Sex Toys Suck!
Sex toys are all the rage over at Tsquest right now. Judging by reader comments, it seems like every single mom wants a sex toy.
To which I say: WTF!? Sex toys suck!
No, I haven’t had any bad experiences with sex toys. In fact, I’ve never used a sex toy. I’m a guy! Most toys are for women. (Now watch Eden’s Fantasy send me a catalog of toys for men.) Even if there are sex toys for men to use, I have no interest.
Call me old-fashioned, but rather than sex toys, I prefer human touch.
Look, I know that single parents have a tougher time dating. Full time parents have to juggle work, home and a social life, and find a friend or pay for a babysitter when they want a night out. (Or hook up at home with their kid in the next room. But that’s a different discussion altogether.)
Single parents with part-time custody have their own dating issues to address, whether it’s a girlfriend who doesn’t want an instant family, or the parent not wanting to bring dating relations around their kid.
Suffice to say, sometimes it’s hard for single parents to get laid. Sex toys certainly come in handy when sexual stimulation is long overdue.
It’s just that I’d so much rather these single moms play with a great single dad like me than with some battery operated sex toy! Friends with benefits are a very good thing.
So – I want all the single moms to throw away their sex toys, put on some strappy heels, head to a local coffee house or a bar in a nice restaurant or even a grocery store or bookstore – and find a real live man to be your new sex toy.
As for the men – follow the lead of Networks’ Howard Beale (Peter Finch) – throw open your window, and tell the world just how you feel about women using sex toys!
We now return you to regular Dad’s House programming…
- How to Start Dating a Single Dad
- Sexy Arrangement
- White Hot Tantra for Beginners
- Ken Wilber on Sex, God, and a Well-Hung Prana
- Putting the EX in SEX
- Marisa Tomei, Sexy Stripper Single Mom
- Sexy and Funny Stories
| 
Subscribe | © 2008-09 David Mott, DadsHouseBlog.com. All rights reserved.
Comment by Laura
| May 21st, 2009
I have toys – a fair amount! They are gathering dust in my cupboard!
I bought them to use with a guy I was with – we had fun together. I dont really enjoy them on my own! NOT to say I dont enjoy self-satisfaction – just mean I dont use a toy to do it.
Because you are right DadsHouse – the real thing is SOOO much better!
Laura´s last blog post..Karma – she hates me!
Comment by coolred38
| May 21st, 2009
Well…finding myself newly divorced after 20 years in a bad marriage…I finally got over my red faced embarrassment and went to an adult’s only store…and was frankly amazed at the sexual revolution that apparently took place while I was boringly married and banging the same old boring man…enough of that. I browsed among the dildo’s admiring girth and length (colors were interesting too)…I ooohed and aaahed over the life like strap ons and assorted other contraptions of which I hope there were directions inside as I had no clue what to do with them. And I was even impressed that the men got a little something something too…fake vaginas they can carry around in their pockets (Im wondering if those are for like emergency bathroom calls after getting a “stiffy” at work or something…anyone?). Not to mention life size dollies with painted lips and slutty looks in their eyes…and legs that just wont close…hmmm? If it keeps women from being raped…Im all for a little light rubber relief…whatever.
Anyhow…after choosing my eye candy…I paid a small fortune for it…admired it secretly in the bedroom with the door very locked and the windows very closed and then packed it longingly away in my suitcase for my soon to be had vacation.
Only to have it taken away by a very embarrassed man in customs who peeked into the brown paperbag as if he expected a bomb of monumental proportions to be ticking away dangerously inside. I would have laughed my ass off if I hadnt been so damn pissed off…that thing cost a fortune!!!
Anyhow…the real thing is better…comes free (most of the time)…doesnt require batteries (but does need a bit of energy source..like a flash of boob or butt cheek)…and wont be taken away by Custom Officials just cause they think women arent allowed to express their sexuality with anything but a real live man…ooof!!!
