Where Did My Mojo Go?
Ever have one of those weeks when everything seems flat? Nothing bad happens, and you’re not depressed. Nothing great happens, and you don’t get excited. Life is good, but you don’t find joy in the everyday things. You know it’s in your power to change your perspective. And all of a sudden, you realize – your mojo done up and left!
Where did my mojo go?
I have some theories.
- Dreaming woman has yet to materialize – many of you have been asking in comments and email what the hell happened with the woman who dreamed about me. She lives on the east coast and was planning to come west. She still is, as far as I know. But life intervened, and right now she is with her extended family. Out of respect for her privacy, I’ll leave it at that.
- I got fat and happy with my dreamy circumstance – dreaming woman seemed so compatible and such the destiny fulfilling gal for me: attractive, sweet, sexy, fun to talk to on the phone, and a single mom at my same life stage. I kind of started waiting for her, and stopped chasing other women.
- I’ve done nothing to prep for Halloween – this is more a symptom, but bears noting. There are no spooky Halloween decorations up in my house. What’s with that? I even have kids! If I had my mojo, I’d be sporting some fangs and sleeping in a coffin right now. (With plenty of Milky Way bars for the little ghouls.)
- Myers-Briggs woman was truly whack – can you believe I walked away from a willing bed partner? When she read my palm, asked my favorite color, and quizzed me on my personality type, it was too much for my mojo-less Mr. Right Now self to take.
Rest assured, I’ve taken steps to rise from the mojo-less ashes. I’ve got some in-depth reporting planned for next week. No dirty text message will go unturned.
Post-Halloween, be sure to join Geraldo and me for an investigation into the whereabouts of Dad’s House missing mojo. Stay tuned…
(you can follow the search for my missing mojo through my RSS feed here)
- Taking Third-Date Sex to a New Extreme
- Skinny Dipping at Club Med
- Using Sweet Talk Pick Up Lines in Front of Your Son
- Rebound Sex Coffee Date
- Date Stacking
- Coffee House Pickup
- You-Know-What-us Interruptus
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Comment by Laura
| October 30th, 2008
I am actually also having one of those weeks! Today was the first day I actually felt a little upbeat though! So hopefully things will turn around!
I have too many dirty texts right now and not enough dirty evenings *sigh*
Laura´s last blog post..Thursday Thoughts
Comment by mama llama
| October 30th, 2008
Hey, at least you’re getting text sex, Laura!
It takes the low points on the cycle to make us appreciate the high points, doesn’t it? A little fun would be nice–just not in the cards for so many of us right now. A part of me wonders if it’s just the season–even if I *could* get some action, I would be too cold to enjoy…
Be well, Dads.
mama llama´s last blog post..The color quiz, stolen from Windy
Comment by Lance
| October 30th, 2008
I hate when my mojo deserts me, but it happens all the time. My advice is keep busy with creative projects and socialize with as many (new) women as possible to get some things going. You always have to work to maintain your mojo.
Lance´s last blog post..What Is Intimacy, Anyway?
Comment by Twenty Four At Heart
| October 30th, 2008
I think we’re having similar weeks. I usually love Halloween. I don’t have a single decoration up yet. I need to get my mojo going. Sigh!
My contests are still going on to celebrate my birthday. Today I’m giving out 2 Target gift cards for 40 bucks each. You can buy a lot of decorations for that. Maybe it would get your mojo going?
Comment by T
| October 30th, 2008
Mine done up and left too.
Maybe its the change in seasons? Maybe the damn election has us all drained? Maybe it has something to do with being single when its darn nipply outside?!
Eh, let me know when you find it. Maybe mine’s there too.
T´s last blog post..Fork in the Blog
Comment by Leah
| October 30th, 2008
IMHO the first step to bringing the mojo back is the realization that it up and left. So I am pretty sure you’ll be getting it back very soon. :)
Leah´s last blog post..Blogging and Bloglytizing
Comment by Single Mom in New England
| October 30th, 2008
HOORAY! I’ve missed your mojo!!! Back to posts about your quest for single parent sex!! I needs to get my fill!!! :)
Comment by debra
| October 30th, 2008
mama llama….text sex….I misread this as ’sexting’! Still laughing! : ) My mojo seems to have been replaced with a teenager’s sense of humor today!
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| October 30th, 2008
I’m all for your plan to stop being Mr. Right Now. But I also must warn you (probably to no avail) not to put all your eggs in one basket as you did with Dreaming Woman. Seriously. You hadn’t even met yet. You didn’t even know how big the basket was! (Oh dear. That could be a very vulgar reference.)
At any rate, we all lose our mojo from time to time. I think it keeps us humble. :)
I’ve found that the dating world seems to be one of feast or famine.
Ugh on Hallowe’en. I prefer to just lie in my coffin until it passes.
Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..Baby, It’s Cold Outside!
Comment by Single Mom Seeking
| October 30th, 2008
Are you dressing up? Let’s see a photo of you in a manly costume, getting into the role?… I’m just partly kidding.
