Tantric Breathing Exercise
When it was time for the couples’ tantric breathing exercise at my Valentine’s Day beginners white tantra workshop, I paired myself up with the woman I shared the most chemistry with. Even though we were total strangers before that night, we felt at ease in each other’s presence. To top it off, she was attractive. A new-age hottie, for sure.
We sat on the floor with knees raised, leaning back on weird chairs that supported our backs. (A couch or pile of pillows could have sufficed.) The chairs were side by side, allowing us to face each other. We were told to place our right hand on the other’s heart chakra, and our left hand on the other’s right hand, making a circuit with our arms. The way we sat enabled us to rest our right arm on the other’s bent right leg. It was quite comfortable, if you can handle having a stranger’s palm in the center of your breast.
Next, we gazed into each other’s eyes, and did tantric breathing in unison. The effect was entrancing.
A tantric breath is deep. You feel it all the way down in your lower belly, near the chakras associated with sex. Think of a tantric breath as the most relaxing and fulfilling breath you can take. (It might be hard for some people to do with a stranger’s hand on their breast!) For the exhalation, we let out an audible sigh. Sort of like an orgasmic wail.
I have to tell you, with a room full of people performing tantric breathing, couples in unison, exhaling orgasmically, it made us chuckle a bit. There’s nothing like hearing some guy across the room get a little overly exuberant with his wail.
But compared to one-on-one white tantra sessions I’ve done, this tantric breathing was far easier. When I was alone with a tantrika, I felt extremely subconscious letting out a throaty wail. Tantric breathing in a group setting made me just another lemming getting off.
My partner and I got into a locked rhythm of tantric breath, combined with deep, intense, loving, caring, desiring gazing. I lost track of everything except the shared moment. And then the energy started to rise from within.
Sexual energy stirs in the root chakra, near the sit bone, and makes its way up the spine. While this particular class didn’t go into the concept of kundalini energy rising, my partner and I (separately) had previously gotten more advanced white tantra instruction, so we knew how to work with it.
The idea behind tantric breath is to remain focused on the moment, and not become sexually out-of-control. i.e. rather than rush into screwing your way to release, you simply let the energy rise all the way up the spine to the top of your head. Imagine getting your rocks off, but not actually getting off, and instead just witnessing the energy rising. That takes a lot of control! Tantric breath makes it possible.
To make a long orgasm short, my partner and I went with the flow. When the energy rose to our heart chakras, I felt a noticeable shift. Our hands were there, after all. The connection was complete. It’s like someone turned the turbo boosters on. We kept riding the wave, and let the energy rise some more.
When your body is filled with sexual energy like that, if you act on it and have sex, you’re engaging in red tantra. Sitting there with our clothes on in a room full of people, I’ll call this color of tantra pink.
I can’t say tantric breath got our sexual energy all the way up to the seventh chakra. When it gets that high and the crown opens, a torrent of universal spirit rushes in, and full body orgasm occurs. But we did reach a six. Not bad for keeping our clothes on.
When the energy finally dipped back down to the root chakra, neither of us wanted to stop. We stayed sitting, gazing, touching each other’s hearts for a long time. Tantric breathing is powerful stuff.
Did cupid’s arrow strike us in the ass that night? I’ll admit, a red tantra valentine would have been sublime.
But I don’t tantra and tell.
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Comment by Ambar
| February 18th, 2009
I knew it!
I’m such a fool :)
Yesterday I sort of knew that if you were gonna continue these story, the color red was not involved (because you don’t tantra and tell), maybe a shade: pink.
But, still… I’m intrigued with all tantra stuff. Happy that you looking and finding places to play with your (sexy) energy.
Comment by Ambar
| February 18th, 2009
Now… what’s with the picture? ;)
Comment by mama llama
| February 18th, 2009
Wow, Dads.
I wonder if the tantra breathing will help kick a headache out…
Sounds marvelous. Are there a lot of partners that go to these sessions? Are they mainly singles? What is the profile, generally? Costly? Any suggested reads, or is this something best practiced under training?
Just curious–always willing to expand my horizons.
Be well, Dads.
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Comment by MindyMom
| February 18th, 2009
What an incredible experience – and a new way for Dads to pick up!;)
I think sharing that kind of intimacy with someone you barely know could very easily lead to some RED HOT stuff!
Pink is a good start though.
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 18th, 2009
Oh forfucksake!
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Comment by Kat Wilder
| February 18th, 2009
Crap, does that mean I’ve been breathing wrong, too?
Well, I know it sounds all new agey, and anyone outside of California might lump this into the crunchy-granola-Birkenstock-eco stereotype we Californians have (as Cathouse so delicately expresses!), but I suppose it makes some sense.