In other words…I agree with you….but was looking for the opportunity to get that off my chest. Thanks.
btw very awesome blog
Comment by Scarlet
| May 21st, 2009
I agree with you, nothing compares to the real thing.
Toys can be used together, btw, which I don’t have a problem with.
Scarlet´s last blog post..mickey mouse dinner
Comment by MommaSunshine
| May 21st, 2009
Sometimes, Dad, you just gotta go it alone…
heh.
MommaSunshine´s last blog post..I Touch Myself
Comment by vinomom
| May 21st, 2009
I have toys and occasionally use them (magic bullet anyone?) but they’ve never been my go-to, single or not. The reality for women is it’s pretty easy to get laid if you can be in the right place at the right time (ie a bar at closing time)But sex toys are a lot safer!
Still the real thing is better – and I highly condone the Friends with Benefits. I had one for years while I was single.
vinomom´s last blog post..OCDrinking
Comment by Canadian Bald Guy
| May 21st, 2009
Well…of course I think the real thing is better (not even mentioning just how awesome toys can be WITH a partner as opposed to being by yourself).
But, in effect, are you not asking women to simply stop masturbating all together? I mean, whenever they are horny should they go out with their high heels on and pick up somebody just for a romp in the sack?
I dunno…there have been many times when I’ve just been content to “take care of business” for a few minutes and then move on with my day or night. I can’t imagine a woman asking me to go out on the town every single time I wanted to masturbate because it would be better to bang a single mom than sit home and whack it.
Jeez…if that was the case I’d NEVER be home.
Just sayin’.
Anyways…I absolutely think toys have their purpose. Just because women enjoy them as a viable alternative to the real thing doesn’t mean they prefer them, nor should there be a “call to arms” for women to go out and find a man to bang whenever they’re horny.
Interesting post, to say the least. I would think there will be lots of discussion over this topic as the day goes on.
Canadian Bald Guy´s last blog post..Twitter Tales: 05-21-09
Comment by krn
| May 21st, 2009
coolred’s post has me LMtushO off this morning. Soooo funny, the customs scenario!
A real live man sounds great right now, but I’m selective and thankfully, also very patient.
Toys are fine and there is certainly a place for them. I’m all for getting in touch with what feels good. Mostly though, I prefer to go for a run, have a massage, facial or such for some healthy, wholesome human touch until I meet someone who makes my heart sing, at least a little.
Anticipation is powerful and makes it all that much better. I may change my tune about all of this if I don’t connect with someone fairly soon, though. I don’t want to scare the man out of his wits (and my neighbors) when things finally work out. Lol.
Comment by T
| May 21st, 2009
“I’m mad as hell… and I’m not going to take it anymore!!”
Ha!! That video was hilarious in the context of this post!
Oh geez, DH, you know I prefer a man to a vibrator. I believe I even said that in my review of the wonderful, satisfying new toy….
But I digress…
Yeah, I’m not the type of girl to go out and pick up some guy for a romp in the sack. I’m also not the type of girl to go out and have sex just for the sake of having sex.
Apparently, I’m the type of girl who will write erotic reviews of sex toys though.
And as many commenters have said thus far, you can always invite the “enemy” into the bed with you and a girlfriend/FWB.
Cause if you can’t beat ‘em….
Yeah. You know what I mean.
T´s last blog post..Let go of one thing…
Comment by Honey
| May 21st, 2009
The only way I’ve ever had an orgasm is by using a vibrator…so not only has it been my go-to most of my life, but the BF and I use it when we have sex and I also probably masturbate with it at least once daily (that’s probably conservative).
If the BF wasn’t okay with me using it when he’s not around, or if he wasn’t the type of person who was comfortable using it together, then I’d have to break up with him. Notably, he’s the only guy I’ve used the vibrator with…and also the only guy I haven’t broken up with!
