Comments on: Marriage Advice from a Divorced Dad

By: DD

DD — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 03:07:06 +0000

I think this just underscores….you goofed when you divorce and should have worked it out…too bad for your kids.

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marriage advice — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 12:19:53 +0000

Good advice, more people seem to be taking this 30’s route due to economics. Most people that I see when I go to town seem to be getting married younger.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 10:43:24 +0000

Hey, no 1 and no 2 are really extreme to me, lol. I personally would like to get married soon and have my children. There are more time to be with your family then.

By: Tishia Lee

Tishia Lee — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 02:45:43 +0000

I wasn't married to my son's dad but we had been together (and were engaged) for a long time. We were young and had our son when I was only 23 and he was 22. Life changed that's for sure. He wasn't ready to give up his 'freedom' that a baby required you give up. Hell I even had a hard time giving up my partying and doing what I wanted when I wanted ways. I look back now & at 34 I totally agree with the marriage advice you gave. Had we been married back then when I was in my 20's it would have never lasted. I definitely agree about waiting to have kids until your in your 30's. And I'm all about getting married and staying married. Tishia Lee´s last blog post..Another Entry for a Contest

By: AngryDad

AngryDad — Sun, 24 May 2009 00:17:35 +0000

If i were to impart any wisdom from the failure of my first marriage it would be this blog post exactly. There's no need to rush out and get married. If i would have waited and gotten married around 30 instead of 21, i can guarantee things would have been alot different. But, it has given me plenty of ammunition for my blog. AngryDad´s last blog post..How to enjoy Memorial Day

By: Kevin

Kevin — Tue, 19 May 2009 02:11:44 +0000

Dude, I totally agree with your points. I got married when I was 32 and that was still probably too early. It probably would have been worse if I married in my 20s. Yes, I was doing everything to make everyone else happy. Now, I'm trying to make myself happy. Great post! Kevin´s last blog post..Apologizing to the Austin crowd

By: GK

GK — Tue, 12 May 2009 05:04:45 +0000

Twenty Four at Heart, I would love to see that article. I’m about to “celebrate” my 13th year of marital torpor, having just turned 45. I followed rules 1 and 2, but can’t say they got me anywhere. We have had separate bedrooms for 8 years, and truly just coparent. In the meanwhile I feel like my life is passing me by; I have no real freedom as my wife pretty much tells me what she has planned for every weekend (always kids-centric) and so life consists of work and kids. I like my work and love my kids but there is barely any space for exercise, let alone a hobby or a social life (she’s American, I’m not – when she got pregnant in 2000 she announced she was coming back to the US and I had to go along, so my friends and family are on the other side of the planet).

I have some guy friends who are divorced (instituted by their wives) and they tell me it is terrible, the court always finds against them no matter how ridiculous the claims of the STBX. But I am tempted anyway – I want to have a life, and I want a shot at finding true happiness. I used to scuba dive and had just started paragliding when I met my wife and those activities came to an end; when we had a big fight recently that looked serious I first went through a terrible depression and then started to think about the fact that if I had some weekends to myself I could actually start to live again. So I am terribly conflicted and your article may help.