Comments on: Taking Third-Date Sex to a New Extreme

By: PT-LawMom

PT-LawMom — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 00:01:44 +0000

Ugh. Sounds like the tables were turned in this particular situation. Been there. Sorry babe. PT-LawMom´s last blog post..Santa Bribery

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 06:57:07 +0000

Expectations and preference are two different things. Not sure why your head is spinning. Hope it doesn’t fly off.

By: organizizer

organizizer — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 06:13:58 +0000

“I didn’t expect anything, but had we at some point both chosen to date exclusively, then I’d prefer she only slept with me.”

I thought you said she clearly told you – as soon as you asked – that she would not choose to date exclusively. Sounds as if you wanted someone to sleep only with you, no matter what they had agreed to.

The contradictions in your words make my head spin. You claim you didn’t expect anything, but paint an excruciatingly clear picture of disappointed expectations. Makes me wonder: Are you being entirely honest with yourself?

If you do not bring up the things that are important to you, then *you* – and you alone – are responsible for your lack of knowledge (and whatever expectations you project into that void).

It never ceases to amaze me, the sheer volume of important things Americans assume, instead of talking about. And I was born here!

By: supermom

supermom — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 11:58:13 +0000

Such an innocent girl I am. I didn’t know date 3 was ‘the’ date.
Sorry it worked out the way it did.

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 23:48:00 +0000

I have to say I’m kind of bummed reading that, and the way it turned out for you, being a singularly focused, longer-term minded kind of gal. Apparently I didn’t get the memo!

(Although I’m not Brazilian, don’t have a brazilian, and don’t live in the Valley, so I guess I’m ok. Or just lame ;) )

By: Relationships-Sex

Relationships-Sex — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 01:57:27 +0000

David, this is the first time that I have come across your website and I really enjoyed reading this story…so much of it rings true after having lived in San Francisco many years. The idea of girls who embrace sexual freedom is much better than girls who actually embrace sexual freedom…especially if you really like them.

I had a similar experience with a great girl from Chicago. Here’s that story entitled One Thing a Woman Should Never Divulge: http://www.thisishowyoudoit.com/blog/women-should-not-say/

Keep up the great posts! Take care,
Richard

By: QTMama

QTMama — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 18:40:30 +0000

Third Date is when the sex comes? REALLY?

Damn. I hope he didn’t think that. ;)

And onto the other parts of the post … if it’s her culture to have multiple lovers, ok so be it. But if you want her all to yourself, it’s completely fair too. And sadly, there isn’t much room for compromise here. *hugs*