Honey´s last blog post..Vegas Memorial Weekend Sextacular: Preview
Comment by *Juliette*
| May 21st, 2009
Sex toys have are very useful and come in handy when you need a “quickie”. Mine even have names -BOB (battery operated boyfriend) and PHIL (plug-in handheld instant lover)! Sure, the real thing is so much better, but getting to that place involves so much time and energy, and sometimes it’s necessary to have a device that you can have access to right when you need it. Plus, these toys of mine are always available and there is no fear of them cheating on me because I know where they are every single night. In the drawer right next to my bed.
*Juliette*´s last blog post..Women, Know Your Limits!
Comment by dadshouse
| May 21st, 2009
Coolred38 – great story! I could use a bit of energy source right now. Any ideas? (haha)
CBG – I didn’t mean to suggest women go find a new man every time they want to get laid. Rather, they find a lover for ongoing satisfaction instead of firing up battery operated sex toys.
T – doesn’t that scene just crack you up in the context of the post? And for those who don’t yet know my sense of humor, watch the video and crack a smile.
Juliette – what you describe is exactly the problem I have with sex toys. I think too many women take the “easy” route of using sex toys, rather than investing the time and energy to find a partner or lover. At least that’s my male perspective every time I hear a silver bullet flipped on. (My hearing is really good – like a dog)
Maybe I should quit fighting it, and get some batteries installed inside me… (ha)
Comment by MindyMom
| May 21st, 2009
Yeah, I’m not a toy girl. I like the real thing – a lot – and if that’s not available there are other ways to take care of myself without a toy. ;)
MindyMom´s last blog post..Rollercoaster Week
Comment by John
| May 21st, 2009
Anything in excess is a bad thing. As long as the power tools don’t take my place anytime soon, I’m fine with it. Although, if there is ever a time I get stage fright then I’ll be the first guy to throw on a tool belt and get’er done.
John´s last blog post..My favorie portrait
Comment by Jody
| May 21st, 2009
Echoing Canadian Bald Guy,
For many women, a toy is the only or most effective way to masturbate. The equivalent to your “no toys” suggestion for men would be a “no masturbation” rule for guys.
Here’s an edited version of your post:
“WTF!? [Masturbation] sucks! … So – I want all the single [dads] to [stop masturbating], put on some [cologne], head to a local coffee house or a bar in a nice restaurant or even a grocery store or bookstore – and find a real live [woman] …. ”
This would probably be good advice for most guys, too, but I think most guys would have a very difficult time implementing it.
Jody
Comment by Penny
| May 21st, 2009
The real thing is VERY MUCH Better – BUT… I only have one weekend a month where I am not 100% responsible for my child. And, my budget doesn’t cover evening daycare.
My sex drive AND once a month option for maybe some casual sex??? UMMM – yeah, those toys aren’t going anywhere.
What’s a mom to do when opportunity doesn’t exist but the need still lives on???? She does the best she can with what she has!
Penny´s last blog post..Dreaming again
Comment by Me Thinks
| May 21st, 2009
You know, a girl I knew had a vibrator called “Willy”. She and her boyfriend got in a huge fight and he threw Willy out the car window whilst on the highway. He certainly was mad as hell and not taking it anymore. Sort of the reverse Lorraine Bobbit…
She dumped the boyfriend. She got a new and improved Willy.
I’m not really a fan of toys but its easy for me to get off so I don’t “need” them. Some women (raise your hand, Honey) can’t climax without a toy, they need more stimulation than a human can provide. So yes, to truly enjoy sex or masturbation, they need one. My guess is most women are in between and the toy is just an aid to masturbating and not a reason to avoid finding a lover.
So I think Jody’s point is completely valid. But I read this and thought “Hmmm… lets see Dads House make the same exact argument against porn”. Because I think you could make an argument that porn for men is a lot like sex toys for women.
What say you, DM? I’d love to see that post. (and I’m not stating my opinion until then!)
