Comments on: Sex and No Sex

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 15:36:12 +0000

I would definitely say that and I've had nearly this exact same 2nd date no-sex experience. Interesting. Lance´s last blog post..Watchmen is Totally Rad…Why are the Critics Such Douches?

By: ilinap

ilinap — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 19:16:52 +0000

"Not having sex is a sexy choice" is exactly what I'm going to tell my sons...when they are older than 5 and 3. ilinap´s last blog post..Time Travel

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 07:01:44 +0000

Eathan – agreed, bad first date sex is a terrible way to start things off. But great first date sex can distract and be misleading – make you think things are better than they otherwise are. (It can also be a sign that things are great. Every relationship is different)

I think you’re right, I realized it wasn’t worth the extra work.

Bad Mutha – I agree that most casual sex is root chakra based. Though not all! I had a lover last year, and while we didn’t hit the crown chakra, we did make it up to the heart, and maybe even the third eye. It was intense and consuming and heartfelt. Of course, we dated for a year before we switched gears to friends with benefits, so we definitely had time to build trust.

Another lover I had was all about root chakra sex, and she kept my interest for several months. So, root chakra doesn’t necessarily mean terrible sex, that’s for sure!

By: badmuthablogger

badmuthablogger — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 06:33:05 +0000

YES! Not having sex can be a big high. You're onto something there, Dads. No need to become a monk (although I'm wondering about that path for myself). My 2 cents is that it's SOOOOO much better making love when you're actually IN love, so why bother with casual sex? It's all root chakra until you learn to open up your other chakras and let it flow all the way through your crown. That takes a lot of trust and trust takes time. Personally, I think it's worth the wait. Hey, thanks for the link :) badmuthablogger´s last blog post..Charlie bit my finger - again!

By: Eathan

Eathan — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 06:05:25 +0000

I've been so busy.. I'm late commenting on this one. Where do I start. lol "Granted, **BAD** first-date sex is a terrible way to start a relationship" You had me holding on to my chair..and I had to read it twice. Great sex always clears my mind. I've never had a bounce in my step from not having sex, esp if it was good the 1st time. If there's no spice there... have another glass of wine. ;) (joking) Maybe you realized that the extra work wasn't worth it. That's what it sounds like to me. Eathan´s last blog post..Can You Still Live With The Ex?

By: katherine.

katherine. — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 02:03:25 +0000

now I am looking back trying to categorize previous exploits.... katherine.´s last blog post..playing "Telephone" and assuming the worst....

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 06:09:09 +0000

I truly believe that not having sex is the best way to start a relationship. Make sure you’re right for each other first. Then you don’t have to worry about the possibility of hurt feelings if you don’t want to see the person again, and you have the buildup of sexual desire by waiting for more than 3 dates.
By not having sex, you know that its really the person that you like and desire, and that its not just that you loved the sex.
Btw, I’ve had sex start out vanilla only to become much more spicy.
My guess is your lady was holding back, wondering if you were just interested in getting laid.