Woman of My Dreams, Manifested
My kids and I were in a Mexican restaurant when in through the door walked the woman of my dreams. Sexy, confident, attractive, with a smile that lit up the room. She had a vibrant energy that I couldn’t ignore. We locked eyes for a moment, then she and her girlfriend were seated across the room.
Not one week before, I’d put a request out to the universe for a single woman to enter my life. I visualized the woman I wanted when I played the game of life on 08/08/08, someone attractive, compassionate, intelligent, grounded, vibrant, fun, sexy, sweet. In the restaurant I couldn’t help but wonder if it was her in manifest form. She even had the dark hair and olive skin I preferred.
I stole glimpses of her throughout our meal. She wasn’t wearing a ring. More than once she caught me looking and returned my gaze with a smile. Finally, our eyes locked and we lazered intention. We had to meet.
The one time I tried picking up a woman in front of my son, she was sitting next to us at the bar and I started a casual conversation. This was far different – she was several tables away, sitting with a girlfriend, and I was with both of my kids. I thought about sending the waiter over with a note or some drinks, but that didn’t feel right. Like Hemingway’s Francis Macomber, I felt I needed to bag this lion myself.
But how?
By the end of our meal this woman and I had locked eyes enough that not meeting her would have been one of those missed chances to regret for a lifetime. Problem was, I still hadn’t figured out an approach. It’s not that easy to walk right up to someone’s table in a restaurant and introduce yourself, even with a sweet pick up line, especially with your kids watching.
I paid our check, and my kids were ready to go. “Hang on,” I said. “I need to use the restroom.”
On my way to the men’s room, I caught this woman’s eyes one more time. I was hoping she’d take the hint and get up from her table and head to the ladies room. We could easily meet out of site of her girlfriend and my kids. But she stayed put.
I didn’t want this story to end as one of those cowardly missed connection Craigslist posts. When I left the restroom, I mustered all my courage and headed straight for her table. She looked right at me with an expression that said she’d expected this. When I got to her table, she was alone; her girlfriend had gone to the ladies room, clearing the way for me.
“Hi,” I said. “I couldn’t help noticing you.”
She smiled. “I know.”
I chuckled, nervous, and told her my name. She told me hers. With my kids and her girlfriend waiting, there wasn’t much room for small talk. I got straight to the point.
“Can I buy you a drink sometime?” I asked.
“I’d love that,” she said.
Dang, that was easy.
“Can I get your number?” I asked. I didn’t have a pen. I reached for my cell phone.
She handed me a stiff scrap of paper, one of those Drink Specials cards from the table. On the back she’d already written her name and number. She’d been waiting for me, hoping I’d come over.
I smiled and thanked her and went back to my kids. They were talking and hadn’t even noticed my detour. “Ready to go?” I asked. I felt ecstatic. I tucked the card in my pocket.
As we left the restaurant, I looked back at the woman. Her girlfriend had rejoined her at the table. They were laughing and talking, no doubt sharing details of what had just occurred. Then the woman looked at me with her big vibrant smile, and waved.
Just like that, the woman of my dreams had manifested.
Part two of this story: Relationship Dating 101: First Meeting
Part three of this story: Rude Text Messages are Nicer Than This
Part four of this story: Perfectly Normal Date
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Comment by laurakim123
| August 25th, 2008
OH WOW!!!
WOW WOW!!! How totally cool is this!!! Exciting stuff!!!
Comment by NewWrldYankee
| August 25th, 2008
I’m so happy for you! I was wondering how you’d talk to her. I wish I had the guts to act on those chances I knew I’d miss otherwise. Let us know how it turns out?
Comment by lisaq
| August 25th, 2008
Go you! Nicely done. Like NewWrldYankee I’m wishing I had the guts! Can’t wait to hear how it turns out!
Comment by Single Mom in New England
| August 25th, 2008
Very exciting!! I’m impressed she had already written her number down for you. It’s sounds like she was ready to approach you, if you hadn’t gotten to her first!! And she had olive skin to boot!
Comment by The Exception
| August 25th, 2008
What a way to start my Monday!! Sparks flying and a huge smile…
I do hope you will share more…!
Comment by debra
| August 25th, 2008
How cool is this?! Wow! I’m hoping there is already more to this story and you are going to slowly torture us by withholding the rest! Awesome news!
Comment by Phil
| August 25th, 2008
Well played!
Comment by mama llama
| August 25th, 2008
Oh, YEA!!! May this manifest into something good for you.
I am going back to read about playing the game of life again.
Happy Monday! Be well.
Comment by Mel
| August 25th, 2008
AWESOME!! I wish these things would happen to me!
Comment by T
| August 25th, 2008
Well, of course she manifested, DH… ask and ye shall receive.
Ok, I’m not that positive!!
Woohoo!! What a great story. I look forward to part 2!
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| August 25th, 2008
Great story! That really is the name of the game. Be bold. Go to it!
Can’t wait to hear how this progresses………….
Comment by Veep Veep
| August 25th, 2008
Awwwwwwww!
Comment by Holly Hoffman
| August 25th, 2008
How unbelievably hot! This is definitely one to inspire and one you’ll be telling for ages. I’ll never forget picking a hot guy out of the crowd at a bar and the champion feeling of getting his number at the end of the night. We only dated for about 4 months, but we’re the best of friends now. Good luck, and I can’t wait to hear the progress!
