Wedding Band Envy
I admit it – I’ve come down with a case of wedding band envy. And it’s not because I want to melt down some gold ring to pay this month’s mortgage. I’m simply thinking there’s aspects to coupledom that seem pretty darn good.
Dad’s House is holding court at the Silicon Valley Moms Blog today, with the post:
Wedding Band Envy
I promise this has nothing to do with anything old, new, borrowed, or blue. Unless you count the fashionably hip jeans I occasionally wear on dates. They’re blue, and sort of new.
Enjoy the post – Wedding Band Envy.
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Comment by Amy
| April 1st, 2009
This scares me – If you feel this way nine years out of the marriage. Because I have felt this way the whole time the marriage was ending and still do. We’ve be separated for almost 4 years and divorced for 1 1/2. I thought I’d feel better about this eventually – but if you feel this way after nine years – that might mean that I will never feel better about this and I will always have wedding band envy.
Now I am sad.
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Comment by dadshouse
| April 1st, 2009
Amy – sorry to make you sad. Wedding band envy doesn’t mean I’m unhappy. I’m doing just fine as a single parent. I enjoy my alone time, and have a good group of friends. But I do miss the daily stuff that a live-in, committed, intimate partner would bring.
Had I jumped into remarriage very soon after my divorce, it would have been for the wrong reasons. I would have wanted a woman to make me happy and fix my life. Now the reasons are different – I’m fine with myself, happy with who I am, but I would like the stability and fun of having someone around to share life with.
So I wouldn’t say I “still” feel the same way after 9 years. Far from it. I’ve changed a lot in 9 years. This feeling is new and different than ones that came before it.
Comment by Elaine at Lipstickdaily
| April 1st, 2009
Thoughtful . . . nice
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Comment by BMWmotorcycle
| April 1st, 2009
At first I thought this was a post about when your buddy gets his wife a better wedding ring than you got for your wife. Alas its not…so I agree any wedding band is more often than not better than being single.
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Comment by Andrea
| April 1st, 2009
Okay, virtual hug (is that too dorky?) I’m sorry, that made me sad. As someone who was supposed to be married (before I actually did get married), planned a wedding, bought a dress, reserved the band and then had it go BANG in my face, I sorta, maybe get what you mean. Even though I wear a ring at the moment I can still understand that ‘envy”. Everyone is in a happier marriage, more successful in careers, living the dream life elsewhere.
You seem, from what I’ve read, to be in a good place but I do understand that can feel lonely. I do.
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Comment by butrflymom
| April 1st, 2009
That post is exactly how I feel. I’ve been lurking on your post for a long time but never posted. I too have been divorced for 9 years but am a full time single mom to one teenager…….almost adds up to your two half-time.
I’ve thought about the empty nest right around the corner…..so i’m back at school to start a new career about that time……….and in between just got a road bike and am out in the hills around here.
Comment by The Exception
| April 1st, 2009
This was a wonderfully written post. I have looked into my future… it is not the marriage that I long for but the intimacy, the companionship, the road trips, the little discussions… it is the best friend… does that mean marriage…?
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Comment by meg
| April 1st, 2009
I like this post. I am constantly looking at a mans hand for a ring.
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Comment by krn
| April 1st, 2009
Aaaaawww, Dad’s. Wedding Band Envy has got me sending you a hug across the miles and wishing for romantic love to enter your life soon! You sound so ready for your next special woman.
I just got back from a lovely time with my new friend who sounds like he is at the same place with being single that you are. Not sure I’m the one for him, but I thought I’d share so you would know there are other kind, appealing, handsome, bright, fit, happy, sexy men out there alone that have been looking for a while.
Comment by la dolce vita
| April 5th, 2009
Though I rarely wore my ring during my 4 1/2 year marriage, due to fear that I would lose it (like my ex did only three days after receiving his ring), I developed wedding band envy while my marriage was ending. I mourned for the 4 1/2 years that I could have “officially” worn that gorgeous ring but didn’t. It makes me feel a little better to know that others out there, men and women, also have wedding band envy. Thank you, David, for this and all your insightful, intimate posts.