Coffee House Sexy Surprise
I was in a coffee house this week, taking a break from work, hoping to meet a single woman. I have no problem approaching a woman who catches my eye. Sweet pick up lines come to me in the moment, and are heartfelt.
I’m reading a book, glancing at patrons, when a hottie walks in. Faded blue jeans, white T-shirt and black leather jacket. Shortish hair, sort of a Closer Natalie Portman look. I couldn’t take my eyes off her. But she was harried, and facing away, and I couldn’t make eye contact.
I know what you’re thinking – last time I was in a coffee house, I approached an attractive woman only to have her react in a “why are you talking to me?” sort of way. Talk about a coffee house pickup gone bad. (And the time before that, I met a woman who wanted rebound sex. But that’s a different story.)
I decided to sit back and watch this cute woman for a while.
She pulled out her laptop, stretched a cord to plug it in, pulled out her Blackberry, and got to work. I had a side view of her, but her hair was falling in a way that I still couldn’t see her face.
At this point, I didn’t care that we hadn’t made eye contact. I was willing to risk the walk across the room, at least to say hello.
She pulled out her cell and made a call, and the moment she spoke, I realized I’d made a HUGE mistake about her. I recognized her voice.
We’d gone on a handful of dates together three years ago.
I know what you’re thinking. WTF?! How had I not recognized her? Well, her hair used to be long, and now it was short. I’d only ever seen her in nice business attire, and now she was in jeans and a T. Plus, I really couldn’t see her face in the coffee house. (I admit, I enjoy looking at a woman’s butt in jeans. Sue me. She hadn’t turned toward me.)
Should I go over and say hello? I pictured what we’d say…
Hey, how are you?
Hey! I’m great. Long time no see!
It’s been, what, three years!
Yeah! Still doing the same work?
Yeah! You?
Yep.
Okay then. Great seeing you.
Hey, great seeing you.
I quietly finished my coffee, and left unobserved.
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Comment by MindyMom
| April 10th, 2009
I guess you weren’t interested in the idea of dating her again?
Timing is everything ya know and if you still found her attractive saying hello could have gone somewhere…
Just sayin’.
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Comment by vinomom
| April 10th, 2009
Small World huh?
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Comment by Kat Wilder
| April 10th, 2009
I think it’s silly when people who know they know each other don’t acknowledge each other.
I mean, how hard is it to say, “How you doing? You look great. Take care.” or something like that?
I don’t understand why people get so tweaked by that.
Now of course if she couldn’t remember who you are, that feels really crappy. Every opportunity involves risk, though …
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Comment by ilinap
| April 10th, 2009
Dude, it’s unlike you to not approach her and say hello. Weren’t you even curious in the least bit? Then again, I guess your few dates never went anywhere for a reason. But hey, you apparently still thought she rocked those jeans!
Comment by newsinglemama
| April 10th, 2009
Small world.
And why wouldn’t say hello? Maybe it didn’t end well between you two?
It sounds like coffee houses are the place to be to pick up? Or maybe not…
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Comment by Single Mom in New England
| April 10th, 2009
Methinks there’s more to this story – maybe an uncomfortable ending to it the last time around? – that made you hesitate and then choose not to say hello! Trust your gut – it tells you things at the present moment for a reason! :) Happy Good Friday!
Comment by Andrea
| April 10th, 2009
That’s a tough break. I can’t claim to have had that happen before. I am guessing it wouldn’t have gone anywhere since you didn’t say hi.
I’m thinking coffee houses, while wonderful, aren’t your pick-up place. Juice bar maybe?
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Comment by cyndi
| April 10th, 2009
I wouldn’t have said hello either. But that’s just me. I tend to just leave the past in the past, plus I’m actually kind of shy in real life. If someone approached me under those circumstances I’d be nice and what not but I wouldn’t do the initiating.
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Comment by krn
| April 10th, 2009
Remembering someone’s face that well after three years says something.
It’s good that you aren’t letting your last interaction at the coffee house stop you from looking around there. You never know where you might meet your special lady. Sounds like you are engaging in lots of social opportunities, though. Coffee places are very good places to take in denim clad booty views. Love those. LOL.
