Comments on: Relationship Compatibility

By: Lance

Lance — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 23:46:35 +0000

DM, nice post. Perhaps a little unfortunately, I think you have to be practical minded about your relationships, almost to the point where the pragmatism trumps everything else. As we get older it’s seems to get harder to find compatibility with anyone as our lives complicate.

By: orangeninja76

orangeninja76 — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 21:53:51 +0000

Very good advice.

Great post!

By: QTMama

QTMama — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 16:41:15 +0000

Great Post DH. Seriously. Having just started seeing someone myself, I am now wondering at what life stage he’s in. GREAT. Thanks. ;)

By: lisaq

lisaq — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 10:24:28 +0000

Oh so true! I dated a guy who had never been married and had no kids but still wanted them. My youngest was a senior in high school then. Starting over with more babies was the last thing on Earth I wanted. You’ve got to be in the same place. And Kat Wilder is right…you have to know from the beginning.

By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 03:35:58 +0000

Dating is always better when we’re clear about what we want, regardless of our age and circumstance.

Looking to get married? Gotta weed out the booty calls.

Looking to have booty calls? Be honest about it, and whoever hangs around is in on it, too. Enjoy!

Got kids and want to have a relationship but no more kids? Gotta look for someone who wants the same.

I think we could all save ourselves a little heartache if we named it from the get-go, instead of trying to shoehorn people we have chemistry with into something they don’t want, and vice versa.

Or, instead of trying to replicate what we had — man, women, kids, house, car, dog — we create new ways of being with someone. I believe you can still have an intimate, loving monogamous relationship that doesn’t look like a 1960s family TV sitcom. Just a thought …

By: Jorge Fitz-Gibbon

Jorge Fitz-Gibbon — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 02:40:33 +0000

Ok, I’ve been there. I’ve dated for all the right reasons — gorgeous, smart, funny, independent and self-assured women. But the formula changed when I had a kid. I slipped once or twice, but it’s just gotta be about the kid when he or she comes into the picture. And the “I wanted to date a guy who had a kid” reason just pisses me off.
Just my two cents.

By: Tonya

Tonya — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 21:15:53 +0000

This post almost reminds me of Lisa Kudrow’s character in P.S. I love you. She always had questions right up front. Hilarious stuff.

Yeah, its when we date the ones who don’t work out that we realize all the things we should’ve thought about up front. But hey, at least you had a good time right?!

Never regret anything that once made you smile. (Or come. Yeah, I said it.) ;)