Cathouse Teri’s last blog post..Across the Universe

One Night Stand: you meet, you screw. end of story.

Booty Call: someone in a similar boat as you, available for sex on an ‘as-needed’ basis only. someone with whom you don’t really like enough to have a real date.
(I suspect some cold marriages think they are saved by this ’sneaking out’ kind of activity. Others are ruined by it.)

Fling: (did anyone mention this?) someone you spend fun quality time with… but just for a weekend, here and there, an occasional break from reality. usually reserved for the person who travels for work, with lonely hours to kill in the evenings. but can be a short lived passionate interlude with someone nearby.

Friend with Benefits: someone you can talk to, easily, about many things, even other partners. who also happens to enjoy your company in bed. no plans to move in together. not a romantic interest.

Lover: a physical relationship that’s all about the romance. Someone who knows how to make you feel special, attractive, appreciated. rarely do you bother to talk about mundane day-to-day events, the point is to escape from such routine for sensual time.

(sometimes people marry their lovers, but this isn’t a good basis for a long term relationship. once the thrill of the romance is gone, thus ends the marriage.)

Friends AND Lovers: a treat! a great combination, a juicy mix of two people who can talk about anything, accepting each other just the way they are, and also enjoy the physical connection, when sex is simply another aspect/expression of a really good conversation. The kind of relationship that deepens as it ages.

– -

Comments?

Come to think of it, there’s a lot of self-labeling that falls into the category of being an excuse/warning of toxic behavior. I guess it pays to pay attention to statements like the following:

“Don’t mind me, I’m just jealous!”

“I’m really bad at relationships.”

“I hate all women/men. But you’re an exception!”

“I’m terrible with money.”

and of course, my favorite (not!):
“I can’t help it, women/men just throw themselves at me!”

…so are we to conclude that self-labels are usually accurate? If I call myself a MILF, am I more likely to be one?

Stumbling into your blog I found myself absorbed, I can relate so many stories.

I’m an Aussie (how’s that for a label!) In reading everyone’s comments it’s obvious you all have great attitudes and a sense of humour.

As for some of the terminology (i.e. booty call and the like) it must be creeping into Australia cos I am hearing it more and more.

Regards

heh…so you were the one calling in about the ‘lover’.

does that make the women who want booty calls girls? I disagree with them.

MissB’s last blog post..7 Years Ago

I definitely prefer dating (when I’m single) and a committed reltaionship and I’ve really never known anyone that’s going to drop everything to come over in the middle of the night. I’ve also never been asked but once I’m in bed (alone) I’m out for the night.

SDMktg’s last blog post..NFL Week 3 Tailgating Menu – Tri Tip Sandwiches with Grilled Onions and Peppers

I used to be a Huuugge fan of the old Mad Mag way back when, when I used to skip school and etc, back in my misspent youth (the one that I hope my kids don’t find out about in much detail)! But alas, my current job demands I be smart but not especially funny, darn.

I agree, actions are always so much better than words. I don’t know why women are so stuck on words/labeling themselves. I’m racking my brain here, but men don’t seem to do that.

Maybe because many of those same woman’s labels (cougar, milf, whore, bitch etc etc) were originally used by men who were trying to put women down by using these labels on them. Perhaps some women then purposely use these labels with pride as a way of defending themselves against the put downs?

But this seems like kind of a bad strategy…I mean, what would you think about a group of guys who proudly claimed to be “losers”, “red flags”, or “undate-able”?