Sometimes, I think we need to really do something fun and drastic to get out of the rut.
I hear you, Dad’s House. I’m trying to get move up and on, too.
Single Mom Seeking´s last blog post..Share your good news… and win $100 gift certificate for dinner at PF Chang’s
Comment by Exception
| October 30th, 2008
You know, sometimes you need those weeks… the weeks where things just move along and there aren’t the peaks and the vallies. I have no doubt that the peaks and vallies will appear and then… Life is simply not flat for long periods of time!!
As for Dreaming Woman – You know, your second point about her could have just freaked her out!! No expectations on your part there, at all. (Sorry, the Witchy woman side of me is anxious for tomorrow) ;)
Exception´s last blog post..More Than Just a Profile
Comment by dadshouse
| October 30th, 2008
Exception – I didn’t tell her point number two. And it wasn’t immediate. It was a slow letting go of my pursuit of other women. i.e. “I kind of started waiting for her…”
Teri – I didn’t intentionally put all my eggs in one basket. When other dates didn’t pan out (which you’ll hear about next week), I kept telling myself not to worry because I’d eventually meet dreaming woman. It was more a subconscious thing that I finally recognized, than something intentional I did.
24 at Heart – does Target sell Mojo? Or maybe shopping is how women get their mojo back? Ha!
Comment by Mad Cartoonist
| October 30th, 2008
Life is a cycle, so I’m sure it will return soon!
My own mojo-enhancing activities include anything that takes me away from my boring “adult” life that sometimes includes a bit too much responsibility.
Like 1) Listening to lots of LOUD, unapologetically trashy rock n roll from my past (Stevie Ray Vaughn and AC/DC–yeah, I know, but it takes me back!), and singing and air-guitaring along enthusiastically in the privacy of car/home, 2) Video night rewatching one or more sublimely idiotic comedies that somehow kill me (the blues brothers, Harald and Kumar go to white castle), 3) getting outdoors and getting some exercise and 4) talking to old friends on the phone.
And go to the grocery store and flirt with someone cute but inappropriate…you gotta get over that dream woman who was a bit too good (& too unknown) to be true.
Comment by katherine.
| October 30th, 2008
I think I found your Mojo this morning…its for sale at Sants Cruz Harbor….
katherine.´s last blog post..wordless wednesday ~ don’t be such a crab
Comment by Exception
| October 30th, 2008
Ever try something completely off the wall or out of the ordinary in such times? Sometimes I think that the flat stretches of life’s road are times to either relax, times to prepare us for the climb ahead, or moments that allow us to open our minds and do something off the wall and crazy! We have the time to try something we normally wouldn’t or see opportunities that previously did not appear!
Enjoy this stretch of the road… after all, Life is a highway!
Exception´s last blog post..More Than Just a Profile
Comment by Cheery-Wise
| October 30th, 2008
I echo the lack of mojo-ness this week. Since it seems a common thread across the board (at least on this blog-o-sphere), it can’t just be the rain…
My story? I was eagerly looking forward to meeting someone with whom I’ve had an ongoing long distance ‘relationship/conversation’: a year’s worth of friendly, flirty phone calls. We met for the first time when I was traveling for work last week. And while he was indeed a nice man, and we had a lovely time ;), the fact is he lied about his age, significantly, among other things, and (though I tried not to expect too much) I was fairly disappointed.
Anyway, my mojo left me upon my return. I too am feeling slightly sorry for myself this week, like I’m back at square one again. Dateless, and waiting…
Thank heavens for family and friends, some of whom I hope will drag me out Saturday night (my birthday) and help me get my groove on. I sure don’t want to mope around feeling sorry for myself just because I don’t have a date this year. Sigh.
Yah mon, bring on the reggae and the rum, its a pirate’s life for me. Argh! Oh, wait… perhaps a mo-jo-ito? haha
Hey, Dads, that reminds me. Got any cool cocktails to recommend, something that sounds naughty enough to giggle about when my gf’s order it with the bartender?
Comment by Kat Wilder
| October 30th, 2008
I have a feeling you might get your mojo back next Tuesday night; Lord, I know I will!
But I better you didn’t really “lose” it — it just has been so overworked lately, it needed a teeny-tiny break …
Kat Wilder´s last blog post..Middle age or the end?
Comment by Lori
| October 31st, 2008
I wondered why we hadn’t heard anything else about Dream Woman. Sorry she hasn’t materialized yet.
As far as losing your Mojo…could one of your recent posts have something to do with it?
“Reading Loose Girl helped me be more aware of my own actions when I have coffee dates that turn into booty calls. It made me question my own motivations for sometimes choosing casual encounters rather than seeking real and lasting intimacy. (I’m still working that!)”
Maybe you haven’t lost your Mojo, maybe you’re just going through a reflective stage.
I wish you lived out here in Tx. As a single mom reading your posts, I would LOVE to date you!
Comment by mama llama
| October 31st, 2008
BOO!
Happy Halloween!
mama llama´s last blog post..Flashback Friday