Hot, Sexy, Single – Law of Attraction
I’ve been out of a dating relationship for several months now, and it’s driving me nuts. The lack of sex, lack of companionship, lack of emotional intimacy, lack of kisses and hugs.
Do you see a problem with my attitude of lack?
Sometimes I forget that I’d do well to keep an attitude of gratitude, and focus positively on the things I want to attract.
Like a hot, sexy, single woman to come into my life.
There’s a nice article over at I Date White about the Law of Attraction and how it relates to dating. It’s the idea from The Secret
The main idea is this: rather than just wanting something, then going about your day with your same old thought-patterns and emotions, you need to teach yourself to want the feeling you’ll get when that desire manifests. After all, it’s the feeling that you’re really after, not some material thing. Right?
For instance: you might think you want a big house and a romantic partner. Okay, fine. What if that manifests… and your big house has a mortgage you can’t afford. And your partner doesn’t treat you well. Is that the feeling you wanted?
Maybe instead what you wanted was a feeling of security that can come from living in a comfortable house with a partner by your side. Focus on the feeling, allow it to blossom inside you, feel gratitude as if it’s already a part of you. You’ll find yourself drawn to situations that can help manifest what you want. Just keep in mind, the manifestation might not be the form you imagined.
Back to my hot, sexy, single woman. (Latina, perhaps?)
Note: the single part is important, else a married hot sexy woman might manifest!
If I imagine the feelings I want to feel when this hot, sexy, single woman is in my life – confident, potent, powerful, desired – then I will carry those feelings with me as I move through my day.
And what hot, sexy, single woman won’t be drawn to a man with those qualities?
In short – if you want a hot, sexy, single, romantic partner in your life, focus on the feeling you’ll have once that person manifests. Then let the Law of Attraction go to work.
Now then, if I could just imagine the feeling I’ll get when I’m spooning with a hot sexy single woman on a yacht as we sail around the British Virgin Islands…
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Comment by *Juliette*
| May 1st, 2009
This really works for me. I’ve experienced the phenomenon of attracting a lot of attention from men every time I’m flushed with the pheromones of the “honeymoon stage” of a new relationship. You can’t help but manifest good things when you are moving through your day with good feelings.
But your idea to add in the yacht, that’s genius…
Comment by The Exception
| May 1st, 2009
I am focusing upon a vacation. A well needed and deserved vacation…ah… and a single, sexy man would be icing on the cake!
(The question is, are you open to receiving those feelings from whatever woman brings them? Or do those feelings, in your mind, only come from a woman that appears a certain way and lives within a certain area?)
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Comment by lisaq
| May 1st, 2009
A great reminder to focus on the feelings rather than the things. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in them especially when you’ve been out of a relationship for awhile. I also appreciate the reminder to live life with an attitude of gratitude.
Comment by MindyMom
| May 1st, 2009
I hope your hot, single, latina woman manifests David! And be sure to invite your bloggy friends to party on your yacht with you!
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Comment by T
| May 1st, 2009
I like it. And thank you so much for the reminder. My post today is all about longing… so…. yeah, I needed this.
Hope to be back to normal soon! :)
And yeah, the yacht idea sounds good to me too.
T´s last blog post..Fantasy
Comment by Holly Hoffman
| May 1st, 2009
When I finally kicked Date #4 out of my life for good, I took a 6-month hiatus to find my center again. Once I’d done that, I read this article: http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-find-true-love/ and did the “Minimum Requirements” exercise.
What I found is that I didn’t clearly know what I wanted. I kept asking the universe to bring this person into my life, and I had an idea of what he would look like, act like, etc. But what I found was that my actual bare-bones minimum requirements were way off from what I’d been seeking.
Once I knew what I really wanted, wrote it down in no uncertain terms (none of this vague “hot, sexy, single” crap), poof! He appeared. No joke. I’ve been with the exact man I asked from the universe for 3 months now.
