Comments on: Online Dating Sucks

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:50:14 +0000

I went on Eharmony about a year ago. It was quite an experience. I had quite a few matches. Mostly they were overweight unattractive women that I would have never looked at or had any interest in offline.

I had several one time dates. They looked nothing like their pictures and their personalities were nothing like they described in their profiles.

I did go out with one match several times. I really liked her and we were having a pretty good time. I live in the Bay Area and she lived in Napa. It was a bit of a challenge with the distance but she was often in my area for business for the insurance industry so we were able to hook up fairly easily. At first everything seemed normal. But after a few weeks it became obvious that something was wrong. She seemed secretive and at times strange. It turned out she had a boyfriend and was being treated for bipolar disorder. Nice! Needless to say I moved on

All-in-all my eharmony experience was disappointing and I do not recommend online dating. Unless you are unattractive, overweight, lacking social skills or are just a weirdo in general then online dating is not for you.

By: Lee

Lee — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:48:57 +0000

I did not like match.com because I felt that many of the men on there were looking for Barbie dolls. I found that Singlesnet.com had men of more substance, although some of them were strange, shallow, and ridiculous. If I had to recommend one dating service out of all the rest, it would be singlesnet.com. You automatically get people on your screen that are in the general area, although you can search for people all over the United States. The men I met there was less strange than some of the men I had correpsonded on other dating sites, although there are some real doosies on there. The most significant romance I ever had was with a man I met on Singlesnet.com. I also met a friend on there too.

By: Mimi Lenox

Mimi Lenox — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 00:33:53 +0000

You took the words right out of my mouth and yet I continue to subject myself to the day-to-day negativity. That is the PERFECT word for it. It's not about rejection for me....but it can be soooo depressing. The age thing: I did a little research on a popular dating site not long ago. Out of 100 men who were exactly my age, only 15 of them preferred and were actively seeking women anywhere near my age. Most checked the 30-45 age range for a desired mate, even when they were in their early fifties. Women who have crossed the magic "50" number stand no chance of getting matches....unless, of course, they are 75. Sigh. Mimi Lenox´s last blog post..Mimi In A Minute #6 ~ The Peanut Episode

By: Sintaku

Sintaku — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:38:55 +0000

I’ve found online dating a bit troublesome too. Since I’m probably too young for it, the majority of women want men older than 23 and working.

I do work, but I am not looking for someone who is there for my money. Sad. Online dating does have the massive dose of rejection, but I have seen that many people have succeeded with it.

But if you do participate in online dating, do it safely.
http://blog.vintaku.com/2009/02/03/online-dating-safety-tips/

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:33:42 +0000

Dad

You mention married people visiting dating sites to test the waters first. I can’t believe (or I guess I can) there is a dating site for married people wanting to have an affair. Referring to the site that advertised during the Superbowl. Disgusting!

By: krn

krn — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 08:05:42 +0000

Online dating isn’t for everyone. I admire you brave souls that have given it a chance. After perusing the ads, it just didn’t feel right for me.

Blind date set ups by mutual friends have worked best for me. I met the two great loves of my life that way and a couple of wonderful male friends, also.

The last blind date prospect sounded great. In person, he reminded me of my ex enough to make me slightly uncomfortable, but I let that go and got to know him. When he drove up in his vehicle on a subsequent date and it was the exact make/model that my ex drives and then he greeted me with the same words my ex uses with me, I nearly hyperventilated. Some time later, I realized that he’s a very nice person with many other appealing qualities, but there was very little chemistry between us.

I’m starting to feel content and happy being alone. Enjoying a fun flirt pretty frequently has helped me remain open. Should someone interesting flirt back, I’ll quietly pass him my number. Until then, I plan on celebrating Valentine’s day with a great glass of wine (or a few) and a good read.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 06:39:26 +0000

Kat, I disagree (and I knew you’d respond like this!) I think online dating is worse than meeting in real life, especially compared to meeting friends of friends. Amy Nathan at Chicago Examiner Blog recently reported on a troubling statistic, that there are tons of married people visiting online dating sites, testing the water before they get a divorce. That’s terrible for singles looking for a lasting relationship. http://www.examiner.com/x-2443-Chicago-Single-Mom-Examiner~y2009m1d28-Troubling-data-for-online-dating

Badmuthablogger – thanks for sharing that post. Very funny stories there. Online dating is nuts, indeed.