Comment by dadshouse
| May 21st, 2009
Me Thinks – your “Willy” story is funny! As for porn, I’m not a fan. I also don’t like strip clubs. I also don’t like Twitter. And yes, it’s all related… There are so many healthy ways for people to interact, and yet a lot of people avoid contact. Or maybe that’s just what I see in my part of Silicon Valley.
Jody – you described me to a T! Well, except that I don’t wear cologne. I try to get out and flirt and find a woman to bring into my life. No, not just a booty call partner, but a girlfriend.
btw – this post was meant tongue in cheek, which is why the Network clip is there. I know you ladies love your sex toys. I simply want to remind you that when it comes to sex, there’s nothing more beautiful than two spirits intertwining, joining as one. You can’t do that with a sex toy.
Comment by Jcubed
| May 21st, 2009
Clinically speaking, masterbation is good for ya. It keeps the important parts from ‘rusting’. It keeps your libido alive, allowing for enjoyable human interaction when the opportunity *a-hem* arises. The release of pleasure chemicals in the brain provide a natural sleep aid at night, and improve overall mood. And we all know, when momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.
Use it or lose it!
Comment by Danielle
| May 21st, 2009
Hmmm, Sadly enough, I am married and got way more action when I was single. So, since cheating is out of the question my toy comes in handy. I recieved my first toy for my 30th birthday after years of saying “I would never use one”. Boy was I missing out.
But if I had my choice, a real body would be the prefered.
Danielle´s last blog post..The mini panic attack
Comment by Tanya
| May 21st, 2009
lol I wouldnt even know what to do with a toy..but…lol it seems I may be missing out on some stuff :)
Tanya´s last blog post..So he’s back.
Comment by Pinnythewu
| May 21st, 2009
The unfortunate thing about going out and picking up a man for sex is that you actually have to deal with the mans personality as well as his “bits”. Sometimes you just want to get off without the hassle.
Pinnythewu´s last blog post..My Zakky-wu
Comment by DelaineM
| May 21st, 2009
Toys have a purpose but certaintly aren’t a replacement – I’ll take a warm body over plastic any day!
DelaineM´s last blog post..If you and a close friend had sex with the same man, would it weird you out?
Comment by PT-LawMom
| May 21st, 2009
LMAO! I just finished a post about how I own Babeland’s Top 5 toys. I love them, both for solo and partnered sex. The solo time makes me a better and more creaive lover. Toys make sex fun and more pleasurable. I can finish just fine with a well-placed tongue, but I like to feel a man inside me and the only way we are going to finish together is if I use a toy while he is in there. Just fact for me. Only had one guy who had a problem with it and he also hated giving oral sex. Told him those were dealbreakers and left. Ha. I agree with others that you are asking way too much. My guy wants sex far less frequently than I do. I’d lose it without my toys.
PT-LawMom´s last blog post..Are You Enjoying May Appropriately?
Comment by *Juliette*
| May 21st, 2009
Most men don’t need sex toys because their hands can do the trick very nicely. But it seems plain from these comments that you aren’t going to stop women from masturbating, with or without sex toys! And be honest, guys, you couldn’t be the “master of your own domain” and go without it for weeks or even months at a time between girlfriends either! Let’s just all admit that we are much happier people when our “needs” are met!
*Juliette*´s last blog post..Women, Know Your Limits!
Comment by Jillian
| May 21st, 2009
DH I have to be the voice of reason here, sex with strangers just isn’t safe anymore and for a lot of people, this is a great option.
Jillian´s last blog post..How to get a million visitors to your webpage part one
Comment by dadshouse
| May 21st, 2009
Craig Ferguson cracked a joke last week – he said Donald Trump got so turned on looking at the Carrie Prejean topless pics that the Trumpster grew toupee’s on his palms. Hahahahaha.
