Sweet Pick Up Lines for Any Occasion
As some single moms have recently pointed out, blind dates suck. Mindy had four blind dates in five weeks, and didn’t feel a click with any of her suitors. QTMama actually had a blind date yawn in front of her. (Apparently, her date didn’t get Frank Sinatra’s Rat Pack memo.)
If blind dates don’t work, how on earth do people meet?
Um… in real life? It’s worked for me. Using sweet pick up lines is easier than you think.
In nine years of divorce, I’ve met a ton of women online and some through blind dates, but the majority of times that a woman became my girlfriend, our dating relationship started with me using a sweet pick up line in real life – at BBQs, dinner parties, birthday parties, bars, even an insurance office.
Here are some sweet pick up lines that have worked for me.
You have a great smile – this is the sweetest, most genuine pick up line I have ever used, mainly because I only used it when I really felt it (i.e. it was genuine.) Every time, it worked like a charm. I met my first reiki master this way in a bar. I met a girlfriend (who later became a lover) this way at a friend’s party. Both times these women had smiles that completely lit up the room – for me, anyway. Of all the sweet pick up lines, this came most naturally.
I couldn’t help noticing you, and wanted to introduce myself – I learned this bit of sweet talk from a hottie girlfriend I dated when I was in my thirties. She said it was the one pick up line sweet enough to work on her every time. And guys had used it on her a lot. (Unfortunately, some of them used it on her while she was dating me. Doh! She and I had fun while it lasted.)
Are you a single mom? – I said this to an insurance agent when we were going over my policy, showing sweet pick up lines can work in a professional setting. I’d already overheard her talking with a secretary about her daughter, and it seemed clear she was going it solo at home. She was quite attractive, and not wearing a ring. At some point between coverage and premiums, I simply busted out this sweet line. It melted her like butter, especially since I followed it up with “I’m a single dad.” We ended up dating for a few months, but could never get our schedules totally in sync. (She was a full-time mom, and I’m a half-time dad.)
Hi, you look great – okay, this line wasn’t really used for pick up. I said it to a woman I was set up with blind by friends. She really did look great. We dated more than a year. I also used this line when I first met a woman from match.com who I ended up dating. (She was the one woman I met online who I saw for more than three dates.)
Did you try the barbecue corn? – I admit, this is not a sweet pick up line to use in a bar, or anywhere except a big backyard BBQ or block party. I used it at the latter on an attractive woman with whom I had instant chemistry. Funny how that chemistry thing comes out so quickly in person. We dated for a few months. (Idiot tip: make sure there is corn on the BBQ, or it won’t sound genuine. Grilled asparagus will work in a pinch.)
So, the next time a blind date (or thought of one) makes you cringe, head out in real life and use one of these sweet talk pick up lines.
Just don’t yawn when you use it.
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Comment by MindyMom
| February 27th, 2009
I think any of those would work on me. #1 and #2 have and probably a variation of the last one. Why are you still single???
Did you say only ONE online encounter reached a third date? Wow, more proof that doesn’t work too well.
Thanks for the link love Dads!
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Comment by C
| February 27th, 2009
I agree with MindyMom. #1 and #2 are the best. Either of those would get a good response from me. And another line that is underappreciated: “Hi, I’m ______. What’s your name?” (Although it is similar. Simple and un-contrived is best.
Then again, last night I saw milk and the line that Harvey uses at the beginning is cute. He sees a guy and says, “Today is my birthday,” and then he smiles and invites him to come and celebrate with him. The guy hesitates, but he insists, leaning in closer and grinning with these great Sewan Penn laugh lines. lol
It’s sweet, not rude, and I leaned over during the film and asked my friend, “How come no guy has ever used a line like that on me? That would totally work.”
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 27th, 2009
Oddly, most of the idiotic men I’ve dated have come from the “real life pool.”
These are good pick up lines, but they only worked (as you pointed out) because they weren’t lines.
Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..Nah… I’m Not Jaded ~
Comment by Vinomom
| February 27th, 2009
Yeah I think Teri has it right – they aren’t really lines, just conversation openers. And since they were genuine when you said them, thats probably why they worked.
Number 1, 2 and 3 would probably all work on me. If I weren’t in a relationship, I would definitely love to meet a single dad. (that doesn’t mean you pay child support, it means you actually spend time with your kids)
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Comment by QTMama
| February 27th, 2009
Yup, ALL of these are good ways to start a conversation with someone you have some interest in. I agree wholeheartedly. And, it’s so much better than …
“Hey! You have something on your ass!”
“I do?” As I’m about to turn around and peer at my own butt.
“Yes! It’s my EYES”
::sigh::
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 27th, 2009
Sam: Don’t tell her? WTF? I’m thinking this is a public site where you’re telling these “secrets.” Sure, I can’t speak for David (or everyone here) but I’m gonna go ahead and go out on a limb and say that your kind of “help” is not welcome here. Or anywhere else. Two sides to every story? I’d say there are more like a million. We all know that. This disclosure is of no use.