Can’t hurt to try. ;)
Holly Hoffman´s last blog post..Buying the puppy: Learning from mistakes & failures
Comment by krn
| May 1st, 2009
Brilliant!
The thing is, I’ve been feeling it for some time now; so, where the heaven is he? Since I’m known for having loads of patience, there’s got to be a lesson here someplace that I’m missing in my focus on the longing.
The yacht idea sounds wonderful.
Off to try Holly’s suggestion above. Thanks, Holly. Sounds interesting and fun!
Have a great weekend Dad’s and readers.
Comment by dadshouse
| May 1st, 2009
Holly – great article. I agree you don’t want to focus on “hot, sexy, single” qualities in a person because that determines a manifest form on which to attach your feelings. Instead, focus on the feelings you want to achieve, and see what manifests in your life.
I’m not sure I agree with other parts of her article, where she lists the specific details she wants in a partner. Isn’t she attaching her dream to a specific form?
I left a comment over on her blog that reads like this:
I agree with much of what you wrote initially, that you shouldn’t attach yourself to the external appearance of your relationship. It only leads to depression. (btw – I see we’ve read some of the same spiritual and motivational authors: Tolle, Robbins, Millman, Gladwell, The Secret)
But you then seem to contradict that with your listing specific details of what you want in your partner. Isn’t that determining a manifest form to which you want to attach yourself?
Have you read Florence Scovel Shinn’s “The Game of Life and How to Play it?” She wrote back in the 1920’s, and she reminds us to focus on the feelings we want to experience, and let the universe manifest forms for us. Those forms may not always be what we thought ahead of time.
For instance – why do you have a dealbreaker that your partner has to be able to dance well? What’s the corresponding feeling you hope to experience? What if you find this dancing partner, but then he loses his legs in a freak accident. Won’t that mess up your attachment? Won’t those feelings of well-being crash into depression?
I can see how your method of clearly identifying the forms you want will lead you to find those forms everywhere. But I think you are setting yourself up for new attachments in your life.
Comment by Mark
| May 1st, 2009
I think it is important to focus on what you desire and not on what you perceive that you are lacking.
“When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you” -Lao Tzu
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Comment by Attainingme
| May 1st, 2009
I believe very much in this. For all asepcts of life. I can’t say I have tried regarding relationships, but perhaps that’s why I am still struggling in this department. Something to think about. The BVI is waiting for you. I must say it has quite a potent magic. And latinas would be all over you in a second!
Attainingme´s last blog post..This is not fiction. “Engaged” or in spanish, “Comprometido”
Comment by cyndi
| May 1st, 2009
What Mark quoted. I’ve found the more I focous on wanting something, the further away it gets. When I focus on me and what I have, celebrate it, suddenly the peices just fall into place, and even if they don’t, whoo-hoo, I’m focusing on me and all that I have and you can never go wrong with that.
Comment by 30somethingmama
| May 1st, 2009
so understand what you’re coming from! don’t we all need that special “other half” in our lives for some good hugging? in my case, i think that trick works and “the secret” has worked in other aspects in my life, but in “LOVE” i get easily distracted by the realities of life. Such is the life of a single parent huh? Maybe in time :)
As for you, you go do it! MY art director friend says it simply, “visualize to actualize”. So just go ahead with your yacht images.
Thanks for passing by my site. A nice surprise :) Yours is amusing!
Comment by Debbie
| May 1st, 2009
great post!! I claim to have sworn off love, but truelly I have sworn off hurt! ANd love the feeling of being with someone, belonging in that place and time..maybe its time to stop putting out the ‘get lost because you might hurt me’ vibes..and focus on the good feelings I truelly desire instead!!
Debbie´s last blog post..too tired to think….?
Comment by notasoccermom
| May 1st, 2009
I am going to have to try this out…As of yet, I have not been very lucky. I do have a ‘friend’ I can get the sex from pretty regularly however the intimacy is a different level than an actual relationship would be.
Gotta try your ‘tricks’.
