Offload, my daughter had just turned 2 when her father and I split, we also had a 6 year old and 8 year old (both boys). I can tell you from personal experience, it’s not too young to have her share two homes. We seperated 9 years ago and initially started sharing the kids with the same arrangmenet as Dad’s House (we now do week about). It was harder on her older brothers than it was on her. How well she transitions will be completely dependant upon how well you and your ex react to the transition. Completely. You have every right to spend as much time with your daughter as her mother. Not alot of Mom’s agree with me on that and I expect I’ll get a shitload of hatemail for publicly saying it. Can I suggest showing her some blogs of parents who have this type of arrangement? Cheers!
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My girlfriend and I have a 3 year old child together and recently I decided the relationship had to end. Her depression, anger and mean spirit have just ruined my happiness and I can’t allow our daughter to see us fight anymore.

When we found out we were pregnant I made her and her family a promise that I would take care of my girlfriend and my daughter and that they wouldn’t have to worry about anything. She wanted to be a stay at home mom and I supported her in that. I worked hard and busted my butt so that she could stay at home and raise our daughter. I’ve financially supported us all for over three years and now I think she’s holding that against me.

I haven’t talked to a lawyer or anyone because I want to believe that we can handle this out of court and the idea of someone else telling us how to raise our daughter kills me. Basically it comes down to this: I want half custody or as close as possible to it. I think a week on a week off is a bit hard on a three year old but something like a 4 day 3 day rotating kinda schedule would be ok. She feels that because she has been the stay at home mom all of the child’s life that it would be too hard on my daughter to be apart from her mommy that much. Her opening “offer” was that I should only get her every other weekend and maybe one over night during the week. To me that’s impossible. She did say I could come over and see her whenever I wanted but it’s important to me I get set days and set over nights. I am so very close with my daughter and have been as much an important part in her life as her mommy. What should I do? Is it too hard on a 3 year old to be away from her mommy too much? Is it traumatic to be split between 2 homes this early? What rights do I have? I just want what’s fair and best for my daughter. I think it’s fair that both parents get to see her equally but my girlfriend is convinced that being split between two homes is worse for our daughter and it’s better for her to live with her mommy most of the time.

What do I do?

At what time is the other parent responsible to pick-up the child?

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