A Single Mom’s Dream Man
Last week I received an email from a single mom I’d never met. Seems she had a dream. She was sitting on a cliff in Ireland, taking in the beauty of it all, when a man approached her. “This is nice,” he said. Nice? It was beautiful. Perfect! She was annoyed with his flip attitude, but she liked him. He was smart and funny and a flirtatious tease. Before he left, he told her he wrote a blog called Dad’s House. When she woke up, she googled that blog and found me.
Okay, I know what you’re thinking. What a bunch of bull! Either David’s off his rocker, or high. Or he’s pulling a fast one on us since he can no longer BS his kids.
Nope. Rest assured, this really did happen.
Here’s what’s weird. Last week, I was watching the Tour of Ireland cycling race on Tivo. On the night of her dream, I fell into a deep sleep right in front of the TV while riders were cycling across the Emerald Isle. (I wonder if that stage went through the same county where her dream took place. I should have checked!)
Here’s what’s weirder. Last week, I watched a movie from my Netflix cue, something totally random that I’d never heard of but was compelled to order, and something I didn’t tell anyone I watched. Turns out her life experiences matched those in the film. (e.g. if I watched the Horse Whisperer, she whispers to horses.) The thing is, she told me her story before I told her about the film. (Without this wrinkle, I’d assume the whole thing was a hoax.)
Now that’s just too much synchronicity to be ignored. I wrote her back, we’ve emailed a few times and now chat daily. Seems I’m the man of her dreams. And I’m starting to wonder if she’s the woman of mine.
Some background – on 8/8/08, I played the game of life and sent a message to the universe for my dream woman. Must have been magic, because a woman manifested. (Not this new woman, but someone else a few weeks back). I approached her in a restaurant, in front of my kids, and got her number. We talked on the phone to arrange a date. We tried three times to meet, but each time she flaked. Last I heard from her, she sent a vaguely hopeful text message, sounds great.
Why didn’t it work out with her? Because I was a homeowner? Because I was a dad? Who knows?! It doesn’t matter. I went back to my original request, and finessed it to overcome the problems I encountered. Rather than an age-appropriate woman, I asked for someone in my same life stage. For good measure, I asked for someone courteous and responsive.
Enter the woman who dreamed of me.
She’s a single mom, and I’m a single dad. Same life stage.
We chat daily. She’s courteous and responsive.
I’ve seen her pics. She’s attractive.
She’s educated. Compassionate. Sexy. Grounded. Sweet. What’s not to like?
Best of all, she’s moving here in a few weeks.
The metaphysical connection is too strong to be ignored. We’ll meet, see how we get along. If nothing else, we both have a new friend. But we’re also looking forward to letting things unfold as they may. (And while I normally don’t blog about relationships while I’m in them or trying to enter them, this was too magical to keep quiet about. I have her permission to put up this post.)
If it doesn’t work out? I’ll send another message out to the universe and see what manifests. After all, somewhere in dreamland, the right woman and I are bound to meet.
(Okay, who wants the next hit? kidding…)
- Dream Woman Nightmare
- Play the Game of Life
- Woman of My Dreams, Manifested
- Scary Ghost Visit
- Love vs Fear
- Nude Dream
- Hot, Sexy, Single – Law of Attraction
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Comment by The Exception
| September 18th, 2008
Magic! Pure Magic!!
Ireland is a magical country in its own right – amazing that her dream was there with the mists and the tales and the mystery and magic all rolled into one!
Enjoy every moment David!! I am so very excited for you. Keep your feet on the ground and enjoy every minute!!
The Exception’s last blog post..It’s My Move
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| September 18th, 2008
A little bit insane. But… worth a try, eh?!!
By the way, people can view your Netflix queue. I’m not sure if they can do it without your knowledge, but I know it’s possible. I’m just sayin!
Keep us “posted.” hee hee
May the Universe be most benevolent toward you!
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Comment by Laura
| September 18th, 2008
Ok so how does one send a message out to the universe?
