Comments on: Eight Great Ways to Meet Someone New

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 16:28:45 +0000

Kat – I think that’s part of the point I made earlier about Santa Barbara. For some reason I find it incredibly easy to chat women up down there. Maybe it’s the beach vibe. Maybe people aren’t as stressed about work or getting ahead.

One major difference, NO ONE there ever asks “what do you do for work?” It’s a taboo subject. Here in Silicon Valley, you’ll find that out before you learn a person’s name. So, yeah, I think people have forgotten how to chat/flirt on a human level, at least here in Silicon Valley.

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 15:29:49 +0000

I think I’ll just let the whole “banana” conversation go without comment from the cathouse. ;)

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 15:29:11 +0000

Whether a man calls me a lady or a girl or whatever entirely depends on his charm and delivery. I have had a person call me girl or lady in a very demeaning way, yet someone can call me a bitch (among other things) and I will take it as nothing but an endearment.

So words aren’t really the key. There are some who take offense to certain words, but that is their problem. And were I a man, I would honestly want nothing to do with a woman who shuts me down at the get-go because I called her a lady (or a girl) and it’s a term she hates.

It’s all in good fun. And if a woman can’t respond in good fun, then I would take it as a sign that she needs to be moved right on past. A good sense of humor is ESSENTIALLY attractive.

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 13:25:55 +0000

Never buy any other kind of banana; I’ve heard stories ….!

But … do men and/or women not know how to meet people the old-fashioned way? Have we forgotten (or never learned) how to flirt and chat someone up?

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 06:39:11 +0000

It’s premeditated because a high value woman (whatever that means to the man – beauty, intellect, sexiness, financial status, whatever) – renders some men incapable of thought. And so we program our tiny little brains with 8 opening lines for 8 situations, and let the organics be divisible into a finite number of responses that hides our inability to function at that moment.

I jest, of course. But seriously – I’m not shy, I have a ton of nerve, I’m pretty darn direct, and I can still be rendered dumb-struck by a woman.

And besides, too many people rely on the internet to meet these days. I’m just trying to encourage folks to get out there in real life, make some eye contact, smile and say hello.

My kids love organic bananas, btw.

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 06:29:16 +0000

Well, maybe it’s just me but I have to wonder why does it have to be so … premeditated?

Can’t it be organic, and relate to whatever’s happening in the moment?

Or is that just a local, organic, sustainable, fair-trade, Zen Marin thing?

And, for the record, I am a lady, girl, woman, lady, whore and “love thang” — and other things — whenever appropriate. And, of course, organic.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 04:00:42 +0000

SingleWorkingMommy – you know, actually, I noticed you across the blogosphere… (is it working?)

Cara – welcome back! Missed you. (And your rockin legs)

Kristin – maybe huddling, chain-smoking cougars are exactly my kind of girls/ladies/females/xx/women! (not)

(can you all tell I’m in a good mood tonight?)

btw – when my daughter, who is 16, plays soccer, all the parents on the sideline say stuff like “let’s go, ladies!”, to empower them as women. We’ve been doing it since they were 12 or so. The girls just roll their eyes… (Then again, tell that to the University of Tennessee Lady Volunteers)

You all can call me Dude. My kids certainly do.