I know that masturbation is healthy. But if I’m dating a woman, I don’t take things into my own hands! I’d MUCH rather get it on with a girlfriend than do it solo. I would hope a girlfriend would rather get it on with me than turn to her sex toys. But I do know some women need the double stimulation of a partner and a toy.
I agree, sex with strangers is not the healthiest endeavor. My advice – go find a friend with benefits if a more committed partner can’t be found!
And for all the women who still insist on using sex toys rather than getting with a man, picture me sitting at home alone, playing that Howard Beale youtube video all day… :-)
Comment by ilinap
| May 21st, 2009
I recently went to one of these “passion parties” and honestly, I would have rather had Tupperware. It was a joke and seemed to be geared for women who are unsatisfied and have trouble. Not for me. wink wink
Comment by notasoccermom
| May 21st, 2009
I absolutely agree, touch and smell and taste are all better than plastic and rubber and silicone.
But, a single girl has to have BOB just in case.
notasoccermom´s last blog post..Girls Night Out- Then Climbing the mountain
Comment by Sandrita
| May 21st, 2009
Toys are alright and have a purpose. But battery operated devices don’t come with a brain that can think up new kinky ideas.
So bookstores is your new hangout ? What about meeting the ladies through other friends ?
Sandrita´s last blog post..Daddy is One Creepy Man
Comment by Erica
| May 21st, 2009
Sex with a man is much better than my dolphin. But I think I have a fairly high sex drive and it’s just not possible to have ‘real sex’ as much as I’d like. Especially since I have no boyfriend and only seem to date guys who like me better than I like them.
That being said, if I HAD to throw away Dolphin, there’s always the tap water from the bathtub…
Erica´s last blog post..Boomophobia
Comment by Susan
| May 21st, 2009
In addition to what’s already been written, I think toys are a great way for some women to experiment — get to know what they like and don’t like, sometimes even introduce a new sensation as T wrote about, without having to instruct, “over there, no there, sort of, but not quite…”
They don’t have to be (and shouldn’t be long-term) a substitute for the real thing, but they can be a complement!
Susan´s last blog post..Taking a bow
Comment by Nicole
| May 21st, 2009
“So – I want all the single moms to throw away their sex toys, put on some strappy heels, head to a local coffee house or a bar in a nice restaurant or even a grocery store or bookstore – and find a real live man to be your new sex toy”
…But who’s going to babysit?
:P
Nicole´s last blog post..Emotional Detox: Good Lord. I’m The Mother Of A 2 Year Old.
Comment by Nicole
| May 21st, 2009
Also, sometimes, it’s just the middle of the day and you’re horny as hell, your boyfriend is at the library and you just have to get off.
Just saying..
(most)Sex toys don’t suck..
But if you’re looking for something that does Passion Parties sells the Mimi and the Gigi :P
Nicole´s last blog post..Emotional Detox: Good Lord. I’m The Mother Of A 2 Year Old.
Comment by Amy
| May 21st, 2009
What a great thread! I tried to post a dissenting opinion earlier but it disappeared. Most of what I was gonna say has already been said, but I want to add that women tend to be more susceptible to the bonding that oxytocin and other brain secretions can produce as a result of intimate contact–or sometimes even kissing and cuddling. This can make casual sex, or FWB situations, a real emotional roller-coaster that is ultimately not worth the price of the ticket.
I’ve read advice for men that suggests too much masturbation can make intercourse not as satisfying. Dunno if the same might not apply for women…
(notice I am not giving any personal experience here :)
Amy´s last blog post..sweet girl
Comment by dadshouse
| May 21st, 2009
Amy – porn can have exactly the same effect on men! It trains men to only get turned on via very specific visual stimulations. Not healthy!
Nicole – who is going to babysit? You can always flirt at a coffee house with a kid in your arm! Or make sure you have friends and family to help. Blah blah blah – I know it’s hard to get free nights, and you don’t want to waste your time.
Erica – a dolphin? Huh? Someone school me here.