Seriously it sounds like something I need to do!!!
And what a totally awesome love story would this make if it works out? TOTALLY cool Mr Dadshouse!
Comment by debra
| September 18th, 2008
How amazing is this!? Whether you believe in fate, destiny, or divine intervention….I have to believe, if you have faith that good things will happen, when you are ready for them, they will happen.
Fingers crossed for the real life chemistry between you. What a great story!!
Comment by Jim Everson
| September 18th, 2008
Whether this is the universe talking, luck, coincidence, or just after the fact filtering of experience to match the circumstances, who cares? Noticing connections like this is one of the great joys in life. And for me, it is the definitive characteristic of the soul of a writer. It is a skill and sensitivity that is in short supply these days it seems. Good for you! Best wishes for the meet up.
Jim Everson’s last blog post..My Secrets Are Safe
Comment by Single Mom in New England
| September 18th, 2008
Wow, that’s pretty amazing. I hope it works out for you.
I do think the universe works to make things happen, when you put the energy out there, kinda like it is explained in “The Secret”.
I have a similar uncanny meeting of fate when I met my last LTR. We dated for over a year, but in the long run, he wasn’t my soulmate, but looking back, perhaps he was exactly what I needed at the time!!!
Comment by T
| September 18th, 2008
Ok… WHOA!
That’s is so freakin’ crazy. All right, officially starting now, I’m sayin that your story with your dream woman is better than my story with my soldier. So far!
*giggle*
Awesome, man. That’s just unbelievably awesome.
T’s last blog post..May I hold your flute please?
Comment by Kitkat4real (SOLO dot MOM)
| September 18th, 2008
Thank you for finally clearing up about the woman in the restaurant :).
This is a wonderful magical story and yes you must at least see what it holds… by meeting her… I am so intrigued. Can’t wait to hear more… just don’t make me wait so long next time, ok?
j/k
Wonderful blog.
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Comment by QTMama
| September 18th, 2008
Wow. Seriously, WOW.
Do tell – how does one send a message out to the universe?
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Comment by mama llama
| September 18th, 2008
I don’t believe in coincidences. Things like that happen. I know–way too well to divulge here.
And when it is meant to be, it might sound cliché-ish but that cannot be ignored. It is meant to be. 20-20 hindsight often shows that too many things fit just too perfectly together for anything but coincidence to be operating.
Enjoy, have fun, be good to yourself–and be good to each other. I can’t wait to see how this pans out for you, and I wish it the BEST!
Be well, Dads.
mama llama’s last blog post..porn for women
Comment by Kevin M
| September 18th, 2008
Please let us know when you do plan on meeting her for the first time so if we don’t hear from you in a day or so afterwards we can call the authorities :)
Comment by dadshouse
| September 18th, 2008
I know she’s real because she asked me to wire her $10,000 to help her orphanage, and I sent the money and someone got it.
JUST KIDDING! Haha. Yes, the whole thing is crazy. I have talked to her on the phone, and she seems quite normal and real. And I’m pretty good about sniffing out scams and spams. I won’t do anything silly.
Teri – you’re right, someone could read my queue (assuming I use the netflix service… maybe I don’t, and I use the word netflix like I say “kleenex” instead of tissue…) A really good hacker could probably get onto my computer and find whatever they wanted. The proof is in the pudding – either this woman and I will meet, or not.
And even if we meet, maybe she’s CIA.
And maybe I’m Jason Bourne… :-)
Jim – I agree random connections and chance encounters come from a soulful place. Being a writer has definitely helped me get in touch with that place, be more observant, more open to things that arise, so I agree with you completely.
T – no way, your soldier story is the best! Plus, it’s got real actual steamy sex. Mine is just Brigadoon fog. (A Scottish tale, but close enough)
QTMama and Laura – it’s just metaphysical asking. A great book that explains it is “The Game of Life and How to Play It” by Florence Scovell Shinn. Or watch “The Secret” on DVD. I talk about it in my post Play the Game of Life. It’s more than just power of positive thinking.
