Comments on: Are Women a Recession Commodity?

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 13:57:41 +0000

David, I think you are absolutely right - as cliche as it might be, I believe it is so important to learn to live with, love and accept yourself, on your own, versus trying to find it in a relationship (romantic or otherwise). I see so many people bouncing from one relationship to the next with no breathing room (or certainly no introspection). Sometimes it works out and that's great, but often it doesn't because people tend to repeat the same mistakes over and over. At any rate, I'm rooting for you and would be happy to send you a few spare quarters ;) Susan´s last blog post..I do, take two

By: LV Lizard

LV Lizard — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 02:36:08 +0000

Have you seen the show "the millionaire matchmaker"? It's pretty funny / worth watching. I think it's on Bravo...the irony is that the matchmaker herself is single... LV Lizard´s last blog post..A Lime Green Lambo and A Red Lazer Dot

By: Lance

Lance — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 13:28:58 +0000

Great catchy title, nice post. It is true that more people are going online to find dates in a bad enconomy, and that online dating sites are BOOMING. I don't think people are spending huge amounts of money on dating coaches, although I don't have any evidence to support that. I do know a handful of dating coaches (actually, pickup coaches, but really it's the same thing), and they are moving more towards selling products online vs. face-to-face coaching. I'm wondering if the letter in Sullivan's article is older, like maybe 2 years ago? Lance´s last blog post..Moving Closer: Anger, Recession, and Relationships

By: Gilit Frank

Gilit Frank — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 07:09:29 +0000

Yes, it is cheaper to share expenses but to move in with someone for that reason could put a damper on the relationship, and it's hard to combine families. There are lots of benefits of keeping separate households, and maybe you will have sex less often, but it will make it that more special when it's not "available' each night...(and for those of you living together with kids in the house, do you really have sex each night??? It sounds nice in theory, but does it happen practically?) Gilit Frank´s last blog post..No boyfriend. No problems.

By: Elizabeth Barrette

Elizabeth Barrette — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 06:22:58 +0000

Also bear in mind that it's cheaper to live with 2+ people in a household than only one, and that 2+ adults have an easier time raising children than a single parent. So things that encourage people to join up have positive effects, even though recession really sucks. Elizabeth Barrette´s last blog post..Three Questions: White House Vegetable Garden

By: Mary

Mary — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 04:47:50 +0000

Hmmm, I read something today where they were saying that since the recession, the strip club business has been booming and small neighborhood bars are seeing an increase in business. It appears that when the going gets tough, people figure out what it is they really want. On a more serious note, I completely agree that you need to find happiness with yourself before you should go looking for a relationship. Great blog! Mary´s last blog post..Monday Randomness

By: PT-LawMom

PT-LawMom — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 04:20:03 +0000

I'm with T. As for your question back to her as to whether we can get that same validation from relationships other than romantic ones, I think we can get some validation from those relationships but it's not exactly the same. Sure, a best friend can fill a large hole but I think you need that romantic partner to fill all of those secret special parts that you don't share with anyone else, even your best friend (or your blog readers - lol). You said "I now see I’m better off loving myself, rather than desperately searching for someone to love and validate me." I hope I can get there someday. I enjoy validating and being validated by a romantic partner and feel kind of lost when I'm not in that situation. That said, I refuse to rush into something wrong. PT-LawMom´s last blog post..Angels Among Us