Dream Woman Nightmare
Remember the single mom who dreamed about me? In her dream I sat with her on an Irish cliff overlooking the ocean. When she asked who I was, I told her about my blog. When she woke up in real life, she found Dad’s House and emailed me. We ended up chatting, swapping pics, texting, talking on the phone. She was going to move to the Bay Area for work reasons, and we planned to meet, and even date.
And then she disappeared without a trace.
Okay, there was some trace. She told me she went to live with some extended family in another country, while tending to personal matters. Problem was, she didn’t respond to any of my attempts to reach her.
After a while, I started to think the whole thing was more than a case of bad timing, it quite possibly was a hoax or a scam. I let my dream woman drift back off into dream land…
And then one day she texted me. She was back in the country, on the east coast, and promised she still intended to move to the Bay Area. But another few months passed (see why I didn’t blog about any of this?)… until one day she called and we talked on the phone. Turns out she and her kids had moved to the Bay Area, and she promised we’d get together soon.
Wow! I couldn’t wait. Finally, after all these months of being patient, I would meet this women who seemed destined to play some role in my life.
I should have guessed it would be a total crap shoot when I’d hear from her again.
Weeks later (i.e. last week), she called and left me a voicemail.
Hi, David. Remember me? I’m the woman who dreamed of you. I’m so sorry to tell you, but I’ve met someone. He’s everything I dreamed of, and I’m dating him. I just wanted to say, sorry for all the delays, but I won’t be meeting you.
He’s everything she dreamed of? Hey, wait a minute! She dreamed about me, first! Don’t I get dreaming squatters rights, or something? And even if some new guy entered the scene, aren’t threesomes okay in dream land, and sometimes preferred? (Just kidding.)
Given the unique circumstances around the initial dream, you’d think she’d want to at least meet.
Okay, so this single mom wasn’t so dreamy, after all. At least I’ve got three nude women showering with me in my dreams.
As for dating, I’ll stick to reality. It’s so much more real.
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Comment by Dr. Leah
| February 16th, 2009
Interesting tale.
Reality is typically your best bet. I’ve learned to live in the present, which saves a lot of time.
Dr. Leah’s last blog post..I’m worried about my child’s future relationship choices
Comment by loriann
| February 16th, 2009
Silly David
Threesome okay? If you were polyamorous ~ you’d still be with the Brazilian? She was Brazilian, yes? ~ hot Wine Country date ~ or was that the exhibitionist ~ or one in the same? Funny ~ restless, dreamy night myself ~ I think it was the strawberry margarita and excellent Mexican food last night that did me in!
I’m still interested in the tantric Valentine exercise….waiting patiently!
Comment by Ambar
| February 16th, 2009
Wow, this is just too much.
You should get back in her dreams and kick the other guy out of the picture! ;)
But, I don’t know, was this for real? I mean, after all the delays and troubles, suddenly she’s not even interested in meeting you… sounds a little shady to me.
Anyway, something better is gonna happen to you. Keep the spirit up!
Comment by MindyMom
| February 16th, 2009
Yeah Dads, we want to hear about the tantra goddess you got matched with!
I think the “dream woman” sounds a little shady. Something was off with that whole scenario. You are better off.
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 16th, 2009
There’s always something shady about “dream women.” It’s just so odd when someone comes on sooooo strong and then just disappears, isn’t it? I am very happy when such a one moves on.
So yeah… what’s with thinking you can distract us from the tantric goddess valentine story by tossing out the story of the lame-ass dream woman? (I, for one, do not believe you’ve heard the last of her, btw.)
Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..Nah… I’m Not Jaded ~
Comment by Wendy
| February 16th, 2009
I second Teri’s feeling.
Dreams will turn to nightmares, and she’ll be knocking on your door.
Wendy´s last blog post..You (to the 12th power)
Comment by Laura
| February 16th, 2009
Oh no man what a let down!
I would still definately want to meet if you I dreamt about you in the way she did!
Well at least I suppose you have closure?
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Comment by Amy
| February 16th, 2009
Damn. All that anticipation. Sorry! But what kind of “dream girl” does she think she is? She could still meet up with you. Maybe in person the “sparks” would have flown better with you that her new dream man. Seems like she is being kind of small minded and limiting herself. Of course, i don’t think she should date you both – but maybe you guys were meant to be great friends or something else – other than lovers? Sounds like she missed an opportunity to meet up with a good guy – I agree with everyone else – you are far better off.
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Comment by T
| February 16th, 2009
Oh wow. That was unexpected. Weird.
Hmmm… yeah, we’d rather hear about reality too!
T´s last blog post..Little Valentines
Comment by The Exception
| February 16th, 2009
Some times dreams are better left in the world of Nod. And, I would think Teri might be correct in suggesting that she may appear again… hey she might be reading this.
Spring is on the way… and one never knows what can happen in spring! Lots of things… bloom… like love?
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Comment by Attainingme
| February 16th, 2009
Great story . . . but yes, seems a little fishy. And I find it odd that she failed to be communicative but yes communicates that she met someone.
