Comments on: Great Books for Relationship and Divorce Advice

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 14:14:08 +0000

One more for those who consider relationships, including their end, a pathway to spiritual growth: Check out the work of Paul and Layne Cutright (PaulandLayne.com). They have a huge library of books, audio, video, etc. On the home page itself is a brief bit of video on the 5 stages of relationship, the last of which is completion. It’s a great intro to their stuff and should give anyone who looks at it an idea of whether they want to investigate further.

By: Hip_M0M

Hip_M0M — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 05:34:03 +0000

David,

I purchased many more books on divorce than I ever sat down to read. The ones that truly helped me were:

We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce
by Constance Ahrons, PhD

The Good Divorce
by Constance Ahrons, PhD

Why Do I Love These People?: Honest and Amazing Stories of Real Families
by Po Bronson

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
by Pema Chodron

Reconcilable Differences
by Cate Cochran

I reviewed some of these on my site but my favorite, thus far is the last one I mentioned. It focuses on several families who allowed me to change the way I look at divorce. I encourage everyone to read it!

By: swngl.chick

swngl.chick — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 01:24:18 +0000

I found Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford to be a very comforting and inspirational book on how to deal with the ending of relationships.

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 23:28:40 +0000

For awhile, I think I read every friggin’ self-help book out there — to the point that Amazon was “suggesting” what I might be interested in next! Hey, I thought, Amazon you don’t really know me that well after all.

Then I realized reading is great, but having tools to change the behaviors were more helpful … and then, you have to do them!

And that’s generally the problem; we feel empowered reading the books and then do almost the same stuff with the next person. I didn’t really get my act together until I went on an intensive retreat for a week. Now I’m, well, perfect!

;-)

By: Single Mom in New England

Single Mom in New England — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 18:32:22 +0000

Thanks for the wonderful reading suggestions. My 3 year old son will be going on vacation with his dad the third week of August, so I’ll be sure to catch up on some valuable reading then!!
Two other books I thought I would mention that I’ve enjoyed reading are “Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex” by Julie Ross, and “Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an EX Who Drives You Crazy” by Jeffrey Wittman. (Gee, can you tell what’s going on in my life?) Both of these book have you explore who you are and why you respond the way you do to certain situations – enlightening stuff as we take the journey of evolving as individuals and single parents!

By: The Exception

The Exception — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 17:46:47 +0000

A Return to Love is definitely worth reading! I am sure that your kids have benefited from your reading and all that you have learned.

By: Lance

Lance — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 17:44:41 +0000

I read a lot too to get over my relationship issues. Different from divorce, but no less significant. Here's my list: 1. The Game, by Neil Strauss. Excellent entry point for people interested in attraction science and social artistry. 2. Double Your Dating, by David DeAngelo. 3. Way of the Superior Man & Blue Truth, both by David Deida. Both books had a profound affect on my perception of masculinity and relationships. 4. The Power of Now. 5. Transformations, a DVD product from Real Social Dynamics. 6. Listened to free video about relationship ownership and sex by Johnny Soporno. Again, changed my world view. 7. Reading zillions of blogs and forums, including this one.