Comments on: Date Stacking

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 20:57:00 +0000

Eli, I agree that men should compete for a woman, and that women bring a moving, growing, vibrant force. But since when is being rude a feminine trait, let alone one to be cherished? Do I want to be with someone who sets up multiple dates on the same night, then cancels, or worse, doesn’t bother to cancel or show up? Um…no.

I’m not trying to logically convince any women to change. I’m merely pointing out that some women date stack, and they aren’t worth my time or effort. I’m not asking women to drop everything and date me exclusively from the get-go. I have stepped up to the plate and competed for fabulous women, with great results, and will continue to do so. The date stacking women can play their games elsewhere, no worries.

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 19:14:38 +0000

Cool comment, Eli. Very thought provoking. :) Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..As You Wish

By: Eli

Eli — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 18:24:45 +0000

I think these observations are important, and it’s interesting that you’ve done the research and the time to think about these things.

More importantly however, is the attitude in which you seek knowledge. Why wouldn’t the feminine seek to find the best man for her life? This is the type of mindset that the masculine thrives in. Competition, striving for the prize. You have to look at this from the feminine point of view to understand this. I am a man, in a relationship and it still doesn’t change.

The masculine, true masculine desires a totally feminine woman. Someone who will be loved and respected and desired, and provide that back to you. This means that you cannot settle for someone who is not committed fully to a life that will provide you all of the joys of the feminine.

This is where you take a look at your priorities, evaluate your life and decide; is this woman really the woman that will bring me everything the feminine has to offer, is she worth the prize, worth the work? If so, then you begin to evaluate yourself and determine if you are worthy of such a woman. If you are the better man and she is sending out an open loving heart to the universe, open to the man that will open her fully to love, then you will do it. That is the only way to see it.

To critique or look for a way to provide evidence that the way women are dating or searching for a man is incorrect provides all the wrong signals to a deeply feminine force. If that woman were reading your blog she may agree with you on the surface and admit that there are logical problems with such an approach. However, this type of dating, and the play that the feminine brings to the world is not going to change based upon some logical viewpoints about their activity.

Masculine is logical, driven and purposeful. The feminine is changing and moving and growing. You either are willing to step up to the challenge, no excuses, and give her all your masculine strength, purpose and drive, or you’re not. That’s all she will ever see.

By: SDMktg

SDMktg — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:06:46 +0000

Cancelling at the last minute is always rude but when you have kids it’s even more frustrating. I’ve only had it happen a few times, always with dates from Match.com because there’s no “real life” connection like a friend that set us up or going to the same gym, coffee shop, etc. When something falls through at the last minute it generally means a night of eating at the bar, cleaning the house, and watching TV unless by some miracle one of my friends is free at that moment. When it comes to that sort of behavior, there are no second chances. No more email, no more calls, I am out because I just don’t need that and I don’t do it to other people.

By: Jimmy

Jimmy — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 03:27:38 +0000

Pussy is always the commodity?
This and date stacking kind of reminds me of the ladder theory that was going around a couple of years ago-anyone else?

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 02:13:03 +0000

I did this when I was in my early twenties - but now in my early thirties - no thanks. It requires way too much energy. Amy´s last blog post..Journal 110: October 2008 And Lastly, "Lastdays"

By: tnandga

tnandga — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:57:05 +0000

AHHA! Now I understand what was going on with the man I had been seeing for the last few months. He was quite attentive (phone calls, texts, and frequent dates)at first. Suddenly there was a big job that required his attention, etc. I took him at his word but when the situation didn’t change I just fiqured he wasn’t so into me anymore but he kept sending random texts, now I know, tether texts. Last one I told him enjoy the new woman and it was fun. My life stays too busy to play the fish on the hook for him, moving on.