Three Mathematicians Go Into a Bar…
Okay, so these three mathematicians go into a bar… Sounds like a good opening line for a joke, doesn’t it? Well, it kind of happened in real life. You see, the last three women I met and went on (separate) dates with all had a background in math.
What’s up with that!?
It’s not like I selected the mathematician checkbox on some online dating profile’s ideal mate description. There’s no eHarmony voodoo going on. These are simply women I’ve met in real life.
- Is my Silicon Valley engineering background calling to me in these stressful economic times?
- Is the universe nudging me to partner with a logical straight-thinker?
- Is my subconscious reminding me to keep structure in my life?
Not sure. But with so many number-crunchers crossing my dating path, I’m definitely sitting up and taking note.
How did each of the dates go?
Mathematician number one was a little too submissive for me. I like confident women who speak their minds. But this woman’s favorite phrase on our date was “whatever you want.” It was her answer to questions I asked like: Do you want wine or a cocktail? (whatever you want.) Would you like a second round, or should we walk for a bit? (whatever you want). You get the drill.
- Our personalities just didn’t mesh.
Mathematician number two was just out of a divorce. She was carrying a lot of anger, disappointment, bitterness, and just plain old hurt. While I felt for her – I cycled through all those emotions after my divorce – I also felt she’s not ready to enter a relationship just yet. I think she kind of felt that way, too.
- Our life stages weren’t the same.
Mathematician number three has been divorced almost as long as me, and has an amicable co-parenting relationship with her ex. She’s athletic and active, happy and content, vibrant and full of life. Who knows if we’ll hit it off romantically or not? Either way, I get the feeling we’d be great drinking buddies, hiking mates, cycling partners, beach goers, dinner mates. We had chemistry. We get along. If nothing else, we could be great friends.
- I like her already.
While there’s no mathematical equation for love, there can be signs that the numbers are in your favor. Three mathematicians popping up in your life will do that to you. Time for me to bust out my slide rule (it’s impressively big, I promise.) Dust off my abacus. Punch out some formulas on my TI-calculator du jour.
And see if the numbers add up.







Comment by Barbara Ling, Virtual Coach
| March 12th, 2009
As the founder and president of the Rutgers University Math club back in the early 80s, I can definitely agree with you about the attractiveness of mathematicians!
‘matter of fact, it was my math degree that got me my first job at AT&T over a comp sci grad – I was asked how I approached technical problems and responded,
“I look at it this way – what do I want? Where am I now? How do I get there from here?”
Got that from my math classes. ’tis an awesome subject!
Data points, Barbara
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| March 12th, 2009
I am sooooooo glad you clarified right off the bat that you went on (separate) dates with these three women! You know we all have very sick minds. :)
I’m glad things are adding up for you. Or multiplying. Or something.
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Comment by Elaine at Lipstickdaily
| March 12th, 2009
Well done! Just so long as neither of you applies a mathematical equation to the relationship. Let’s see, like a guy who broke up with me a millenium ago . . . something like this . . . you have a linear equation of the people you date that’s roughly equal to the length of the time in your life you spend looking for a partner, you will meet x number of people you really hit it off with during that time, when you hit the person at midpoint x of those people, you must breakup, because the odds of you meeting the RIGHT person thereafter are statistically higher . . . (and you happen to be that midpoint person, sorry) . . . OR SOME SUCH BULLCRAP! No that I haven’t let go of that or anything.
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Comment by MindyMom
| March 12th, 2009
Now this is a classic Dadshouse post! Very interesting that all three women had that in common. Does it mean anything? Probably not. Fun to consider though.
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Comment by katherine.
| March 12th, 2009
how ’bout “third time’s a charm” ?
Comment by PhenomenalMama
| March 12th, 2009
Guess you gotta get out there and date lots of people in order to find the right one. Of course, at this stage, for me, reading about all the different women you’re dating…I feel kinda depressed…..am I really going to have to kiss this many frogs before I find my “Prince”?? ;)
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Comment by krn
| March 12th, 2009
I disagree with Elaine at lipstick about running the numbers. If things heat up, perhaps you ought to get her to bring over her graphing calculator and run the numbers together? Sort of a you help me with the math and I’ll teach you some tantra deal. That’s hot! Or maybe I just reallllly need a date this weekend? The good news is, I have one.
Fun post, but my favorite is the raccoon story. I’m still cracking up over that one!
Comment by dadshouse
| March 12th, 2009
Phenomenal Mama – I don’t think everyone needs to play a dating numbers game. I know people who remarried soon after divorce, and are still going strong as a couple.
Barbara – I love your mathematical street cred! Getting quickly from point A to point B is a wonderful thing, especially if you know which point B you want.
Teri – your sick mind is legendary. And very welcome here.
Elaine – bullcrap equations, indeed!
Mindy – thanks. Glad you like my stories.
Katherine – yep, third time’s a charm. And three is a magic number!
Krn – have fun on your date!
Comment by mama llama
| March 12th, 2009
What a great review, Dads. I enjoyed the mathematical twist.
And some would say, third time’s the charm. Looking forward to seeing how this all equates. It is indeed wonderful when 1+1 actually comes out to two.
Be well, Dads.
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Comment by Elizabeth Barrette
| March 12th, 2009
The numbers are even more telling when you consider that female mathematicians are rare. Good luck with #3!
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Comment by Mark
| March 12th, 2009
I love the humor that you injected into your review of these three dates. Sounds like the last one could be a match, time will tell. You made need to bone up on your multiplication tables, ha. Have fun!
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Comment by Janet
| March 12th, 2009
Cute post. Love how you (almost) made math seem sexy. Ha! :)
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Comment by justrun
| March 12th, 2009
Ugh, math itself is such a turnoff for me. Math PEOPLE on the other hand, quite the opposite!
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Comment by Lance
| March 12th, 2009
Three mathematicians? I’ve never even met ONE. Were they cute??
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Comment by ilinap
| March 13th, 2009
I don’t think I’ve met a mathematician. If I did, we would have spoken different languages. You are a rare bird who is swift with both numbers and words. I say #3 sounds like a keeper.
Comment by T
| March 13th, 2009
I’m happy to see you perking up again.
:)
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Comment by Kate @ http://lipstickdaily.com
| March 17th, 2009
Great post!! I love mathematicians…
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