Comments on: Failed Marriage or Success? http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/ Dating & Parenting by a Single Dad Sat, 07 Nov 2009 23:25:09 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: donna http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-11327 donna Wed, 11 Feb 2009 08:46:28 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-11327 definitely, sometimes ending a marriage is positive growth. definitely, sometimes ending a marriage is positive growth.

]]> By: lisaq http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-1967 lisaq Wed, 27 Aug 2008 11:22:08 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-1967 Very nicely put! I know that, in my case, the failed marriages definitely facilitated change and growth...a definite evolution. Very nicely put! I know that, in my case, the failed marriages definitely facilitated change and growth…a definite evolution.

]]> By: Hip_M0M http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-1951 Hip_M0M Wed, 27 Aug 2008 10:50:49 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-1951 I can always count on you, David, for a lively discussion over here. You've inspired me to post about this on my own site since this is a topic that needs to be talked about (in my opinion). WOW...I can't even begin to express how important this is to talk about in our society. Thanks. I can always count on you, David, for a lively discussion over here. You’ve inspired me to post about this on my own site since this is a topic that needs to be talked about (in my opinion).

WOW…I can’t even begin to express how important this is to talk about in our society.

Thanks.

]]> By: Lance http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-1965 Lance Wed, 27 Aug 2008 02:58:18 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-1965 @Phil: You're assuming I have kids, which is unlikely, since I don't believe in having my own children. The 7 year pact is renewable, and if we had kids for whatever reason, obviously I would be compelled to renew the pact. @Phil: You’re assuming I have kids, which is unlikely, since I don’t believe in having my own children. The 7 year pact is renewable, and if we had kids for whatever reason, obviously I would be compelled to renew the pact.

]]> By: Phil http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-1966 Phil Wed, 27 Aug 2008 00:11:39 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-1966 Lance - Ok, so after your 7 years are up, you dump the kids on the ex-wife and start hunting for a younger woman? Sounds great...for you. I'm hardly the traditionalist, but there's a reason why all cultures throughout history have had long-term marriages. It isn't perfect, and many couples are better off divorced, but commitment does work. Lance – Ok, so after your 7 years are up, you dump the kids on the ex-wife and start hunting for a younger woman? Sounds great…for you.
I’m hardly the traditionalist, but there’s a reason why all cultures throughout history have had long-term marriages. It isn’t perfect, and many couples are better off divorced, but commitment does work.

]]> By: Lance http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-1964 Lance Tue, 26 Aug 2008 19:55:46 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-1964 Great post. I've recently begun to view all of my past relationships as positive experiences, and not "baggage" or failures. We're always learning and even a marriage that ends in divorce helps us grow. It's negative thinking to view yourself or the relationship as a failure because you parted ways. I wrote a post about this: http://honeyandlance.com/lances-take-successful-relationships I do think that the institution of marriage is critically flawed. I like the idea of a limited time span marriage (7 years) and I seem to recall one of the other single parent bloggers wrote about this...maybe it was Kat Wilder? I do want to get married, but I will also admit to the possibility of it ending and I would approach that with a smile. Great post. I’ve recently begun to view all of my past relationships as positive experiences, and not “baggage” or failures. We’re always learning and even a marriage that ends in divorce helps us grow. It’s negative thinking to view yourself or the relationship as a failure because you parted ways. I wrote a post about this:
http://honeyandlance.com/lances-take-successful-relationships

I do think that the institution of marriage is critically flawed. I like the idea of a limited time span marriage (7 years) and I seem to recall one of the other single parent bloggers wrote about this…maybe it was Kat Wilder? I do want to get married, but I will also admit to the possibility of it ending and I would approach that with a smile.

]]> By: NewWrldYankee http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/26/failed-marriage-or-success/comment-page-1/#comment-1963 NewWrldYankee Tue, 26 Aug 2008 18:33:26 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=873#comment-1963 I don't have the experience with marriage to know what it is really like, but I have seen what a failed marriage is when I look at my parents. The anger and fighting that has gone on continuously during my childhood till recently, has never gave me faith in marriage. They stayed together due to societal pressure and neither is happy. For 30 years they remain unhappy, so how is that any better than divorce? I don’t have the experience with marriage to know what it is really like, but I have seen what a failed marriage is when I look at my parents. The anger and fighting that has gone on continuously during my childhood till recently, has never gave me faith in marriage. They stayed together due to societal pressure and neither is happy. For 30 years they remain unhappy, so how is that any better than divorce?

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