Comments on: Where’s the Romance?

By: Me Thinks

Me Thinks — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 17:12:54 +0000

Great post and intersting discussion. I for one would not at all think that you are all about booty calls but, hell, its fact of life that it happens to nearly everyone on one level or another, just cause its 3rd date doesn’t make it meaningful!. All I have to say is: Keep up the bad dates and booty calls and flirty texts, it sure as hell makes for great reading! Ha!

Seriously, the point about fishing in the wrong lake (or car analogy or whatever) may be a valid one but it, to me, has nothing to do with getting a little action when you meet someone you click with on some level even if you know its not LTR potential.

And personally I think its sweet that you don’t blog about some of the “meaningful relationships”, obviously they are still “meaningful” enough to you to protect them and maybe down the road those will be topics you want to share, who knows.

By: Lia

Lia — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:41:57 +0000

I try to remember, while reading your blog, that you are writing to a certain theme. I don’t think that your whole life is about finding “booty” or “love” or “romance” whatever you call it. HOWEVER, if I stumbled here without knowing you I would think it was all about the sex. This is exactly why the night you met some SVMoms we offered you the KY from the swag bag. Seemed to all of us that was what you were about. I know now that isn’t the truth but your blog sometimes makes it seem that way.

By: t

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 13:07:12 +0000

I rarely comment and am mostly a lurker, but I’m going to say that I kind of adore that you are out living life! Falling in love as a single parent has a lot of twists, turns and bumps along the way. My best friend and now former single mom just married a great guy that was supposed to be a one night fling just a few days before Christmas three years ago. I helped her meet him at a concert that I dragged her to. He had just finalized his divorce two weeks before that fateful night. Neither one was looking for love as they were recovering from heartbreak. The path their relationship took was far from simple to get to marriage, but they have made it work. Now they are raising five kids together and life is still complicated. And yes, the band they met seeing played the wedding reception. So keep living life because your never going to meet some fab lady worth your great words and love if you don’t put yourself out there. Adventurous guys will meet adventurous women because that is just how we live.

By: Ruth

Ruth — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 10:52:16 +0000

Don’t worry about everyone trying to figure you out. They only see a smattering of your ideas in theses posts, and then they react based on their own perspectives. You sound like an interesting chap.

By: NewWrldYankee

NewWrldYankee — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 05:11:14 +0000

Ok, so I read this entry yesterday and didn’t comment because what you said about yourself was obvious from the beginning. I figured you didn’t write about good dates and relationships because of privacy reasons, like your two v. serious relationships. But bad dates and booty calls are free game to blogging! So of course, in your blog, there would be a disproportional amount of those stories in your dating repertoire. And I don’t think you write that many actually, it’s just that you link back to that entry quite a few times, so it gives the impression that you write about it a lot, because the words booty call appear time and again. Is this such a big deal?!

I think often times people forget that a blog is merely a slice of life, and that when you ask a Q, we can only answer based on the slice we know. That being said, your true intent and sentiment does tend to peek through even in booty call entries. In any case, It’s apparently a good thing you wrote this entry, because it seems like ppl had the wrong idea about you. Here’s to hoping the air is clear in here. =)

By: Occam's Razor

Occam's Razor — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:44:10 +0000

“You seem really concerned with how people perceive me (which I assume means you worry how people perceive you.) ”

Nah, not so much on the second half. It’s my wife’s biggest gripe. ;-)

And as for caring about how people perceive you… again, not so much. Just wanting good things for you.

By: loriann

loriann — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 23:33:42 +0000

I’ve been thinking and I’d like to add the following: I’m a few years ahead of you in the child rearing ~ my youngest is 21, has not lived at home for two years now. I think when we are busy raising our children they are our priority. We don’t always take the time to nurture ourselves, whether we believe we deserve “more” or not. A booty call is a quick fix ~ as established; it does feel so good in the moment. When our baby chicks have flown the coop we are left with ourselves. Time to focus inward and find what it is we truly want ~ time to nurture ourselves. I think it goes back to timing ~ relationship compatibility ~ and what we personally are able to juggle such as children, extended family, work, the kids extra curricular activities, chauffeur duties ~ and the like.

As some of your other readers have expressed, I’m not wired for casual. Maybe to emotional ~ I like to think passionate. In the place that I’m at now I want more ~ and settling for less, though it may feel wonderful temporarily, I selfishly want more. I don’t pass judgment on you for reaching out and finding some adult contact ~ when so much energy goes towards giving we need to replenish ourselves with a little touch. I am in awe of those who are still raising children and are able to connect with another and find true love.