Comment by Gilit Frank
| May 22nd, 2009
Yes, a human touch is better than a silicone touch, and you advocate a friend with benefits. There are a few problems with this, other than the ones you stated (paying for babysitting, gas, etc.)
1. I’m 46 – the guys who look at me aren’t exactly 26 or even 36. Therefore, they fall asleep and do not have the sturdieness or energy of a battery operated device.
2. They fall asleep. Toys do not.
3. I’m a woman. I get attached to men and being with a “friend with benefit” can prevent me from meeting a “real” friend who can become a boyfriend.
4. and of course, you can’t get pregnant (though at my age that is less likely) with a vibrator. (you can get stds, but only if you share the sex toy).
Nothing takes the place of kissing and hugging, which a toy just can’t do – doesn’t mean i will throw the toy out the window…
Gilit Frank´s last blog post..Post 60: Women in Black and the Witch Hunt
Comment by midmom
| May 22nd, 2009
What about emotional health besides just the sexual health issues of “friends with benefits.” FWB is not necessarily emotionally healthy for all parties. For some it is, but for many it is not. We are parents, responsible for not just our own health, but our children’s. When we are in emotionally draining/unsatisfying/unhealthy relationships it often shifts our attention/focus away from our children. If we have a bad day they can very often have one too. I also think as a mom it sooo very important for me to teach my daughter the value of a healthy relationship and to value herself enough to not be in one that is not. I hope she will learn through example.
I recently watched when Dr. laura Berman was on Oprah talking about teaching our daughter’s about sexual and emotional health. Though i’m not sure I would do it she encouraged mother’s to think about teaching their teenage daughter’s about vibrators. That it puts pleasure int heir control so they don’t think they have to go have sex with every guy, that they can make out and tell themselves that they can go home and pleasure themselves so they can develop an emotionally healthy relationship before sex in their relationships. I thought it was a very valid point.
DH-Do you want your daughter sleeping with every guy she meets/dates? or do you want her to learn to hold back sometimes and build a great emotional relationship? I think that this one of the hardest lessons women sometimes have to learn. Knowing what we need emotionally and sexually and to hold out for for both-that the two are deeply intertwined. That is not worth giving away “the cookies” to just anyone.
Comment by dadshouse
| May 22nd, 2009
Midmom – I am not saying women should sleep with every guy they meet. I absolutely prefer a steady partner to one night stands. I prefer a girlfriend to friends with benefits.
You make a great point about emotional health. I’ve blogged before that Single Parents are Missing Out on Intimacy: http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/06/11/single-parents-missing-intimacy/
and about the difference between physical and emotional intimacy: http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/10/31/physical-intimacy/
I do think men and women are wired differently. Men can more easily engage in casual physical relationships than women.
I’ve also blogged about How to Talk to Your Daughter About Sex: http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/07/02/how-to-talk-to-daughter-about-sex/
and emotional intimacy is definitely a topic I touched on with my daughter.
All that said – while I agree that masturbation is healthy, and that women can pleasure themselves without a man, it bothers me that some women proclaim their love for their sex toys more than their willingness and desire to be with a man. Those women are missing human connection.
This post was a tongue-in-cheek way of reminding women that single men like me would LOVE to be in an intimate relationship. But if the women are home playing with sex toys, rather than out and about, they’re not going to cross paths and flirt with a guy like me.
Comment by badmuthablogger
| May 22nd, 2009
Personally I’ve never been into the toy thing. I prefer the warmth of a human touch. If a man isn’t around, I’m more than adept with my own hands. I guess I’m old fashioned at heart.
Comment by The Exception
| May 22nd, 2009
Ain’t Nothin’ like the real thing baby!! I am not sure that I have ever been able to relax with a toy.. I have them and have tried them, but when things get hot and heavy, I like the guy and the touch and all that he offers…and a guy with great hands and talent beats a toy any day of the week!!! ;) But then again, I can climax quickly and without much effort without toys so…
The Exception´s last blog post..Stop, Breathe, Notice
Comment by Abby Carter
| May 22nd, 2009
Wow. This post has generated a lot of comments!
