Comments on: Do Divorced Dads Need to Have More Kids to Find Love?

By: rachel

rachel — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 19:20:55 +0000

i dnt thnk tht if u hve kids u wnt get a match..i mean my mom is divorced n im trying d best 2 find her a match sshe’s got many admirers butno one is worth it..so im finding one for her..she’s gt two children me n my brother..bt still m trying my best to find one match 4 her….as she is still young n has the right to be loved!!!

By: Gilit

Gilit — Mon, 04 May 2009 13:09:03 +0000

Too bad you're not here in Israel. At 46 years old, I have the opposite problem. The guys I meet want more children or don't have any. Most guys who don't have children here want biological children of their own, so dating me is out of the question...or the guys my age who are my age want to date women in their thirties...I don't like online dating and want to avoid it, but the guys I meet offline think I'm in my thirties and turn several colors when they find out my real age. I don't want to lead them on, get attached, and then have them drop me later, so I tell them about my teenager right away. I'm sure there are lots of women who don't want more children - you just haven't met them yet. Gilit´s last blog post..Post 59: Deserted in the Desert

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sat, 02 May 2009 03:19:12 +0000

I've been struggling with this issue since I have a 3 yr old & that's it for me. I'm 37 this year, and I thought I'd have more of a selection since I'm in the Chicago area, but nope. I find that the dating pool range is men with older children leaving home, or the younger men wanting bio kids. Heaven knows once we're out of diapers in this house, I'm never going back to them for any reason unless they're mine! I mean, I already deal with a 'baby momma' with my son's 1/2 sibling, then add possible stepsiblings, and imagine trying to add another 1/2 sibling not related to the other 1/2 sibling...I get stressed out just thinking about explaining the logistics of that. It's not for me. It's not like I'm putting all that in my dating profile either, so it's an interesting place to be now that I'm ready to get out there. Then again, maybe it's better not to have a lot to choose from since my time and energy is limited. I'm sure there's a silver lining in there somewhere. Jennifer´s last blog post..Best Intentions

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 05:45:12 +0000

Lori – that’s an interesting point. I think 5 years ago, I would have said yes to more kids. These days, I’m pretty adament that I don’t want more. As for the ex-gf who wants kids – she is younger, and doesn’t want kids for several more years, after she has achieved career goals. I can’t go there with her. I have a daughter heading to college in a year. I don’t want to be a new dad and new granddad at the same time!

Do I still have feelings for her? Sure! I still have feelings for a handful of ex-girlfriends. But that doesn’t mean I am contemplating a parenting future with any of them.

I think this topic has many angles, and the fact that this post talks about the online dating pool seemingly wanting kids is just one angle.

Janet – yeah, CL can be sketchy, and seems overrun by spammers of late. AFF is not something I’m comfortable doing. I’m guessing they bought nerve.com and salon.com personals just to put those out of business. (I don’t have details on this, just guesswork)

Katherine – I too am glad I was a young parent. I don’t have the energy any more for infants 24/7. Small doses of uncle-dom are doing just fine for me!

Eathan – I agree, there are very few women who are happy not having kids.

Great comments, all.

By: Lori

Lori — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 05:13:31 +0000

I didn’t read all of the comments since there are alot, so sorry if someone already said this, but you just posted an update on an ex gf who wanted kids, which is why you broke up. So aren’t you really just re-thinking the whole having more kids thing b/c of talking to her again recently?
Sounds like you still have some deep feelings for her. Am I right?

By: Janet

Janet — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 00:04:54 +0000

Thanks for the reply! I did check out your online dating post before. As for meeting guys on Craigslist, that would freak me out. And Adult Friend Finder is DEFINITELY not good! lol Hope you have luck on Chemistry! :) Janet´s last blog post..How LONG is long enough?

By: katherine.

katherine. — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 22:18:49 +0000

Sometimes the comments are just as interesting as the post.

I too did the baby thing early…and at this point I am very happy I did so. I liked being a “young” parent…and am looking forward to being a “young” grandparent someday…with energy and ability to spoil them as much as I can get away with.

If you decided to have another child…think about how different of a Dad you would have to be fifteen to twenty years from now…and beyond. How would a little one affect you being a Dad to the two you have now?

Online dating? I’ve had disasters and successes. (never tried chemistry.com) I am very selective and cautious. There are certain questions I ask….not so much for the actual answer…but to see how they answer. It would not be my first choice to meet someone, but it is a good choice.

Maybe you should post the significant parts of your profile…we can see if we know anyone appropriate to introduce you too….smile.

katherine.´s last blog post..Remembering Papa