Being aware of your breathing does affect heart rate, etc. And of course, touch is amazing foreplay. So, you gave yourself a very nice Valentine’s indeed, Dads, although some 70 percent dark chocolate would have worked, too, no?
;-)
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Comment by QTMama
| February 18th, 2009
*grin* CatHouse Teri sorta said it all, didn’t she?
And you do too Tantra and Tell. ;) COME ON PLEASE?
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Comment by krn
| February 18th, 2009
There was a white tantra demo at a workshop I attended on Maui once. My boss was also at this workshop and he invited me to sign up for the tantra classes with him. Ummmm, that seemed a tad inappropriate, so I had to pass! The demo was intriguing and it was pretty hot to watch. I wasn’t sure what was going to happen next.
Glad you had a wonderful time, Dad’s. What a great Valentine to yourself and your tantra partner.
Comment by T
| February 18th, 2009
I love this. You described it SOOOO very well David. I knew there’d be some kundalini rising somewhere in there.
And the fact that you don’t “tantra and tell”, is very good news!
;)
Teri’s comment is awesome. Thanks for the, um, build up, David.
**T runs off to find a “release”**
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Comment by Edgar
| February 18th, 2009
Ironically, Kat, various interpreters of the Tantric tradition do comment about the over-emphasis of the California Tantric practitioners on orgasmic pleasure. But tantric approaches have been incorporated into many strains of religious practice, includng Indian, Chinese, Tibetan and Japanese Buddhism, Jainism and Hinduism. It usually means a practice focused on integrating and balancing Shiva and Shakti within ourselves, taking a Rousseau-esque approach to the world by embracing nature and the corporeal world, rather than rejecting it. It’s rigorous, as David describes, and requires self-awareness that can be painful and startling, but the benefits can be phenomenal, as he also notes. My only question is – does this make booty calls less appealing, David (if they don’t include the connection that you describe)?
Comment by katherine.
| February 18th, 2009
I seem to remember posts where you DID tell…
Obviously Tantra practice can be very intensely intimate. Not sure I’d want to play with a stranger…in a group of strangers.
interesting question edgar raises…
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Comment by dadshouse
| February 18th, 2009
Edgar – great summary of tantra! Very well said. This particular class didn’t go into that depth since it was beginners tantra, but you are right that there’s much more to it, and it can be quite rigorous.
As for booty calls losing their appeal – sure, they are less appealing. But just because you run out of Napa cabernet, does that mean you won’t drink two-buck chuck? It’s all relative. Tantra heightens sex. But sex is still sex (i.e. good)
Ambar – about the picture. I was searching for something with yogis from India, or angels, or something ethereal. But then I realized, tantra can be practiced by anyone, anywhere. Two people in a pickup truck can do tantric breathing together. A lot of teens making out already do.
Mama Llama – this class cost $25. In San Francsico, it would be $35 – $40. Though sometimes they want you to sign up for 3 or 6 classes, and get hundreds of dollars up front. A one-on-one class would be more expensive. This particular class only had singles in it, and the instructor made sure ahead of time it was gender balanced.
Kat – I know women love chocolate and compare it an orgasm, but it just doesn’t do it for me!
Krn – ewwww. How weird that your boss wanted you to do it with him. That’s crossing a border, I think.
Katherine – the thing about tantra, is if you focus on spirits connecting, it doesn’t matter that the other person is a stranger to you. Your spirits know each other, or are at least acquainted. (Que the endless loop of new-age music!)
Comment by shani
| February 18th, 2009
This sounds awesome, Of course it could be your ‘way with words’ that makes it so enticing. I did a quick Google search and I do not see this offered in my area.
My friend and I have a real hard time finding good local single spots in our local.
Sans moving to the bigger city we may be out of luck.
Love your writing.
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Comment by PhenomenalMama
| February 18th, 2009
BAH!
Did you at least get her number?????
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Comment by Canadian Bald Guy
| February 18th, 2009
Jeez…you actually got me a bit excited with your story. I’m slightly uncomfortable now…
:-P
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Comment by Lance
| February 19th, 2009
Kinda cool. This is a totally West Coast Cali-style type of thing to do on Valentine’s Day…as far as I know, we don’t have this in O-Town, Florida.
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Comment by Mama Dharma
| February 19th, 2009
That is just phenomenally, completely, utterly hot. Damn.
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Comment by ilinap
| February 20th, 2009
Dude, I could hardly get past that picture to read your words. Probably a good thing since it’s more heat than I can handle.
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Comment by movin down the road
| February 24th, 2009
me guy and i talk about going to something like this. Seeing that we buy each other books on tantric, well, tantric-everything.
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