Comment by Me Thinks
| August 25th, 2008
Wow, that is great. How long will you wait to call her? I always wonder why guys wait so long, personally I find the 3 days way too long but too fast is weird.
Now you just have to focus your positive energy on the non-physical part of her, I’m interested to see if that its close to what you are looking for.
Regardless of outcome, its great you were bold and made the approach in a potentially awkward situation. Nice work!
Comment by Writer Dad
| August 25th, 2008
Great story, well told. I can’t even imagine engaging a woman in front of my children. Good luck, I’ll think good thoughts.
Comment by dadshouse
| August 25th, 2008
Thanks for the props! I think my boldness came from the time I hit on a women in front of my son, starting a casual converation with a woman I didn’t know while my son was right there. The confidence I got from that experience made me more willing to stick my neck out with my kids around.
Plus, I really do have this huge desire to shift into a different phase of life, one that involves a woman full time.
I’m curious – why do you think she wrote her name and number ahead of time? That seems a little bold on her part, doesn’t it? Was she hoping I’d come over? Or did she have plans of giving me the card or sending it over with a waiter? I wonder how many of you women have written your contact info down ahead of time like that.
Comment by Mel
| August 25th, 2008
haha maybe they had an extremly hot waiter and the card with her number for for him….
Comment by loriann
| August 25th, 2008
Well done!
Intentions to the Universe shall be yours……I think I wrote that a week ago. I’m interested to read what ensues.
I hope your new beauty isn’t polyamorous…titillating suspense!
Comment by Susan
| August 25th, 2008
You go, D! I just think that’s so cool you did that and can’t wait to hear more…
Comment by Honey
| August 25th, 2008
Hooray, great story! Hope the date goes equally well…
Comment by mad cartoonist
| August 25th, 2008
Good for you! As a woman who has had men try to pick me up in public places, you’d get major points in my book for skipping the cheesy come-ons and being both direct and yet respectful.
Funny how so many men have no idea how most women would like to be approached.
Tell your buddies: we need a trend here!
Comment by debra
| August 25th, 2008
DH, that’s exactly why she wrote her number down, she was going to give it to you if you didn’t approach, and, yes, she was hoping you’d come over! You don’t actually think her friend coincidentally went to the ladies room, do you?!
Comment by Me Thinks
| August 25th, 2008
Agree with debra 100%. She had her number written down and was hoping you’d come over and was probably having the same debate as to whether she should approach you or not with your kids there. Definitely she sent her friend away!
I can’t wait to hear what happens when you call her.
Comment by Single Mom in New England
| August 25th, 2008
I don’t know if I would have the guts to do it, but after reading this blog, next time I’m going to try!! A bird in hand…
Comment by singlemomseeking
| August 25th, 2008
Wowie, wow, wow, as Junie B. Jones says! Can’t wait for part two!
David, since American men seem shyer than ever these days, I have written down my number and planned to pass it to him at an opportune moment. That must have been a great feeling, to know that she had the same intention.
Comment by Twenty Four At Heart
| August 25th, 2008
Great post. I love reading about your adventures.
I have a post on male/female communication today.
Sex.Lust.
Etc. I normally get a lot of male comments but I’m not on this. I want to know what MEN think.
Swing by if you get a chance ..
Comment by Shiona
| August 25th, 2008
So glad to hear that worked out. And I think she was having the same debate as you. Having the number down was probably a back up in case you didn’t come over. I’d like to think you would have ended up with her number one way or another. Is that too wishful?
Comment by mama llama
| August 25th, 2008
I have had my card out before in anticipation of meeting someone who obviously seemed interested. It doesn’t sound like you were very discreet in displaying your interest; we women are known for our gifts of perception.
I know you don’t kiss and tell. I assume if we don’t get any more good stories from you (at least for a while), we are to suppose that you two have hit it off!
Enjoy! Be well, and have fun.
Comment by rambleicious
| August 25th, 2008
Wow! What a gutsy move! I can’t wait to hear how it turns out!
Comment by Kitkat4real (SOLO dot MOM)
| August 25th, 2008
You make it seem so easy! Totally unbelievable! Can’t wait to hear how this turns out. You have my attention.
Comment by Lance
| August 25th, 2008
Excellent. See how those approaches and old “missed connections” builds your experience and trains you for future connections? That’s how it’s done.
BTW, I think she was going to give you that card. Women don’t write those things down unless they’re gonna do something with it.
Comment by aqilah
| August 26th, 2008
haha oh my god, so totally cool. all the best man!
Comment by Margi
| August 28th, 2008
I saw this and couldn’t HELP but comment (followed you over from Rachel’s blog).
She wrote her name and number down because she was trying to figure out a way to get it to you if you didn’t come over.
This is from the woman who stole my first kiss from my husband.
And left him sitting, stunned, in his car while I BOLTED to mine.
(Even more reticent women know how to put the ball in a man’s court if they think they should.) *grin*
Comment by The Exception
| September 12th, 2008
I found her!!! (for you of course) She was riding the metro from Arlington last night. She was nice, very attractive, light Olive complection – lighter than my daughter who has a tanned light olive complection. I looked at her and thought of you instantaniously!
The Exception’s last blog post..Goggles
Comment by Leah
| October 19th, 2008
I love this story. How inspiring. I am trying to let go of my need to know what happened next, and just enjoy the story itself. :) In life, whether online or real-time, we’re always leaning into the next thing, aren’t we?
Leah´s last blog post..I keep writing no matter what.