Did the same thing w/ my daughter. And her friends. While all the other parents screamed “Don’t have sex or I will KILL you,” I told all the girls the best reason to wait is so they aren’t allowing some guy to wack off on/in them (sounds nasty, but it’s true). Sex is for two, both parties should find pleasure. Meet someone who cares enough to know you should have fun too (girls were very impressed with this knowledge no one had bestowed upon them).

Second was the info on where to obatain free birth control/pill/condoms for when that “special” time came. And of course the VD thing.

Then I bought some excellent sex books (the kind with real photos but non-porno type pictures) and left them in hidden places I knew my daughter would stumble upon. We never discussed it, but I know she read them cover to cover.

She seems very happy in her 4 year relationship w/ the live in boyfriend. She doesn’t say much, but you can read them and see their sex life is good.

I think you are asking about the emotional/pscyhological aspect of masturbation, i.e. that it is a normal healthy thing. We touched on that a bit, so she knows it’s not taboo. But honestly, I don’t know if this part of the discussion should come from a parent. My dad covered this topic when my brothers and I were growing up, and I remember it creeped me out hearing it from him. I tried very hard to approach this with my daughter in a non-creepy fashion.

My kid is only seven, but with all the (wrong) info out there that she might run across, I feel that the earlier she is well-informed, the better. Like you, I take an honest approach, and don’t gloss over many topics.

I realize that your posting was from last year, but it’s still such an important topic.

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