Comments on: Breastfeeding Your Man and Blind Date Sex – While Kids are in the Next Room

By: Hectorina Smithe

Hectorina Smithe — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 14:06:13 +0000

We come into this world with an instinct to nurse at a breast. I believe this desire and instinct does not go away. Having my guy nurse at my breast gives us both satisfaction.
It brings me to orgasm and arouses him as well. A win, win situation.

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:02:12 +0000

I didn’t see that as an attack on her.

I remember though when I was younger that my mom would bring men home…some of them I had met prior, some I had not. I remember walking in on my mom having sex when I was about 7 or 8. And I don’t even know how many times I’d heard a man’s voice in the morning after my mom had gone out… That was 25 yrs ago, but I still remember it like it was yesterday.. and most of the guys were jerks/scumbags/a$$holes!
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By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 05:47:03 +0000

Melifera – I agree we all have our own value systems. And I have no problem with a single mom having her boyfriend sleepover, or a single dad having his girlfriend sleepover. My kids have met two of my girlfriends, and those women did sleepover on occasion.

The issue I have is bringing home a blind date for a hookup while the kids are in the house and have never met that person. That doesn’t sit well with me for all the reasons described in this post.

Yes, this one struck a nerve, didn’t it? Glad to hear your point of view, especially with your living situation.

By: Melifera

Melifera — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 20:06:21 +0000

I have two roommates living with me and my daughter in our loft. This means that my kid has seen her share of my roommates 'friends' coming in and out in the mornings. She has also met a small handful (small being the key word here) of men I've had stay the night. One may think that such behavior is irresponsible, but then I would dare that person to come hang out in my space and speak with my very smart, worldly, articulate daughter, and then talk to me to see if they still think damage is being done. As parents, we all make different choices regarding how we raise our kids. My daughter has made it clear that she wants to meet the people I date, and I see no reason why I ought to hide my occasional sleepovers... There is nothing wrong with sex, it's how one takes responsibility. My daughter is too young to understand that anything besides innocent sleeping has occurred with men who have stayed over. The breastfeeding issue has nothing to do with the sleepover issue. What people decide to do behind closed doors is their own issue. Just make sure that you're prepared to talk to your kid about whatever it is you might be doing, should he or she happen into your room in the middle of the night. For the record, I no longer have sleepovers at my house. My kid is now seven, and I don't feel like having a discussion with her regarding what I might be doing with a fella who might be sleeping over. But you know what? I don't have a problem with a woman (or a man) who continues to have sleepovers, as long as she has a plan for how she wants to talk to her kid(s). What happened to choice? God knows my life might appall some parents... But their lives might equally appall me (for starters, I don't hold back much from my kid- and I find it appalling that some parents neglect to give their kids honest, direct answers to some of life's big issues). This issue clearly struck a nerve with a great many folk, and mostly it seems that is because we all hold slightly different ethical systems. Interesting, both the posting and all the comments that have followed... Melifera´s last blog post..I wish I could offer Judith Warner my boob

By: Hectorina Smithe

Hectorina Smithe — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 21:16:47 +0000

My guy nursed from my breasts for years, and still does. He is 6′2″ and is a lawyer. He grew up in Sicily and was breastfed until he was five. Perhaps that is why he loves it so. He suckles from each breast about 20 minutes each. In truth, it brings me to orgasm – twice. It is one of the most intimate things that two people can do. We are always in our own bedroom and ou child does not see any of this.
I carry around quite a bit of milk in my breasts, but the joy it brings to both of us is worth it. I don’t ever want to stop lactating. I guess this is not what every couple would want to do, but to each his own.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 04:26:20 +0000

Hip Mom - that's a great point that needs some clarification by me. My son and I didn't discuss casual sex. I simply asked how he felt if I brought home a strange woman late at night while he slept. He was very uncomfortable with the idea. What can he compare it to? Well, I have invited a single mom friend over for dinner with the kids a few times. She and I were not dating, so it was just having a friend over. When I had a girlfriend, she would spend the night. But she always showed up when the kids were awake, spent the evening with all of us, then was there again in the morning. My son knows nothing about my sexual activity. I think he's comfortable with me inviting a woman he knows over for the evening while he is awake. Granted, at some point he has to meet a woman for the first time. He'd prefer meeting her when awake than waking up in the morning and meeting her. Responsible sex is a big deal for me. Hence my post: Who Needs Protection? It's Only a One Night Stand in which I advocate safe sex practices. And my post: How to Talk to Your Daughter About Sex. (The how to talk to your son about sex version points to this one, as the meat of the material is here.)

By: HIP_M0M

HIP_M0M — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 04:01:18 +0000

There are so many topics discussed in your post (and the 50 comments) but the one thing that jumped out at me is the fact that you discussed the idea of bringing home a late-night date with your pre-teen son. My son is only 5 and I have yet to 'figure out' how I will approach the subject of sex when he's old enough to comprehend, but I'm wondering what exactly your son and daughter know about your sex life and if they read your blog posts - or if your ex does? I'm trying to understand how "responsible parenting" falls in line with what you're teaching your children (indirectly) by being so open and embracing of casual sex. I work with families on a regular basis (as a parent coach) and one of the biggest issues surrounding sex - these days - is the increase in the number of individuals with STDs and how casual sex is often the most likeliest of instances where people "casually" forget to protect themselves with condoms... Maybe I'm veering off topic here, but since you brought up "irresponsible parenting" my mind went right to "irresponsible sex." HIP_M0M´s last blog post..How Do You Define Love?