I have always had a great positive outlook but The problem I have stems from seeing myself actually happy and deserving what I want
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Comment by Laura
| May 2nd, 2009
I tried this, it didnt really work! Then I stopped doing everything and next minute there was a person knocking at the door!
Maybe sub consciously I was putting the call out to the universe!
Comment by Sandra
| May 2nd, 2009
I am definitely a believer in the Law of Attraction. Following this law has definitely changed my life for the better. It took time (years) for thoughts I’ve been manifesting to finally come into fruition, but now since that’s happening, I am more of a believer in this law.
Since you are into las chicas latinas, hablas espanol ? lol
Buena suerte !
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Comment by Kat Wilder
| May 2nd, 2009
I kinda get the law of attraction thing and I kinda don’t.
It’s either someone’s projecting negative energy (because he/she’s angry, hurt, insecure, needy, etc., or someone’s projecting positive energy (because he/she’s generally liking his/her life and work, has passions, takes care of him/herself, has a healthy social life, etc.
No one wants to be around negative energy, so if you’re all Eeyore, well, you have to look within to figure out why.
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Comment by dadshouse
| May 2nd, 2009
Kat – like attracts like is half of it. The other half of is programming your reactions to accept situations that you previously may have thought you didn’t deserve.
For instance, if I grew up thinking that beautiful women always go for doctors – maybe because my parents or friends or the media always said that mesage to me – then when I’m in a situation where I meet a beautiful woman, my subconscious tells me “you’re not a doctor. She’ll never go for you!” I sabotage any chance I might have with that woman.
If I instead picture how I will feel once I have a beautiful woman in my life, and allow myself to really feel it (i.e. feel great), then these new feelings will inhabit my being. Then when I’m around a beautiful woman, rather than hear those critical voices in my subconscious say “only doctors can be with her!”, my own feelings tell me “you’ll feel great with her in your life. Go for it!”
It’s straight from The Secret, and The Game of Life and How to Play it. I think Tony Robbins does stuff like this too. It’s the power of positive thinking with the addition of emotion. You convince your whole being to react in a “blink” in a good way to the thing you want.
btw – please know I’m now out there focused on finding a beautiful woman. This was just an example. I know there is far more to a romantic partner than looks. I could have said “rocket scientist” or “artist” or something else.
Comment by Bond Girl
| May 3rd, 2009
I know how you feel – I miss being with someone a lot, but missing that tends to make me rush into the arms of the first perosn who looks my way. Usually with disastorous consequences. So I am working on taking it slow when I meet some one now. If they really want to spend time with me they will be cool.
Comment by Cathouse Teri
| May 3rd, 2009
What if she’s just Hot and Single? Or only Sexy and Single? What happens then? ;)
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Comment by Cathouse Teri
| May 3rd, 2009
(Bond Girl knows how you feel. Has she been feeling you?)
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Comment by Open Your Heart to the Love
| May 3rd, 2009
This reminds me of a joke that I can’t remember the complete words, but it boils down to three men who each were given a wish. The first guy asked for money, the second more wishes, and the third contentment, therefore, not needing anymore wishes.
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Comment by lunamom
| May 11th, 2009
Wow! I’m so smart! hehehe I always tell my friends “if you want a boyfriend act like you already got one!” The only problem is I have to learn to put it into practice myself…
Comment by Esperando a Zufan!
| July 13th, 2009
Great post. I am almost a single mom (filed last November, hoping to finalize by September), and I am going to imagine the feeling and put the call out to the universe. It has been SO long since I’ve had a healthy, romantic relationship. Let’s see what happens. I am so ready for it. :)
Esperando a Zufan!´s last blog ..The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
Comment by Law of Attraction Video
| December 29th, 2009
This is nice. Using the law of attraction to attract a relationship. Its the best way to use the law of attraction. Its the best way to be happy. To have a happy and wealthy relationship. Cheers!
Law of Attraction Video´s last blog ..Why The Secret Won’t always Work For Me, Chapter three
Comment by Richard
| February 6th, 2010
Thanks for sharing, it’s very much appreciated. Abundance to you.