Comments on: Hot, Sexy, Confident http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/ Single Parent Dating, Raising Children, Parenting Teens Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:03:21 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Jenelle http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4948 Jenelle Mon, 29 Sep 2008 06:36:08 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4948 Completely true! I recently went through this phase, but thankfully never actually got around to doing anything about it, HA. Focusing on myself and doing some self reflection is the only way I am going to find the right mate at this time in my life. I'm certainly not looking for someone, but if I meet someone who happens to become a friend and then something more, well, that would be wonderful. I'm a young single Mother who is completely devoted to inner self acceptance and knowledge, I hope to find someone who his comfortable with who they are and can compliment me in a positive way. Going out and seeking attention is NOT the way to do it in a healthy manner. Besides, I expect more from a man as well. Completely true! I recently went through this phase, but thankfully never actually got around to doing anything about it, HA. Focusing on myself and doing some self reflection is the only way I am going to find the right mate at this time in my life. I’m certainly not looking for someone, but if I meet someone who happens to become a friend and then something more, well, that would be wonderful. I’m a young single Mother who is completely devoted to inner self acceptance and knowledge, I hope to find someone who his comfortable with who they are and can compliment me in a positive way. Going out and seeking attention is NOT the way to do it in a healthy manner. Besides, I expect more from a man as well.

]]> By: Cheery-Wise http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4560 Cheery-Wise Mon, 22 Sep 2008 20:32:49 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4560 The Buddhist Singlehood Happiness Theory... I think you're onto something! Dad: I just stumbled upon your blog looking for advice about teen insurance in two-family homes (my 16 year old lives full-time with me). I don't usually comment so soon, preferring to lurk around in the background a bit first. But I already know I'm going to share you (that is, this blog) with my PWP (Parents Without Partners) friends. There is some great insight here: I look forward to exploring these posts further. Cheers! The Buddhist Singlehood Happiness Theory… I think you’re onto something!

Dad: I just stumbled upon your blog looking for advice about teen insurance in two-family homes (my 16 year old lives full-time with me). I don’t usually comment so soon, preferring to lurk around in the background a bit first. But I already know I’m going to share you (that is, this blog) with my PWP (Parents Without Partners) friends. There is some great insight here: I look forward to exploring these posts further.

Cheers!

]]> By: single mommy http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4519 single mommy Sun, 21 Sep 2008 22:19:24 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4519 I loved this post! "I learned the hard way that relying on another person to activate that happy feeling inside yourself gives them all-mighty power over you. If they are pissed or disappointed in you, they can withhold the validation, and you feel pathetic again." This is so true. Incredible the lessons we learn on this journey. However for a little pick me up just after the separation, I'd go to my old office for a visit and enjoy the silly cat calls ;) I loved this post! “I learned the hard way that relying on another person to activate that happy feeling inside yourself gives them all-mighty power over you. If they are pissed or disappointed in you, they can withhold the validation, and you feel pathetic again.” This is so true. Incredible the lessons we learn on this journey. However for a little pick me up just after the separation, I’d go to my old office for a visit and enjoy the silly cat calls ;)

]]> By: NewWrldYankee http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4511 NewWrldYankee Sun, 21 Sep 2008 16:14:17 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4511 I am late to the convo again, but I wholeheartedly agree. You are the only one who can really make yourself feel amazing. And why does love, affection and mutual appreciation have to come from an SO? I get daily love from my friends, in and out of the blogsphere. They raise me up daily, and I do the same for them. Whatever it takes to make you feel good - working out, dancing, craploads of makeup, an old outfit worn a new way. Do what it takes to save your own sanity and feel good about yourself. This is a tangent, but I found that keeping those who make life positive around me really helps my world view. There is power in positive thinking. There is power in knowing who you are and cutting poisons out of your life. Sometimes you need to cut your losses, and invest in yourself over others. When you are happy and loving yourself, others will too. I am late to the convo again, but I wholeheartedly agree. You are the only one who can really make yourself feel amazing. And why does love, affection and mutual appreciation have to come from an SO? I get daily love from my friends, in and out of the blogsphere. They raise me up daily, and I do the same for them.

Whatever it takes to make you feel good – working out, dancing, craploads of makeup, an old outfit worn a new way. Do what it takes to save your own sanity and feel good about yourself.

This is a tangent, but I found that keeping those who make life positive around me really helps my world view. There is power in positive thinking. There is power in knowing who you are and cutting poisons out of your life. Sometimes you need to cut your losses, and invest in yourself over others. When you are happy and loving yourself, others will too.

]]> By: citizen of the world http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4490 citizen of the world Sun, 21 Sep 2008 00:53:58 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4490 Here via Mama Llama. I'm a single parent, too and I know that feeling of wondering what's ahead. I do want a partner in life, but I no longer worry so much about it - I feel much more confident after a year out on my own. <abbr><em>citizen of the world's last blog post..<a href="http://alittleoffkilter.blogspot.com/2008/09/war-in-my-backyard.html" rel="nofollow">The War in my Backyard</a></em></abbr> Here via Mama Llama. I’m a single parent, too and I know that feeling of wondering what’s ahead. I do want a partner in life, but I no longer worry so much about it – I feel much more confident after a year out on my own.

citizen of the world’s last blog post..The War in my Backyard

]]> By: A Solder's Wife http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4470 A Solder's Wife Sat, 20 Sep 2008 08:29:43 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4470 I remember when my ex left me....I wasn't feeling particularly sexy (2 kids, a mortgage, full time job, not enough hours in the day, let alone any for me)...you all know how that is....but I figured as long as I felt good about the aspects in my life I could control.... the rest would take care of itself....13 years later I am just as in love with the man who "happened" into my life. He didn't make me happy, I did.....he just makes that happiness better....in those special ways. I think we all just want to find someone in life to share our world with....isn't that what life is truly about, spending it with those we love? I never really viewed it in a couple sense, that just kind of happened.....not sure what it would be like now....maybe I'd be just happy with great friends and casual sex (but don't let my teens hear you say that, because that is just not something that is ever allowed, or so I tell them!) Sexy is not how you look as much as in how you feel.....it's a state of mind.....right T? I remember when my ex left me….I wasn’t feeling particularly sexy (2 kids, a mortgage, full time job, not enough hours in the day, let alone any for me)…you all know how that is….but I figured as long as I felt good about the aspects in my life I could control…. the rest would take care of itself….13 years later I am just as in love with the man who “happened” into my life. He didn’t make me happy, I did…..he just makes that happiness better….in those special ways.

I think we all just want to find someone in life to share our world with….isn’t that what life is truly about, spending it with those we love? I never really viewed it in a couple sense, that just kind of happened…..not sure what it would be like now….maybe I’d be just happy with great friends and casual sex (but don’t let my teens hear you say that, because that is just not something that is ever allowed, or so I tell them!)

Sexy is not how you look as much as in how you feel…..it’s a state of mind…..right T?

]]> By: Honey http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/19/hot-sexy-confident/comment-page-1/#comment-4452 Honey Fri, 19 Sep 2008 20:06:11 +0000 http://dadshouseblog.com/?p=1815#comment-4452 Perhaps that's why I don't want kids, DM--I don't need to feel like I'm the center of anyone's world! I'm the center of mine :-) <abbr><em>Honey's last blog post..<a href="http://honeyandlance.com/finances-and-dating" rel="nofollow">Finances and Dating</a></em></abbr> Perhaps that’s why I don’t want kids, DM–I don’t need to feel like I’m the center of anyone’s world! I’m the center of mine :-)

Honey’s last blog post..Finances and Dating

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