Attainingme´s last blog post..The mare and the stars
Comment by Janet
| February 16th, 2009
Interesting story, but something about it definitely seems fishy to me. Maybe she’s an attention-seeker and likes being talked about on your blog. At any rate, I have a feeling you are better off not having met her.
Janet´s last blog post..And while we’re on the subject of love….
Comment by SingleParentDad
| February 16th, 2009
Sounds like you had a, not so, lucky escape. It reads like you are better off without this lady via this the strange connection. And, in any case, I’d rather you blogged about the naked chicks in your dreams. Thank you, please.
SingleParentDad´s last blog post..School’s Out
Comment by ditz
| February 16th, 2009
Dads, my theory is that her family arranged for her to meet someone on her visit to her home country. That could explain why she so readily dropped out of sight.
Besides, with her in the picture we wouldn’t get all these great stories!
Comment by katherine.
| February 16th, 2009
I’m in agreement…there is more to the dream girl’s story than she is telling you…and she could very well be reading this.
however (drumming fingers on laptop) where is the white hot tale from your valentine’s day gig?
katherine.´s last blog post..be good at life
Comment by dadshouse
| February 16th, 2009
Yeah, I wish this woman who dreamed of me had actually met me, even just to me friends or real life acquaintences. I mean, we talked on the phone multiple times, and seemed to hit it off when we were communicating.
Ditz – I know enough of her extended family story that I don’t think they set her up. I think she met someone when she moved out here. In real life.
Dr Leah – living in the present and worrying about the future seem at odds to me.
Ambar – yeah, I should go kick this dream guy’s ass in dream land!
Teri – yeah, people who come on strong then disappear are something, aren’t they? Remember my texting vs. calling woman? She re-appeared – AGAIN! (I’ll go update that post with a comment)
Hot tantra update will come tomorrow! Enjoy President’s Day, if you’re reading this in the US.
Comment by krn
| February 16th, 2009
Well, thanks for the update on dream woman. Dad’s, it’s all a bit strange, with the coming on strong, disappearing, then this new info. from her. Be wary. I agree that it’s probably not over yet with her.
Comment by Edgar
| February 16th, 2009
Dads – like most of your readers, I had been waiting with bated breath to hear what happened to the Irish lass – she sounded so promising. Ah, well – like you’ve noted about online dating – one shouldn’t get one’s expectations too high until one has had a chance to meet in person. It did seem a little suspicious that it took her so long to get to that point.
Happy Prez’s day – the weather seems to be lightening – maybe a good long ride will bring it all into perspective.
Comment by justrun
| February 16th, 2009
That’s what we here in the country (or from the country, rather) call All Hat and No Cattle.
(Translation: All talk and no balls.)
Comment by Susan
| February 16th, 2009
As they say, truth is stranger than fiction — and this might just make a good character or situation for your next novel. (How do you think I came up with some of mine in my story? Thank you, dating!) :)
Comment by Lori
| February 16th, 2009
She’s definitely a flake. I think she had read your blog and made up the whole dream story. The whole story was too far-fetched.
IF it was real, she definitely would have met you.
Anyways, sweet dreams to you tonight.
Comment by donna
| February 17th, 2009
dang, kind of a disappointment (i was keeping a look-out for an update on this one). but i agree with others here that i think there is a lot she is not telling you. some things best left undone….
thanks for the update nonetheless.
Comment by Canadian Bald Guy
| February 17th, 2009
Well….that certainly sucks.
You’re definitely better off not even meeting this woman in person. It’s been a jerk-you-around-fest since Day One, from the sounds of it.
Comment by Vinomom
| February 17th, 2009
I read this yesterday but didn’t get a chance to comment. I’ve been waiting for this update and I guess this is why. I wanted to find out if this chick was for real and shit like that really happens, or if she was a sketchy loon.
Obviously the latter.
I wouldn’t touch this woman w/ a ten foot pole. Sounds like you got away easy.
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 17th, 2009
Vinomom, do you think David might have a ten-foot pole? ;)
Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..Nah… I’m Not Jaded ~
Comment by QTMama
| February 17th, 2009
DH, between the women you meet and the men I meet? We should get some of them together and all go bowling. It’d be one helluva a hoot. *eye roll*
QTMama´s last blog post..The Proverbial Blind Date
Comment by dadshouse
| February 17th, 2009
Teri – I have a 20 foot pole! You know should know that by now.
QTMama – they probably date each other already. In fact, they’re probably bowling with each other – without us! (I agree, we both meet some crazies. And here I said on your blog that you’re just a normal dating adult. Like me! Ha)
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 17th, 2009
Hee hee.
Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..Nah… I’m Not Jaded ~
Comment by Nicole
| February 21st, 2009
“Don’t I get dreaming squatters rights”
LoL, I actually laughed aloud at that part.
But I really am sorry that you were so excited to meet this woman for so long and never got to!
Nicole´s last blog post..Random Musings…
Comment by Sarah Timbers
| January 15th, 2010
That’s quite a disappointment. But I think it taught you a lesson that some girls are players. They would give you hopes but would be in search of other people who might be better suited to her.
It’s a shame that you had such experience but at least now you will know what to watch out for.