[Ed. Note: someone named "Sam" left a malicious comment regarding another blogger. I'm not a big fan of comments like that, so I have hidden it from view. Teri's comment, and T's both refer to this now-missing comment.]
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Comment by PhenomenalMama
| February 27th, 2009
Pretty much any “pick up line” would work for me, given that the chemistry is right. Hell, even the cheesy ones, if delivered with a sense of humour, would work for me (geez, am I too easy??? lol).
In any case, if a connection is there, it’s there. But by the same token, if it’s not, no amount of pick up lines in the world is going to change that.
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Comment by debra
| February 27th, 2009
My all time favorite ‘pick-up’ line, heard this week at my son’s cubscout meeting, from a very sweet single Dad; “What, no glitter?!” I had brought a seemingly bottomless box of craft supplies for the boys to make a project, and after unloading it, the ONLY thing I hadn’t brought was glitter. Funny, sweet, made me laugh!
Comment by T
| February 27th, 2009
Wow Mindy. Cyber-stalkers following you to other blogs now? Wow. Apparently your life is so interesting that they think you’re making it up?! That’s hilarious!
*sigh* Whattya gonna do?
Anyway…
Yes, David, I agree that these are all great because they aren’t lines, as many have pointed out. Who needs lines? Just genuinely say something kind and I will appreciate it immensely! And if there’s chemistry, I’ll be giving many signs that there’s more to come!!!
Just try to show interest in more than once facet of me… as I’ve blogged about today.
T´s last blog post..Dating woes, plans and being adored
Comment by dadshouse
| February 27th, 2009
I agree, being genuine is the key! My point for writing this sweet pick up lines post is that it’s not that hard to meet people in real life. Just say something nice and heartfelt. It doesn’t have to be dazzling. (Unless there’s glitter involved, then dazzle away. Debra, that was too funny)
My other point with sweet pick up lines is that meeting people through friends is an excellent way to go. Rather than have friends “set me up” on a blind date (that only worked once for me, and didn’t work way too many times – not even close) – just go to parties when your friends throw them. I’ve met several women at parties, and sweet talk comes naturally in person. We ended up dating for long stretches. The mutual friend helps level the playing field and encourages you to play nice. (i.e. no last-minute date cancellations or date-stacking.
Mindy – only one woman I met online turned into an actual girlfriend. I might have seen some for more than three dates, i.e. four or five dates. But only one became a genuine dating relationship. Online dating has worked for me to meet people and learn about myself, but it has not worked for me to find a girlfriend. Online dating expectations are often out of whack.
btw – I removed the cyber-stalking comment. (I have detailed info about that person in case they pop up again). Let’s keep things focused on sweet pick up lines.
Comment by dadshouse
| February 27th, 2009
I just removed a bunch of comments. Please, people, take your fights elsewhere. I encourage debate and differing opinions, but try to stay on topic to the post – in this case, sweet pick up lines. If you’re just going to put each other down about stuff that’s happening on other blogs, I will delete what you wrote. That goes for everyone.
On blogging – we all have our moods, and writing about emotions can be cathartic. Sometimes the rough and raw gets put on display. That’s part of the process. I had one female reader say in a review of my blog that she reads Dad’s House because she is fascinated “in a train wreck sort of way” about the dating stories of others. I make mistakes and bad choices, and I happily blog about some of them. I try to stay detached enough from what I write that if readers attack me or my actions, I don’t allow myself to get hurt. (Knock on wood, that’s worked pretty well to date.)
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 27th, 2009
You say you’ve got wood?
(new pickup line to discuss.. hee hee)
Cathouse Teri´s last blog post..How Much Is Too Much? How Little Is Too Little?
Comment by Wendy
| February 27th, 2009
I don’t know where I read this. If it was here, I will be really embarrased.
It is not so much of a pick up line as a pick up techinque.
You see someone interesting. You ask them to borrow their cell phone. Using it, you call your cell phone.
Now, you have their number!
(Please tell me this was not something I read here….)
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Comment by T
| February 27th, 2009
Ha! I love you Teri.
And wood is always good David!
;)
T´s last blog post..Dating woes, plans and being adored
Comment by dadshouse
| February 27th, 2009
Wendy – nope, I never said that one here. Not sure I’d do that technique without asking them to call me. Some people don’t want to give their number out.
A variation on it that my buddy tried once: toss your cell phone into their car or purse, then call your cell phone from your buddy’s phone. They can’t help but answer! Then again, you may never get your cell phone back.
Ok, I’ll stick to sweet pick up lines. T and Teri – are you saying I should approach a woman and start talking about lumber? I didn’t know women were so into carpenters!
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| February 27th, 2009
Noooooooooo… I’m saying it’s a line I’m gonna use on the next man I wanna pick up!
I love the cell phone idea. I can just imagine a man walking up and asking me to use my phone, and then he proceeds to ring his phone. Then hands mine back to me with a wink, saying, “I just wanted your number.” Could work. Depending on the man. :)
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Comment by MindyMom
| February 27th, 2009
Yes Teri, I like it too. But you wouldn’t let just any man use your phone would you? He’d have to have some redeeming qualities at first glance, no?