Everyone else… there’s magic in the air, indeed.
And lest anyone think I’m a metaphysical nutcase, I point you to my shiny patent plaques and say, at least I’m not an engineering nutcase anymore!
Now then, let me check on that orphanage..
Comment by Single Mom Seeking
| September 18th, 2008
I’m riveted. I cracked up about the orphanage bit.
Now do tell: does she read your blog?
Single Mom Seeking’s last blog post..Is your blog ruining your dating life?
Comment by dadshouse
| September 18th, 2008
Yes, she reads the blog. She’s reading this post. She’s reading your comments!
Pretty strange, isn’t it..
Comment by Edgar
| September 18th, 2008
Begorrah, David (amazing the invitation that reading someone’s blog provides to speak in a familiar tone – even though we have never “met”) The realm of metaphysics is alive and well, apparently – and may it work out well for you! So, will you now change your writing style to magical realism? Be sure to add “The Secret of Roan Inish” to your Netflix queue – Sayles is one of my favorite directors, and this tale is a perfect complement to your new story. And, those cliffs of Moher are perfect for mist-ical experiences.
Comment by Single Mom in New England
| September 18th, 2008
I think she needs to de-lurk and join the discussion!! :)
Comment by Laura
| September 18th, 2008
Well then theres a case for “does blogging ruin your dating life” – clearly not since its how you guys found each other ;)
Laura’s last blog post..Fate
Comment by The Exception
| September 18th, 2008
The Cliffs of Moher are ripe with magic. It is amazing to stand at the edge and look seaward… If this works out, Ireland must be a vacation destination…
The Exception’s last blog post..It’s My Move
Comment by Hadley
| September 18th, 2008
Your response to this latest happening is such a nice balance of openness and caution! May it continue to bring you happiness.
Comment by Lance
| September 18th, 2008
Wow, seriously? That’s pretty cool.
Lance’s last blog post..Finances and Dating
Comment by loriann
| September 18th, 2008
DH I’m so happy for you, it is encouraging for all of us looking for our special someone. What I especially love about this is that it is unfolding slowly. That you are getting to know her. It’s not that instant visual thing that seems to distract you so.
Best wishes!
Comment by Julie
| September 18th, 2008
Wow. I…wow! I can’t think of anything to say but that! I cannot wait to see how this unfolds!!!!
Julie’s last blog post..Twitter
Comment by krn
| September 18th, 2008
Ooh~ very romantic and fun. Enjoy every moment of the crazy kismet you share! What a wonderful reminder for all of us to keep asking for what we’d like in our lives and to listen to our dreams.
Comment by Jimmy
| September 18th, 2008
Sounds promising, Like you said you are already wary of scams-so you won’t be taken in-so this has a chance of being something special.
Good Luck.
Comment by justrun
| September 18th, 2008
Wow. This is either the best story ever, or the best story ever.
Enjoy it!
Comment by Ben
| September 18th, 2008
It’s generally a good idea to meet online dating contacts after no more than 3 emails back and forth. Any more than that and expectations get built up and are usually not met.
Of course, if it’s a long distance thing, it’s not possible. In that case it might have been good to wait until she moved here before even talking too much.
But who knows… sometimes these work. But more often not.
Sorry to be the downer, just a dose of realism. :) Hope it does work out for you guys.
Comment by single mommy
| September 18th, 2008
I believe very strongly in “Things happen for a reason”.
Besides it really sounds a bit romantic!
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Comment by katherine.
| September 18th, 2008
Disney called.
Can the screenplay be ready by November?
Who will be playing you?
(just kidding….I hope you find she is everything you are looking for…the luck of the Irish is a powerful thing…)
katherine.’s last blog post..worth repeating and remembering….
Comment by mommypie
| September 19th, 2008
I LOVE that! The Universe ALWAYS delivers. Truly.
mommypie’s last blog post..Gettin’ busy in the afterlife.
