Comments on: Relationship Dating 101: First Meeting http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/ Single Parent Dating, Raising Children, Parenting Teens Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:03:21 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Cathouse Teri http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-2/#comment-2024 Cathouse Teri Mon, 01 Sep 2008 04:31:25 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2024 Oh for goodness sake! Last night was Saturday night and the whole day of Sunday has gone by and not a word from you about Ms. Wonderful? ............................ Oh for goodness sake! Last night was Saturday night and the whole day of Sunday has gone by and not a word from you about Ms. Wonderful? ……………………….

]]> By: The Exception http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-2/#comment-2023 The Exception Sat, 30 Aug 2008 12:17:47 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2023 If tonight is the night... I mean "the" night... then I am sending you that many more good vibes! Have fun. Remember to be in the moment not seeing a future! ;) (That's what some of us girls have been known to do) (I think I was caught in Camp Mom with my dates way, way, up there in the comment section) If tonight is the night… I mean “the” night… then I am sending you that many more good vibes! Have fun. Remember to be in the moment not seeing a future! ;) (That’s what some of us girls have been known to do)

(I think I was caught in Camp Mom with my dates way, way, up there in the comment section)

]]> By: singleworkingmommy http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-2/#comment-2022 singleworkingmommy Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:47:28 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2022 See? He would've never used "it's" when he should've used "its." :) See? He would’ve never used “it’s” when he should’ve used “its.” :)

]]> By: singleworkingmommy http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-2/#comment-2021 singleworkingmommy Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:46:20 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2021 Would you believe that my SO didn't even graduate high school while I have a master's degree? In my insanely idiotic youth, I would've never given him a chance (he also worked a blue-collar job! Ack!), but I'm sure glad I grew up a little, and DID give him a chance. Otherwise I wouldn't have my son. And while our relationship has had it's rocky parts, we're trying to work things out. I think we'll get there. Also? He's WAY smarter than I am. The whole, "Don't judge a book by its cover," adage, I suppose. Would you believe that my SO didn’t even graduate high school while I have a master’s degree? In my insanely idiotic youth, I would’ve never given him a chance (he also worked a blue-collar job! Ack!), but I’m sure glad I grew up a little, and DID give him a chance. Otherwise I wouldn’t have my son.

And while our relationship has had it’s rocky parts, we’re trying to work things out. I think we’ll get there.

Also? He’s WAY smarter than I am.

The whole, “Don’t judge a book by its cover,” adage, I suppose.

]]> By: dadshouse http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-1/#comment-2020 dadshouse Fri, 29 Aug 2008 22:18:54 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2020 Mad Cartoonist - I agree that we all have our individual comfort zones of who we want to date. Sure, we'd be more open-minded to go out of those zones, but those zones are where we tend to get along. If more/less money and more/less education are things anyone wants, I won't begrudge them! Bobby Rio - welcome! Nice to have you here. I agree it's not worth the time analyzing what other's thoughts might have been. Actions speak loudly, and sometimes it takes time for those actions to act out. Mad Cartoonist – I agree that we all have our individual comfort zones of who we want to date. Sure, we’d be more open-minded to go out of those zones, but those zones are where we tend to get along. If more/less money and more/less education are things anyone wants, I won’t begrudge them!

Bobby Rio – welcome! Nice to have you here. I agree it’s not worth the time analyzing what other’s thoughts might have been. Actions speak loudly, and sometimes it takes time for those actions to act out.

]]> By: mad cartoonist http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-1/#comment-2019 mad cartoonist Fri, 29 Aug 2008 20:09:06 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2019 I was never a person to have any "rules" about who I wanted to date---only that I never wanted to be with anyone who bored me! But after all my experiences (consisting of two marriages--one to a musician, and one to a South American scientist, and lots of dating in between), I've decided that *some* rules are probably a good idea for a change. So here's my personal (& fairly new!) dating rules, in order of importance: 1. If he ever acts like a jerk to me or anyone, lies, or makes even one racist remark, goodbye. 2. He has to have a job. 3. No drunks or men who take illegal drugs. Not even pot smokers. (So yes, I am reluctantly giving up rock musicians!) My last husband was a drunk (a major bummer), and the legal implications of other drugs are too big a risk for me now that I have kids. 4. And I'm considering adding this one: similar income and education as me. I was never a person to have any “rules” about who I wanted to date—only that I never wanted to be with anyone who bored me!

But after all my experiences (consisting of two marriages–one to a musician, and one to a South American scientist, and lots of dating in between), I’ve decided that *some* rules are probably a good idea for a change. So here’s my personal (& fairly new!) dating rules, in order of importance:

1. If he ever acts like a jerk to me or anyone, lies, or makes even one racist remark, goodbye.
2. He has to have a job.
3. No drunks or men who take illegal drugs. Not even pot smokers. (So yes, I am reluctantly giving up rock musicians!) My last husband was a drunk (a major bummer), and the legal implications of other drugs are too big a risk for me now that I have kids.
4. And I’m considering adding this one: similar income and education as me.

]]> By: mad cartoonist http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/08/27/relationship-dating-101-first-meeting/comment-page-1/#comment-2018 mad cartoonist Fri, 29 Aug 2008 19:49:36 +0000 http://dadshouse.wordpress.com/?p=896#comment-2018 Dadshouse- yeah, I know. My first marriage was to a guy without a college degree but in retrospect I think I should have known better. I thought that because we were in totally different fields (I'm a scientist, he was a musician) that there would be no competition or issues because of that. I really enjoyed our differences (I like to experience life out of the lab sometimes!), but he felt defensive about them. My gradual academic success as I worked my way though school seemed to bring out a really mean and controlling side of him. And no, I didn't "rub it in!" In fact, I hardly ever said anything at all about my research or academic achievements because he'd fly into a rage (which made me sad--it was like he was allergic to a big part of my life). More recently I've also dated two other less educated guys, where the same issue also eventually surfaced. In addition, since I'm not a student anymore, I was earning quite a bit more than these men, and that seemed to add to their insecurity with the situation. I think it's a rare man who can handle his GF/wife being better educated and/or making more money than him. So I decided to face facts and only date men with roughly similar income and education. But maybe it should be more of a case-by-case consideration? Dadshouse- yeah, I know. My first marriage was to a guy without a college degree but in retrospect I think I should have known better.

I thought that because we were in totally different fields (I’m a scientist, he was a musician) that there would be no competition or issues because of that. I really enjoyed our differences (I like to experience life out of the lab sometimes!), but he felt defensive about them. My gradual academic success as I worked my way though school seemed to bring out a really mean and controlling side of him. And no, I didn’t “rub it in!” In fact, I hardly ever said anything at all about my research or academic achievements because he’d fly into a rage (which made me sad–it was like he was allergic to a big part of my life).

More recently I’ve also dated two other less educated guys, where the same issue also eventually surfaced. In addition, since I’m not a student anymore, I was earning quite a bit more than these men, and that seemed to add to their insecurity with the situation.

I think it’s a rare man who can handle his GF/wife being better educated and/or making more money than him. So I decided to face facts and only date men with roughly similar income and education. But maybe it should be more of a case-by-case consideration?

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