Somebody to Love
I had a great date Thursday night. No, I’m not giving details! Dad’s House has a no kiss-and-tell policy. Unless the date is crazy and bad, in which case I’ll never see the woman again… Then I tell, whether we kiss or not! And like I said, I’m not telling, so it must not have been crazy or bad… (grin).
But I will say, I’m looking for somebody to love. Not someone to love me, take care of me, comfort me, nurture me. But someone for me to love, to hold, to cherish, to protect. Freddy Mercury and Queen got it right when they sang that song:
Can anybody find me somebody to love?
Of course, once I find her, I expect some reciprocation in the physical intimacy and emotional intimacy departments. But you only get what you give.
Have a great weekend!
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Comment by lisaq
| November 14th, 2008
Great song! Glad you had a great date! Yay! :D
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Comment by debra
| November 14th, 2008
When I discovered that my goal was not to find a man to spoil me and treat me like a princess, (like misguided friends had advised), but to find a man I wanted to spoil, care for, care about and love, guess what I found? Yep! A man who I love to spoil, care for, care about and love, who spoils me back and treats me like a princess. Nice how these things work out!
I hope your weekend brings another no crazy, not bad date!
Comment by loriann
| November 14th, 2008
David,
I’m so glad you had a great date. That is wonderful!
Semantics aside ~ I find it’s interesting you write that you are looking for “somebody” to love, maybe “someone”?? Like the whole person! :-)
May all the special qualities and gifts you have to offer, be received by you in return!
Comment by Jimmy
| November 14th, 2008
Being a Bay area guy thought you would go with the classic Jefferson Airplane. . . . . . . .
Comment by Single Mom in New England
| November 14th, 2008
Woooo hooooo! So happy for you!! Maybe you’ll have to post the “Afternoon Delight” video again soon! Lol…
You’ll have to at least share with us how you met… so glad you had an awesome date!! :) Hope it turns into something awesome…!
Comment by Mad Cartoonist
| November 14th, 2008
Best of luck!
Comment by Single Mom Seeking
| November 14th, 2008
“You only get what you give.”
Amen.
I know that if I email you on the side, I still WON’T get any details… you’re so tough that way!
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Comment by Hadley
| November 14th, 2008
That’s great!
Comment by T
| November 14th, 2008
Ha! Rachel’s comment is SO true!!!
Amen! Of course you know I agree with your thoughts on this.
And I’m glad you had a good date. I’m treating myself to one tonight. I’m going to have a nice dinner with some friends. If I really treat myself well, I may even put out to myself later too! *giggle*
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Comment by dadshouse
| November 14th, 2008
Loriann – I was just matching Freddy Mercury’s lyrics, and he was just matching the 6/8 time signature of the song… some-bo-dy had 3 syllables. But you’re right, loving the whole person is better than loving just their body. Unless it’s a booty call… ha!
Rachel and T and all the other readers who try to pry information out of me through email (you know who you are) – I put a lot of personal stuff on a very public blog (as do you). Parts of my life I guard and hold close, mainly to respect the privacy of others. I know my approach doesn’t match everyone else’s, but I’m not an anonymous blogger, so it’s easier for me to hurt people if I say too much. Hence the occasional lack of details. Hope you can understand.
Comment by mama llama
| November 14th, 2008
Congratulations, Dads. It is true that, when you find that One that you love to love, the love will find its way back without you having to go in search of it. That’s a pretty solid sign, when such reciprocity does not occur, that something is not right (ie all give and no take).
I’m happy for you!! And I am certain you will have a wonderful weekend!
Be well, Dads.
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Comment by Lance
| November 14th, 2008
Ewwww, yuck!
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| November 14th, 2008
I’m with Lance on this one. ;)
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Comment by babbo
| November 14th, 2008
One of the best, most honest songs ever.
I’m lucky enough to have somebody to love, actually three people – my wife and my two boys. But this song still has meaning for me because I’m away from them for most of the day.
Not only is it depressing, it’s also frustrating to be lucky enough to have them but see so little of them. What sets in is a feeling of hopelessness that things will never change. i have to remind myself: this is only a feeling & things can change!
Peace,
babbo
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Comment by dadshouse
| November 14th, 2008
Lance and Teri – what’s yucky? My post, the concept, or those groovy haircuts in the video!
Comment by Exception
| November 14th, 2008
That is great that you had a “date.” And great that you are not talking, but I do have a question (I know, what is so unusual about that)
You have been single for 9 years. There are few single women in SF. How is it that you don’t know all of them by this point?? ;)
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| November 14th, 2008
All of the above. :)
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Comment by Leah
| November 14th, 2008
Dadshouse, this post has a lot of wisdom in it. Somehow when we stop making it all about what we can get and focus on what we can give…paradoxically, we get a lot more of what we want (if that makes ANY sense at all).
I like the secrecy. Sometimes the key to good writing is know what to reveal and what to conceal. Mystery is cool. Although, I will miss those bad date stories!
Leah´s last blog post..Full moon, full heart
Comment by dadshouse
| November 14th, 2008
Exception – there are millions of people living in the SF Bay Area. I don’t meet new women to date every day of the year. In those 9 years, I’ve been in a few relationships where I was only seeing one person for a long stretch of time. In short, there are plenty of single women I’ve yet to meet.
Teri – how do I stick my tongue out and razz you on a blog post? (haha – just kidding)
Leah – who says I will stop blogging about bad dates? This was one date, we’ll probably have a second, no idea where things will lead. And even if we do date, I have unpublished Dad’s House archives to tap into.
Crazy bad dates are a specialty around here.
Comment by Exception
| November 14th, 2008
That was a typo, I meant the Valley as yes there are millions in the Bay area! ;)
I can definitely appreciate the policy you are practicing here. I practice it as well!
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Comment by Honey
| November 14th, 2008
I say, woot!
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Comment by Laura
| November 14th, 2008
Glad you had a nice time D!!!
Good dates are really awesome :)
Heres to second dates (for us both)
(clearly we both got our mojos back baby!)
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Comment by NewWrldYankee
| November 14th, 2008
To continue with your song theme…”You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes..you get what you need”
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Comment by Lori
| November 15th, 2008
I think it’s honorable that you don’t kiss and tell (unless its bad or worse.)
Tell me though, I’ve always been a giving, loving person, and all I’ve gotten back so far was a cheating ex-husband, a boyfriend who ignored me and never gave anything in return, and a guy I dated recently who called me a stalker because I drove down his street the day after a really sweet date that we had. (And I live one block away from him, and was driving my kid over to a friends house.)
So don’t you ever get tired of being loving and giving, only to never get it in return?
Comment by dadshouse
| November 15th, 2008
Lori – the loving giving thing is a mental state of preparation. There are too many people who sit around pining for someone to rescue them from heartache. You have to take the bull by the horns and wrestle this dating/relationship thing.
That said, once I’m out there loving and giving, I totally expect reciprocation. If it’s one-sided and I feel taken advantage of, I’m out of there quick!
How do you spot a jerk? QTMama had a nice post on that recently…How do Women Spot a Jerk?
Comment by Sam
| November 15th, 2008
sounds like someone is grinning ear to ear =D
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Comment by PT-LawMom
| November 16th, 2008
Congrats on the great date! Hope it leads to something wonderful for you.
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Comment by Ms. Cheevious
| November 16th, 2008
Interesting how many people commented on this! See what happens? You put it out there, and the flood gates open! I am SURE you will find somebody to love. xo
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Comment by julie
| November 17th, 2008
That song is going to be in my head all night. I’m going to blame you if I have Freddie Mercury nightmares.
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