I personally never had a problem getting involved with anyone online who was already married/taken. I found it was pretty easy to spot those.

My “problem” was rather the opposite—the (2) men I dated for a while that I met online were truthful and basically nice, but kind of sad, actually, in their extreme workaholism and lack of any kind of a viable social life outside of their families. They were looking for a women to rescue them, somehow from their self-imposed social exile.

And, yes, many of my online dating meet-ups ended up as a FWB thing. Of course, I was only looking for that, coming out of a marriage, so it worked for me.

If you’re looking for a LTR? Well, one online guy and I went out for several months and we’ve remained friendly. Others lasted for brief periods, and I would have liked to stay in touch with some of them. The other is Sean — and he and I have been in each other’s lives for years now. I have a few friends who met their sweeties online.

And there were some men I really liked and who liked me and who had the potential to be “relationship” material. But I wasn’t looking for a relationship when I met them. I was interested in dating and not committing, and they were in a different space.

Meeting people is what it’s all about. Then, who knows? I believe the online world allows you to meet many people, which means there’s more potential to meet more people with whom there’s no spark. Then you can look at it and get disappointed. It probably relates to some math problem I never paid attention to in high school, but … does that make sense?

And I didn’t let online dating get in the way of doing what I love; it’s just one thing of many things that I do. But I also happen to love meeting people — everyone has a fascinating story — so maybe that’s it.

I dunno. I think it has its ups and downs, but I find ups than downs. Am I weird? ;-)

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I did recently see In Search Of A Midnight Kiss, which is a very good indie flick. The premise is a slacker guy who meets a troubled girl on CRAIGSLIST on New Years Eve. They spend the day and night together. There’s a lot of great dating and relationship hijinks stuff going on in the film that really resonated. I recommend it.

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As for keeping the goal in mind – I just didn’t have the luck you had, I guess. In eight years of online dating, much of it serious with match.com, chemistry.com, eHarmony, salon.com – I only met one woman who I dated for any length of time. That sucks.

And statistically, Jupiter Research has done studies that show a vast majority of people who date online are not satisfied with the process. So, consider yourself one of the lucky few!

I don’t agree that meeting online sucks as a way to start a relationship. I think that the attitude that some people have about those they meet online sucks.