Comments on: Online Dating Sucks

By: Mimi Lenox

Mimi Lenox — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 00:33:53 +0000

You took the words right out of my mouth and yet I continue to subject myself to the day-to-day negativity. That is the PERFECT word for it. It's not about rejection for me....but it can be soooo depressing. The age thing: I did a little research on a popular dating site not long ago. Out of 100 men who were exactly my age, only 15 of them preferred and were actively seeking women anywhere near my age. Most checked the 30-45 age range for a desired mate, even when they were in their early fifties. Women who have crossed the magic "50" number stand no chance of getting matches....unless, of course, they are 75. Sigh. Mimi Lenox´s last blog post..Mimi In A Minute #6 ~ The Peanut Episode

By: Sintaku

Sintaku — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:38:55 +0000

I’ve found online dating a bit troublesome too. Since I’m probably too young for it, the majority of women want men older than 23 and working.

I do work, but I am not looking for someone who is there for my money. Sad. Online dating does have the massive dose of rejection, but I have seen that many people have succeeded with it.

But if you do participate in online dating, do it safely.
http://blog.vintaku.com/2009/02/03/online-dating-safety-tips/

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:33:42 +0000

Dad

You mention married people visiting dating sites to test the waters first. I can’t believe (or I guess I can) there is a dating site for married people wanting to have an affair. Referring to the site that advertised during the Superbowl. Disgusting!

By: krn

krn — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 08:05:42 +0000

Online dating isn’t for everyone. I admire you brave souls that have given it a chance. After perusing the ads, it just didn’t feel right for me.

Blind date set ups by mutual friends have worked best for me. I met the two great loves of my life that way and a couple of wonderful male friends, also.

The last blind date prospect sounded great. In person, he reminded me of my ex enough to make me slightly uncomfortable, but I let that go and got to know him. When he drove up in his vehicle on a subsequent date and it was the exact make/model that my ex drives and then he greeted me with the same words my ex uses with me, I nearly hyperventilated. Some time later, I realized that he’s a very nice person with many other appealing qualities, but there was very little chemistry between us.

I’m starting to feel content and happy being alone. Enjoying a fun flirt pretty frequently has helped me remain open. Should someone interesting flirt back, I’ll quietly pass him my number. Until then, I plan on celebrating Valentine’s day with a great glass of wine (or a few) and a good read.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 06:39:26 +0000

Kat, I disagree (and I knew you’d respond like this!) I think online dating is worse than meeting in real life, especially compared to meeting friends of friends. Amy Nathan at Chicago Examiner Blog recently reported on a troubling statistic, that there are tons of married people visiting online dating sites, testing the water before they get a divorce. That’s terrible for singles looking for a lasting relationship. http://www.examiner.com/x-2443-Chicago-Single-Mom-Examiner~y2009m1d28-Troubling-data-for-online-dating

Badmuthablogger – thanks for sharing that post. Very funny stories there. Online dating is nuts, indeed.

By: badmuthablogger

badmuthablogger — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 06:11:27 +0000

I’ve only tried internet dating once, a LONG time ago, when match.com just got started. It was a total fiasco and very depressing http://badmuthablogger.com/2008/12/07/my-first-internet-dating-fiasco/
I’m dating through an introduction agency right now. And I’m going to be brave and give internet dating give it another go. I don’t how to meet men otherwise. Having a young baby means I’m at home almost all the time. The only people I see are other mums, and I keep telling them I want to start dating (thinking they might hook me up with their husband’s friends) but they all look at me blankly like I’m off my rocker. But I agree with single mom seeking, that it’s important to stay open to the possibilities, and by putting myself out online in the dating pool, means the Universe might throw me a fish to the side. You never know who’s lurking out there.

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By: Kat Wilder

Kat Wilder — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 05:46:24 +0000

All online sites do is open you up to the potential of meeting more people — no promises that they will be the right people for you. Thus it feels like more rejection. I think they are one way to meet people, no better or worse than any other way, as long as you keep expectations in check. As for Valentine's — there is nothing real about that "holiday" at all. If flowers, chocolates and a fancy dinner one day a year is someone's idea of romance ... well ... ugh. Kat Wilder´s last blog post..Does this relationship make me look fat?