Perfectly Normal Date
Dad’s House readers occasionally wonder why, if I say I’d like to be in a genuine romantic dating relationship, I seem to only blog about coffee date sex, dirty texting, and one night stands. Um, because it’s more interesting?
Lest any readers think I’m merely a slave to my “little head”, I thought I’d share details from a recent perfectly normal date.
Remember the women who manifested from my 8/8/08 request to the universe? The one who strolled into a restaurant where I was eating with my kids, and lit up the room (for me)? I flirted non-verbally with her during dinner, then approached her and asked her out, despite my kids being there.
Following that, she played hard to get, sending encouraging text messages (though, no sexy texting) only to disappear without a response. At the time I thought she might be date stacking, i.e. making plans with multiple men on the same night, only to choose one and snub the others. Turns out I was wrong!
A few weeks ago, she texted me out of the blue: Can u meet for drinks tonight?
Why not? My kids were with their mom, and I happened to be free. We picked a restaurant bar near her apartment and planned to meet at 8pm. I arrived fashionably early, as I’m wont to do on a date. It’s extremely poor form for a man to keep a woman waiting in the bar alone.
She wasn’t there yet, so I ordered a drink, and chatted up some fellow bar patrons. I scoped out two barstools, and kept my eye on the door.
A bit after eight, she texted me. (This woman and her texting. Oy.): I am here
She hadn’t come in the front door. Maybe the back? I looked around, but didn’t see her, so I texted a reply: So am I. Where r u?
She texted me: back corner table
I looked again. Lo and behold, there she was, hiding behind a party of four who were finishing up their meal.
I went over, and we got reacquainted. She was just as attractive and vibrant as I remembered. Turns out she arrived at the restaurant at 7:15 and had a bite. She saw me come in, and chose to watch me for a while (15 minutes!) before texting me. (WTF?!)
She explained that she’s the personal assistant for a Silicon Valley billionaire’s family. (I know which one, but for privacy reasons, won’t say.) He keeps her on-call 24/7, and if the family travels to one of their other homes (Montecito, etc), she often goes with them. In other words, she has no life of her own. This is why she kept flaking on me. She said she didn’t text back because she felt so bad, and she truly didn’t know when she’d be free. But she appreciated my persistence, and so she thought it would be nice to meet.
We both enjoyed getting to know each other. We both wanted to meet again.
And, of course, given our sketchy history of finding time when we were both available, we never got back together.
End of story.
Now then, aren’t you glad I don’t blog about perfectly normal, yet boring, dates?
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- Dream Woman Nightmare
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Comment by lisaq
| January 22nd, 2009
Sounds very nice and it just goes to show you that things are not always what they seem.
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Comment by SingleParentDad
| January 22nd, 2009
I didn’t find that boring, more intriguing and all part of my subconscious and lackadaisical research into the dating world.
She watched you, for a full fifteen minutes? What a way to check you out, but would think you, as the man, would have been branded a weirdo should the roles been reversed.
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Comment by MindyMom
| January 22nd, 2009
She got there before you and had a bite? Then watched you for 15 minutes? And you think she WASN’T date stacking? It is entirely possible she met someone there earlier then stayed afterward to meet you!
No, defintely not boring. Us bloggers can read between the lines, or fill them in with our imaginations when neccessary. ;)
Your comments were missed yesterday. Glad to have you and your compassionate man self back today!
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Comment by T
| January 22nd, 2009
Wow, SingleParentDad has a point…
Perfectly normal dates are good to blog about too. Just to remind everyone that you are a perfectly normal datable man!
Its sad that you guys haven’t been able to get together more but you never know when that “meet me for drinks?” text might come through again.
Have fun, DH!
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| January 22nd, 2009
I thought that was one of the most interesting stories you’ve ever written about a date. Not the least bit boring. I’m still not impressed with her. I have a job where I am on call 24/7. In fact, I had to move across the country on a moment’s notice ~ that’s how ON CALL I am. But I have a life and am able to maintain a relationship through it all.
It takes two to tango and I’m not sure she’s ready to tango. Not entirely sure you are, either.
Myself, I just think those encounters are fun. Just as I thought the encounter with you was fun. A little gem to put into my pocket and keep. :)
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Comment by Laura
| January 22nd, 2009
mmm – glad you got to the bottom of the whole thing but I prefer the other non-normal dates :-p
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Comment by dadshouse
| January 22nd, 2009
MindyMom – see, that’s why I love my female readers. My male ego would never have allowed the thought that she could have met someone else earlier that night in the same restaurant before I got there. Hearing you say it makes me think “Doh!” It’s quite possible.
Cathouse Teri – I don’t know how to tango. But I do a mean Texas Two-Step. And I agree, the encounter with you was great. Just so everyone knows, Teri has magical eyes. Intoxicating, really.
Comment by staciesmadness
| January 22nd, 2009
I like hearing about all your different kinds of dating.
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Comment by krn
| January 22nd, 2009
Yeah, I like the other kind of date stories. It’s nice to know you have regular dates, too. And that you met this woman again. Happy dating and flirting!
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| January 22nd, 2009
Texas Two-Step is soooooo much fun!
Still takes two, though. ;)
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Comment by Lee
| January 22nd, 2009
Hi, I’ve been reading your blog for awhile now but this is my first post. I don’t think this a boring story, I enjoy reading about real things (this is real, and most times real isn’t glamorous). Anyways thanks for always sharing your stories with us. You’ve even inspired me to start my own blog. it will be my new toy to play with. lol
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Comment by Exception
| January 22nd, 2009
Hmmm yes, it sounds like a normal date, but I have a feeling that this is just the bare bones of the evening. The chemistry, the flirtation, the energy is missing from this post. Perhaps it wasn’t there? If it was, the normal date can be just as fun and enjoyable to read about as all the others that you experienced!
Comment by Leah
| January 22nd, 2009
Hmm, I’m with the others that it doesn’t sound all that boring, beginning with the bold way in which you two met, the intrigue, the 15 minute restaurant stalk, and all.
Dad’s, it appears that your “normal – boring” is other people’s fascinating. Guess it’s all relative!
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Comment by Single Mom in New England
| January 22nd, 2009
Boo hoo! That’s the saddest thing I’ve seen since bawling my eyes out over Grey’s Anatomy tonight.
Comment by Ben
| January 22nd, 2009
Yes, more ‘boring’ date stories.
Anyway, i don’t think “an inability to find time” has anything to do with why you never got together again. She wasn’t that interested and you weren’t that interested. It’s trite, but true: When people are truly interested, they make time for the other person.
Comment by Lance
| January 23rd, 2009
Dude, that’s sketchy as balls that she spied on you for 15′ and texted that she was in the bar. WTF?? Why not just walk up to you after, say, 30 seconds and introduce herself? That’s what a normal, socially well-adjusted adult would do. This is the most bizarre, f’ed up date I’ve ever heard of. California chicks are crazy and all women are nutz.
Comment by Melany
| January 23rd, 2009
It’s still a very sweet story though!!!
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Comment by Vinomom
| January 23rd, 2009
I liked that story! Especially when it’s a follow up to a previous post. I like hearing the outcomes. Sucks to be her, though. I wouldn’t be beck and call to anyone for ANY kind of money. That reminds me of The Devil Wears Prada (the book)
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Comment by Amy
| January 23rd, 2009
I liked this post. Of course I also like hearing about the “wild” situations you find yourself in too. Both provide a very nice balance and probably a more accurate and whole picture of who you are.
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