Comments on: Romantic Compatibility – On Paper

By: Person Person

Person Person — Mon, 18 May 2009 20:34:35 +0000

Here how I think it works – a confident woman knows how to behave to make a man interested in her physically. It’s easy.
But it may or may not last. So it’s not very interesting.
If a woman is interested in a long-term relationship, she may want to start with her sexiness “turned off” – just to see if she really likes you as a person, if she enjoys spending time with you even when “the chemistry” is dormant.
So if she is comfortable with you as a person, she may start turning her sexiness on more.
Besides, let me be frank – your jokes are not in everyone’s taste. For instance, from your last post – your joke about $20 for saying the girls did spend the night at your house – yikes! I’d be freaked out, sorry.

By: The Exception

The Exception — Fri, 15 May 2009 23:44:25 +0000

I have been on dates that are completely and totally dry... no humor, no flirting, etc... it is hard to give them a second chance but... who knows, maybe it is worth a shot? The Exception´s last blog post..The Y

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Fri, 15 May 2009 17:03:54 +0000

Amy – yes, unrealistic expectations tend to crop up when using “in-depth” dating sites. I took an “in-depth” look at this here (I think this is the post you are referring to): http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/09/29/online-dating-expectations/

Now then, a Cuban sandwich with pickles sounds awesome right now.

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 15 May 2009 15:40:34 +0000

Ack! Sounds like a dud, Dads. A first date without flirting is like a Cuban sandwich without the pickles. I think you have pointed this out elsewhere, but I find that some of the more "in-depth" dating sites that require endless questionnaires set up this false sense of compatibility--which some people take more seriously than others. There is also this understanding that you both are looking for a "capital-R" relationship, which raises the stakes and increases the chances of making assumptions, jumping too far ahead too quickly, etc. etc. It's all so tricky...On the converse, when there IS real chemistry in addition to the assumptions based on "paper compatibility," it can push you forward even faster at your peril (speaking from all-too-recent experience, sadly). Amy´s last blog post..love (two takes)

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 15 May 2009 12:42:43 +0000

Possible you were too compatible? First dates definately do need spark and excitment and not a whole lot of deep meaningful conversations :) Laura´s last blog post..Speaking out

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 15 May 2009 08:45:58 +0000

I wouldn’t even give up after date 2. Try a 3rd date and don’t “expect” 3rd date sex. Just enjoy the company and try to have some fun. Give it a chance to grow. I think you’re giving up way too quickly on some of your dates. Maybe you’re sabotaging your own love life and you don’t even know it.

By: cellogirl

cellogirl — Fri, 15 May 2009 03:22:20 +0000

And maybe the second date will lead to that magical #3.

Getting trapped in head space and out of body instinct is why lately I’ve steered away from the online thing. I learn more about how I feel about someone in 10 seconds of face to face time than I do in pages of emails, which can often just get me thinking about their grammar and punctuation and must read list rather than who they are and if I can be myself around them.