Comments on: Rude Text Messages are Nicer Than This

By: SDMktg

SDMktg — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 00:35:02 +0000

That used to happen to me all the time with Internet dating. Everything would be great and we'd agree on a day without specific plans for when or where and then boom, no emails, no phone calls, nothing...I joking call it "radio silence". I guess they lose interest or something better comes up. One thing I did change is I started making the plans part of asking women out. "I know this great club that just opened up, how about next Friday at 8:30?" I got a few less flakes that way. I agree with the 3 strikes rule too. Even if the person is really busy and is interested, I'm not interested in someone who is too busy to see me. P.S. my website is largely work related. I have boy/girl twins that live with me half of the time. (They never "stay" with me) You are brave to blog about your life in full detail. SDMktg's last blog post..

By: LiteralDan

LiteralDan — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:59:06 +0000

I agree-- silence opens you up to all sorts of possibilities, and way too much uncertainty. Just don't call her to tell her that, or you may never see her again. LiteralDan's last blog post..The rules of D-, Vol. 1

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 06:01:51 +0000

Lisa – hey, I brake for unicorns! (kidding). That’s a very good point. I can say that I’ve dated all sorts of women over the years – different looks, body types, education level, nationalities, etc. With my woman of my dreams manifested post, I was putting out their my dream ideal. And lo and behold, a woman like her (this one) walked in the door.

Obviously, I needed to amend my dream request with a statement saying “she needs to call back and actually meet!”

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 04:49:45 +0000

Sorry it didn’t work out for you. I agree with Mad Cartoonist also. I have a friend who keeps stringing along a man by email, even though she’s living with someone, although not happily. She tells this man that she doesn’t have time to date since she’s a single mom and in a custody battle. She says she wants to keep him as a future possibility. I told her that if she ever wants to date this man, if her live-in relationship ends, this man will figure out that she’s been living with someone all this time, and drop her like a hot potato.
Dad, as far as your dream girl….do you ever wonder if your search for the woman of your dreams, might be like looking for a unicorn? Are you overlooking some wonderful women who may not be absolutely gorgeous, but who might be perfectly compatible with you?

By: Hip_M0M

Hip_M0M — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 04:46:13 +0000

David, I love how open and honest and trusting you are. I think women are intimidated by men like you. At least that's what I have to believe since this experience doesn't sound much different from those I've encountered. She's out there. The more women you meet, the more chances you have at finding her. Hip_M0M's last blog post..Pro-Obama

By: Margi

Margi — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 01:45:01 +0000

Dude. Sadly, Mad Cartoonist is probably right. I was friends (?) with a woman like that about 100 years ago - in another lifetime - my single lifetime. We didn't become BFF because of her rampant games-playing. I didn't even pull that crap in high school and she was in her 30s! Sickening. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you really ARE better off without that sort of B.S. You know I'm right. ;o) Margi's last blog post..This has been bugging me for a couple of days

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 19:44:25 +0000

Have to agree with Mad Cartoonist above, that’s a spot-on eval. Honestly, virtually all hot chicks you meet in the field have SOMETHING going on, whether it’s an FB, dating, or LTR. It’s tricky. I mean, if she really were single, she’d be on match.com right??

Also, I’ve been flaked on a bunch just like this. It sucks, but after a while I come to expect it. What does that say about single daters? We’re a dishonorable lot, is what it says.

Keep approaching, it’s just a numbers game. Eventually you’ll get a hit.