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| April 10th, 2009
Hilarious!
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Comment by dadshouse
| April 10th, 2009
We didn’t end our string of dates on bad terms, exactly. We just sort of let things drift. Which, I suppose for some people is bad. Some people prefer a decisive “this isn’t working.” And we never had that talk. I did the classic I just wasn’t that into her move, and stopped calling.
I had realized, after a string of dates with her, that I was attracted to her body, but not her personality. Over time, I just wasn’t enthused about us going out. Three years later, I when I saw her in the coffee house, it was clear I’m still attracted to her physically (more so, now that she’s in jeans). But like Cyndi said, sometimes it’s good to just leave the past in the past. My gut told me not to revisit the decision of whether to be involved with her or not.
Comment by The Exception
| April 10th, 2009
Trust your gut… usually it doesn’t misguide you…
Have a great weekend!
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Comment by mama llama
| April 10th, 2009
Hmmm…maybe she went incognito on you??? Was it that bad of a date?! :)
Just teasin’.
Be well, Dads.
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Comment by Shelle-BlokThoughts
| April 11th, 2009
There is nothing better than being approached from someone from the past, for me anyway, when I haven’t seen them in a while. But then, that’s me and my personality, you knew her better and probably made the right move! :)
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Comment by MommaSunshine
| April 12th, 2009
As has been already said, sometimes its good to just leave the past in the past. :)
But…um…you haven’t actually gone through the entire pool of available women, now, have you???? tee hee
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Comment by searchingwithin
| April 12th, 2009
The main thing I was curious about during reading the punch line was: you didn’t recognize that butt, or the demeanor/walk? Many times I can spot someone right away by just those things. Just me, I guess.
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Comment by A Girlfriend
| April 12th, 2009
I don’t get why some people are weirded out about seeing someone they ‘used to’ know. A couple months ago I said hello to a girl (and I’m a female) that I was best friends with about 15 years ago. I recognized her instantly, we were best buds after all. She was with people and I was with my fiance, but we were standing a few feet away from each other in a restaurant lobby. Anyway, I said hi to her and she basically ignored me. I mean, she said hello, then pretty much turned back to her friends and that was that. I was really embarrassed. Even my guy said, wow that was really weird. People are strange.
Comment by katherine.
| April 13th, 2009
I wonder if she spotted you over in the corner lurking behind your book…..
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Comment by Mark
| April 13th, 2009
Good move, pays to wait sometimes to be sure before you pounce!
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Comment by Frank Azzurro
| April 15th, 2009
i kind of respect the self-control here though. i understand a lot of you feel like he may have missed an opportunity, but dadshouse seems resolute in the idea that he tried this once w/ this woman, and it may not be the healthiest thing to try and spark things up again purely for physical reasons. mature decision, one i can say i’ve made in the past myself. if i were single i would hope i’d do the same thing in that situation!
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Comment by Robin
| April 16th, 2009
I had to laugh at this. First off, I still don’t understand why anyone would think that a coffee shop is a pick-up place. I think that anywhere one meets someone is fine, and people can approach and talk to people most anywhere except duirng, say, a sermon or movie, etc. Wait until it’s done. But, the idea of a coffee shop or book store as a designated pick-up place just seems weird to me. Maybe it’s not done so much in my area as some other areas. Another single male blogger loves his Starbuck’s for checking out potential new dates, which yes I also think is odd. I, too, thought it interesting that you recognized her voice, but not her (clothed) body. :) Ah, well. Maybe she saw you approaching and picked up her cell phone on purpose, or not. sometimes, if you can get away w/out obviously ignoring the hello, it’s fine. You could have mentioned the haircut, but eh, life goes along.
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Comment by Jenn
| August 19th, 2009
Perhaps you should offer her some Magic Power Coffee. It’s an aphrodisiac, all natural, coming soon! Ask me how to get it?
Jenn
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Comment by staciesmadness
| August 19th, 2009
That’s crazy you recognized her voice…