves discipline. Do I get on to him for having a text conversation about condoms? Do I call the parents of the girl who puts lewd jokes on her myspace? .-= Craig´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.internaldrive.com/2009/11/09/halloween-fun-at-id-tech-camps/" rel="nofollow">Halloween Fun at iD Tech Camps!</a> =-. Obviously, by all the participation you have had on this topic, it is definitely a hot button issue. I have been struggling with my 14 yo son and all the texts, myspace, etc. The thing that struck me hardest was when I realized that this behavior is no different than mine was at that age. The difference is that it was easy for me to “hide” it from my parents. When around adults, we “turned off” the cussing, dirty jokes, etc. My parents had it easy…they were simply ignorant! Now that I am a parent, this normal teen behavior is right in front of me. (I check his texts, emails, and myspace often) but I am now forced to decide how much to let slide as “normal” boy behavior, and what deserves discipline. Do I get on to him for having a text conversation about condoms? Do I call the parents of the girl who puts lewd jokes on her myspace?
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]]> By: dadshouse http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/05/30/myspace-facebook-yahoo-im-how-do-parents-eavesdrop-anymore/comment-page-1/#comment-701 dadshouse Tue, 03 Jun 2008 22:22:18 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=210#comment-701 Andrew - that's an interesting post on your blog. As a parent I see social networking as a way for kids to do crazy stuff under the parenting radar, and as a hiring manager you see it as a way for that crazy stuff publicly bite them on the butt. I think it will force us all to shift out thinking, and perhaps make people more tolerant since they can see stuff you've been through. Andrew – that’s an interesting post on your blog. As a parent I see social networking as a way for kids to do crazy stuff under the parenting radar, and as a hiring manager you see it as a way for that crazy stuff publicly bite them on the butt. I think it will force us all to shift out thinking, and perhaps make people more tolerant since they can see stuff you’ve been through.

]]> By: Andrew Hull http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/05/30/myspace-facebook-yahoo-im-how-do-parents-eavesdrop-anymore/comment-page-1/#comment-700 Andrew Hull Tue, 03 Jun 2008 21:52:58 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=210#comment-700 David- Your post is timely and right on. I was just commenting on a similar topic about the impacts of Facebook, MySpace, Twitter on our young kids. I am already running across it when hiring "millennials" entering the workforce. There is so little separation between their work and social lives. http://fatherhoodandbeyond.wordpress.com/2008/06/02/why-technology-matters-to-parents/ David-

Your post is timely and right on. I was just commenting on a similar topic about the impacts of Facebook, MySpace, Twitter on our young kids. I am already running across it when hiring “millennials” entering the workforce. There is so little separation between their work and social lives.

http://fatherhoodandbeyond.wordpress.com/2008/06/02/why-technology-matters-to-parents/

]]> By: optimisticmama http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/05/30/myspace-facebook-yahoo-im-how-do-parents-eavesdrop-anymore/comment-page-1/#comment-699 optimisticmama Fri, 30 May 2008 18:41:04 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=210#comment-699 "That would be Stealth with a capital S, which rhymes with Clueless, and that stands for Dad." I'm still laughing! Pretty sure I'll be in the same boat if this past weekend is any evidence of future events. My almost 7yr old son sat whispering and laughing with a group of about 5 friends at the pool....what I wouldn't have given to know what they talked about for 30 minutes so secretively! Hopefully I've got more than a few years before the texting, IMing, Facebook issues. Until then, I've got to make sure to keep communication with him open so that I can trust him to do the right thing, as it seems you are able to do with your daughter. So important! It really is scary to think that you don't know who your kids are communicating with, makes staying involved in their lives even more critical. You have to know their friends, understand what they're interested in, and have them know you care about what they do. More evidence of the importance of an involved Dad in their lives! “That would be Stealth with a capital S, which rhymes with Clueless, and that stands for Dad.” I’m still laughing!
Pretty sure I’ll be in the same boat if this past weekend is any evidence of future events. My almost 7yr old son sat whispering and laughing with a group of about 5 friends at the pool….what I wouldn’t have given to know what they talked about for 30 minutes so secretively!
Hopefully I’ve got more than a few years before the texting, IMing, Facebook issues. Until then, I’ve got to make sure to keep communication with him open so that I can trust him to do the right thing, as it seems you are able to do with your daughter. So important! It really is scary to think that you don’t know who your kids are communicating with, makes staying involved in their lives even more critical. You have to know their friends, understand what they’re interested in, and have them know you care about what they do. More evidence of the importance of an involved Dad in their lives!

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