Comment by Vinomom
| September 19th, 2008
I have been so busy lately I haven’t had much time to blog or read blogs (soccer season just kills me) so forgive me if my comment sounds redundant – but that all sounds pretty amazing. I’m not a big “fate/destiny” person, but I do believe it happens for some people. Keep up updated! (With her permission of course)
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Comment by Hip_M0M
| September 19th, 2008
That’s awesome! And I’m just about to post about my situation, which is not magical in any way, but another step forward on my journey.
Enjoy your new relationship. You deserve this!
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Comment by Susan
| September 19th, 2008
You know, my first response was “holy shit!” (in a good way) and “that’s crazy!” My second response was, “you know, I kind of did the same sending-it-out-to-the-universe thing and about a month later met the wonderful man I’m dating.”
Hmmm. Maybe not so crazy. Keep us posted!
Susan’s last blog post..A wee little break
Comment by Lisa
| September 19th, 2008
DH I’m really curious about her moving there. Was she already planning a move there and why? Maybe it is fate. I wish you the best.
I’ve sent my wishes out to the universe and so far none of the men I’ve met have panned out.
Still hoping and wishing…
Comment by Avigail74
| September 20th, 2008
Amazing! I love it when magical stirrings enter your life. I had something similar happen to me: I had “asked” for a man who was older than me, someone sexy, a principal (you see I”m a teacher and I thought it would be so wonderful to take nice long summer vacations together) and someone who adores me. Guess what! It happened–and this is the first time I ever got to be really in love with someone who is so wonderful! So, you never know! But, please do be sure to keep us posted when you do meet her!
Comment by la dolcevita
| September 20th, 2008
What an incredible syncronicity! I’ll keep trying to play The Game of Life, but it seems to deliver not what I request, but what I really seem to need at the time…not without some challenge first, though.
Comment by dave
| September 21st, 2008
We moved from Virginia to the island of Maui Hawaii in the mid-90’s and for the 3 years we lived there I experienced similar instances of “connecting” with people back in Virginia and other former business acquaintances along the east coast of the mainland. I won’t bore you with details, but suffice it to say that each incident was anything but coincidental and after the 3rd or 4th time I just grew to know it was just something that happens.
I never dug deeper into the how’s and why’s behind these incidents, but they happen often and most people just write ‘em off as weird or coincidences.
Based on your description I suspect you had a real connection to this women for some reason.
Please report back after you’ve spent some face time with your new friend.
dave’s last blog post..Dads House by David Mott
Comment by meme
| November 26th, 2008
OK wheres the update?
what happened with this?
did you meet?
Comment by dadshouse
| November 26th, 2008
Meme – she lived on the east coast and was planning a move to the bay area, but then was unexpectedly called home by her family who live in another country. She expects to return here at some point. We’ve IM’d a bit, but no word when we’ll be able to meet.
Meanwhile, I continue looking, meeting, dating other women.
Comment by meme
| November 27th, 2008
wow
I had just found the site and was reading and reading
When I came across this post and then checked the date, and no follow up….There are only so many blogs and sites I can access from work so I’ll be checking it often It’s great!
As a single Mom, it’s great to hear the guy’s perspective. It gives insight to men’s thoughts and reasoning.
Comment by PhenomenalMama
| February 10th, 2009
An odd coincidence — I’d been reading this dude’s blog since before I was separated….just for interest’s sake. Several months after the separation, for no reason whatsoever, I had a dream about the blog dude. Nothing amazing – just sitting side by side and smiling at each other and feeling happy.
We shared a mutual acquaintance and so the next day I contacted him through facebook. That was almost 3 months ago…and things are still going strong. Funny how life works sometimes, huh?
PhenomenalMama´s last blog post..Too Many Hurts
Comment by donna
| February 11th, 2009
wow, pretty freaky…yeah would like to hear what happens.
Comment by Brennan
| February 11th, 2009
Donna,
PhenomenalMama and I actually share a blog together chronicling our relationship:
http://thepointismoot.wordpress.com/