Comments on: Single Mom Seeking Shares a Child’s View on Dating and Partnership

By: MAMMA

MAMMA — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 18:49:01 +0000

I am a single mom of a sweet and spunky seven year old girl. We have been on our own for the past 5 years after it became apparent that her dad and I were better friends/coparents than a couple. So, up until the past year (when she turned six)we were content as the two of us. Then, I decided to start dating and now, am happily engaged to a wonderful man. We are going through several adjustments in order to all be together. We have to move an hour away, change her school, sell our home and she’s having some minor issues with this but, for the most part she is a trooper and seems to be doing well. I was getting very comfortable with our duo and in some ways will actually be sad for things to change even though I know it is for the better. Besides regular contact with her father, she has had positive male role models with my dad, brother and my step father. Anyone else been through this same transition? any suggestions to making it a smooth transition?

By: Hip_M0M

Hip_M0M — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 05:39:01 +0000

I keep asking myself this same question so it’s good to know that when I get to be 36 – and the answer is still not clear – that I won’t be alone in my situation.

My son is not yet 5 years old so I’m not in any hurry to change my situation. For now, after dark is just fine but I look forward to being pleasantly surprised when I find someone to spend time with at any time of day!

Thanks for the post, Rachel!

By: mad cartoonist

mad cartoonist — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 01:07:17 +0000

My children’s father is living with his long-term GF–so, whew, my kids never ask about us getting back together.

But my kids do assume with every man I’m dating that he’ll quickly move in with us (like the GF did with their Dad). Yes, yes, I wait 6 months before introducing the guy I’m dating to my children. But still, there’s been a few. And my kids are clear that this disappoints them–they’d like to have a father-type living with us, it’s clear.

By: Rebekah

Rebekah — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 20:05:53 +0000

Thank you!!!

By: Single Mom Seeking

Single Mom Seeking — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 05:35:08 +0000

Rebekah, these changes in my maturing kid are very recent. Up until a year ago, she was only interested in herself… Hold true to what you want in life. Really. Wishing you the best.

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:25:23 +0000

This is such a darling post. Ah, the children.

My son, at age twelve, would FREAK if a man even considered flirting with me. But he’s gotten past that. He didn’t want to. Although he does like seeing me happy. :)

By: Rebekah

Rebekah — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:54:47 +0000

I’ve been a single mom for less than half the time you have and when you say it gets easier I’m going to have to take your word for it. This past week has been hell.

And as much as I beleive my son and I would be fine without a long term man, I would love to get married again, I’d even love another child, but I feel like the longer I go without doing it… the slimmer my chances are.

My son never asks where I am going or with whom. He only cares about where he is going when I am out, his dad’s house, his grandma’s, or his aunt’s.