Comments on: Father Daughter Hit the Pump

By: D

Thu, 22 Jan 2009 02:42:00 +0000

DH I wish my ex had your point of view. We have three daughters and he is doing his best to raise them to be helpless and it makes me crazy. I am doing everything I can to teach them that they are clever, self-sufficent and capable of anything and I just hope and pray this lesson sticks. And Bravo to you

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 07:07:03 +0000

My daughter occasionally refs soccer for pay, and earns money through babysitting and chores. She’s eyeing a gig at the local Peet’s if she can find time between her AP courses and sports.

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 05:59:18 +0000

Also, DH, does your daughter have a job? I probably missed that in an earlier post. Wondering how she WOULD pay for gas on her own. Lance´s last blog post..Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 05:58:18 +0000

@Cathouse: Very well said. Loving ANYONE is definitely a choice you make, whether you like it or not. Lance´s last blog post..Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: Jorge Fitz-Gibbon

Jorge Fitz-Gibbon — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 22:05:14 +0000

Timely post, dadshouse. Sounds like you've done right in raising your daughter to be confident and self-sufficient, including financially. But I also think kids need to have a safe haven in their parents as well, and that extends to finances at times. Filling up her tank is a caring gesture and reaffirms in her mind that you are, ultimately, her protector, in whatever capacity. That doesn't undo the values you've instilled in her as a parent. I actually blogged last week on the question of children and the current financial crisis, and had two readers suggest that kids should learn to fend for themselves. I agree, but also think part of parenting is shouldering some burdens that children shouldn't necessarily need to carry, primarily younger children. The fact that your daughter appreciates your gesture and understands the love and nurturing behind it is a testament to your ability to balance these things. I commend you, and appreciate your sharing the story. Jorge Fitz-Gibbon´s last blog post..Eye-popping summer camp price increases

By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 21:02:11 +0000

Dr. Leah touches on an interesting point. When I was young, people would mention to me how lucky I was that I had such loving and caring parents. Honest to god, my response would be, "Isn't that their job?" As I got older, I realized that loving your children and being involved in their lives is a choice. There are many, many, many parents who do not choose to love their children rightly. This is not a natural imperative. Except in the sense that your morality is a choice. So we should never take for granted that someone loves us. They don't have to. Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..All The World's A Stage

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 18:32:01 +0000

Comments that create unnecessary categorizations, divisions, and stereotypes between men and women, or moms and dads, touch a sort spot, indeed.