I once had a guy tell me he hated sex toys because he felt that women who used them couldn’t come as easily as those who didn’t. Not sure how true that is, and have no idea how he might have conducted his “research” but it definitely had me wondering…
With the luck I have had dating lately, Mr. Hitachi has become my “go-to” guy.
Have YOU ever tried grocery shopping in heels? ;)
Abby Carter´s last blog post..Glympse
Comment by QTMama
| May 26th, 2009
I do not think sex toys suck. At all.
I do however, prefer the real thing. But when I don’t have the real thing, and I am not one to sleep around, and I don’t have a FWB … a real live one anyway? My toys become my FWB. It’s safe, clean, fun and they never ever roll over and go to sleep. ;)
QTMama´s last blog post..Don’t Give Up On Me!
Comment by katherine.
| May 26th, 2009
the comments here cover the entire board.
like any aspect of sexual behavior what works for one may not work for another…so toys work for some and not for another.
kinda thankful I live in a place where I can flirt in a coffeehouse…have a friend with benefits…a one night stand…or be physically intimate with the man of my choice.
katherine.´s last blog post..In Idaho…they are just a little more free…
Comment by April
| May 27th, 2009
From my cold, dead hands…
Comment by bad mummy
| May 28th, 2009
Would I rather have a kind and caring lover available at my disposal who could work around my single parent schedule? Sure.
But I’m not emotionally fit for dating, and I’ve never had any luck at finding a man who will be a regular lover instead of a lousy one-night stand. I know exactly how to make myself cum and there’s quite a learning curve for bed-mates, so I don’t always feel like investing the time in guiding and directing when I could enjoy the fine vibrations of a toy.
So I have toys and a fine selection of erotica. Like April says, “from my cold, dead hands”.
bad mummy´s last blog post..New Blog
Comment by dadshouse
| May 29th, 2009
Just to play Devil’s Advocate, don’t you feel like you’re selling things short? I mean, there’s a big difference between getting yourself off perfectly, and having a lover get you off – or better still, having a lover’s spirit intertwine with your own.
Come on, all you women who love sex toys – don’t you feel like you’re selling yourself short?
Comment by *Juliette*
| May 30th, 2009
I think you’ve missed the real point here DH. I don’t think any woman in these comments would say that sex toys get you off perfectly! Rather, they are a useful substitute for those dry spells in between the real thing. Having a lover get you off is priceless, but having their spirits intertwine with ours comes with a high price. Oxytocin. You need to understand that 99% of women can’t turn off the bonding that happens when we “intertwine” with a real person. I’ve tried many times, but in the end it’s too painful to experience the aftermath of emptiness brought on by indulging in casual sex when he goes his separate way without any of the same feelings.
*Juliette*´s last blog post..Gay Marriage Kills Another "Opposite" Romance
Comment by Nicole
| May 30th, 2009
:) I can’t get the munchkin to sit still long enough to order a coffee!
Unless there’s a pretty girl at the till, then he’s all about the flirting and the batting of his little baby lashes.
But that doesn’t help me much ;)
If you want to take him out sometime though I’m sure he’d love to scope out some pretty ladies with you!
:P
Nicole´s last blog post..Emotional Detox Part 2:
Comment by Simon owens
| June 7th, 2009
“In fact, I’ve never used a sex toy. I’m a guy! Most toys are for women. ”
That’s pretty much a myth, there’s actually a vibrant market for men’s sex toys. It’s a shame that there’s a weird stigma around men buying them.
Comment by Male Sex Toys
| June 24th, 2009
I second that. It is a common misconception that sex toys are limited to women only. There are a wide range of sex toys available for men. Ranging from cock rings to extensions and many others.