But I do think being genuine is what comes accross. If it’s truly a “line” we see that and roll the eyes.
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Comment by Janet
| February 27th, 2009
Any witty comment would probably work for me. :)
Any “pickup line” would not.
Thankfully, yours really AREN’T pickup lines, at least in the traditional sense. I’m sure that’s why they work!
Janet´s last blog post..I’m becoming a big ol’ softy.
Comment by krn
| February 27th, 2009
Genuine works. :) These don’t sound like lines at all. Just friendly comments and conversation starters.
The phone borrow idea might work for me, but not if it seemed contrived or too polished.
Comment by Elaine at Lipstickdaily
| February 28th, 2009
I totally agree . . . anything genuine will likely work. Plus, if there’s something you genuinely find attractive about the other person . . . there’s a good chance there will be chemistry.
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Comment by Canadian Bald Guy
| February 28th, 2009
It’s been a LONG time since I had actually used a sweet pick-up line. I mean, I’ve used conversation with a women to move from “Stage One” to “Stage “Two” of a relationship…but it’s been over 10 years since I think I even thought about using a line.
But I have to go back to Cathouse Teri’s comment at the top of this thread, because I think it’s true that the lines probably worked best because they weren’t actually lines…rather they were genuine and based in truth.
I’d like to think that women are smart enough to see through cheesy pick-up lines.
Unless, of course, they don’t care and just want to go with it. :-P
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Comment by dadshouse
| February 28th, 2009
I hope we can all agree that cheesy pick up lines work great at a fondue party… (haha) Sweet pick up lines never had it so good.
Canadian Bald Guy – how do you meet women cold in real life without an approach? Or do you just kick into conversation? I mean, you have to say something first. Using sweet pick up lines or not, I agree that being genuine is the key.
Elaine – I totally agree with you! In fact, if there is something about a woman that I find genuinely attractive, I find myself compelled to talk to her before I have time to think of any pick up lines, sweet or not.
As sweet pick up lines go, here’s some humor that worked: a fear years back I was at a San Francisco art exhibit that was showing wood prints of China. Many of the prints were pictures of the then-Emperor. An slinky woman nearby was giving me the eye, so I came up close. She asked me “can you imagine putting a picturer of your country’s leader on the wall of your living room?” Without blinking, I said “Sure. I have George W. Bush’s framed photo above my mantle.”
She gave me the biggest double take ever! (W. was not the most popular in the Bay Area)
Nothing like humor to break the ice.
Comment by Eathan
| February 28th, 2009
I’m late on this topic.. but the 1st two always work if you are sincere. I’ve used #4 when I see someone that truly blows me away. (it works also)
I’ll admit when I read the last one..I almost fell out my chair. I could see them using that line on VH1’s Pick Up Artist. esp when they’re at a bar.
Overall, these are great ones.
Comment by ilinap
| February 28th, 2009
Oh, the smile line would totally work on me. Mind you, that’s the ONLY smile line I ever want!
Comment by Canadian Bald Guy
| February 28th, 2009
Dads,
I met women in the 90’s through work as I was a club DJ…so I didn’t need to use too many lines at the time.
I met my ex-wife at my job, so it was just a daily back-and-forth that eventually led to flirting and then the relationship.
My last relationship came about from somebody actually talking to me via email after reading my blog for a few months. After two or three emails, I immediately knew there was a connection there so the flirting began again.
Now? Jeez…I dunno what I’m going to do. I’m 36 and not physically what I used to be. I don’t go out anymore and my friend list was cut by 2/3 after the separation from my wife (friends made decisions, I suppose).
I suppose I could use a line or two going forward, but I don’t really know how I’ll proceed going forward. I guess I’ll just take it as it comes.
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Comment by SingleParentDad
| March 1st, 2009
Do you come here often? ;-)
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Comment by Lance
| March 2nd, 2009
Are we going to get it on? Because I’m as hard as a diamond in a snowstorm.
Just kidding! That’s a line from Talladega Nights, in case you didn’t get it.
I’m a big believer in simple, contextual lines that serve to open and little else. Examples: How are you doing? What do you think about the band? How is your night going?
I don’t go for high impact openers, generally, and instead rely on my body language and conversational skill to get me through the interaction. My attitude is I’m genuinely interested in meeting genuinely interesting people, so if we’re talking, much of the work on proving to be interesting is on her. That works for me pretty well.
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Comment by Attainingme
| March 2nd, 2009
Two thumbs up to “you have a great smile.” and “I couldn’t help you notice you, and wanted to introduce myself.”
The great thing about the above is that they set the tone of interest and they would also never elicit a rude response.
Comment by Alex
| October 27th, 2009
Hey I like these pick up lines their genuine. But guys your whole game can’t be the pick up line, this will only initiate the conversation. But these are good pick up lines to start off with, but make sure you have confident body language and tone when you use these. For more information visit my site about picking up women and being a ladies man :)
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