Where’s the Happy Ending?
Everyone loves a happy end. No, I don’t mean the story book kind. I mean… you know… the other kind? (Ahem.)
If you don’t know what I mean, or even if you do – head on over to the Hot Dads blog for a sizzling hot post titled:
I have a feeling this particular post will elicit some discussion. So weigh in! Give me grief if you disagree. Give the nay-sayers grief if you think I’m spot on.
And if you need some grief relief, have yourself a gin and tonic, or one of my killer Mai Tais. That will bring a happy ending, for sure.
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Comment by katherine.
| June 9th, 2009
how come you didn’t cross post at silicon valley moms?
smile
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Comment by Danielle
| June 9th, 2009
I need clarification on this one. When you say “Happy Ending”, do you actually mean SEX, or do you mean Orgasm?
Call me easy, but if you have chemistry and (from reading your blog, can see that you are interested in a relationship)would not hesitate to “go all the way” on the 3rd date, or when ever it felt right.
I think that as grown-ups, we all should be past the “Rules of when to have sex” and just do what is in are hearts and private areas. :)
The rest are all GAMES in my opinion and can find you very alone and wondering what could have been.
Just my opinion and I am sure this topic is going to create a great debate!
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Comment by MindyMom
| June 9th, 2009
Oh Danielle, I SO disagree. Sex and chemistry are only part of a relationship – but they are the only things you can really know about someone by date three. I’d like to know there’s a more than that present before I get in bed with a guy.
I left a comment over on the other site too, but I’m pretty sure David meant orgasm for “happy ending” and I suggested waiting until that happy ending can be mutual.
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Comment by staciesmadness
| June 9th, 2009
I can’t get their page to load :(
I wanna read about unleashing your load (tmi?)or NOT unleashing your load.
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Comment by Sandra
| June 9th, 2009
LOL,
I’m going over to that blog to have a looksie.
I wish you many “lost turtles” and more happy endings.
::Holds up Mai Tai::
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Comment by dadshouse
| June 9th, 2009
Danielle, I indeed meant orgasm. And while I understand Mindy’s point of “waiting”, at some point we’re grown adults and sex is sex. Why play games?
Comment by Mark
| June 9th, 2009
Love happy endings!
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Comment by Sandra
| June 9th, 2009
Oh Wow,
Some one’s getting a good roast in the BBQ pit over at Hot Dads…………
I knew what you were talking about in your post, but I also can understand how people can misconstrue it as well. I do know you’re not a wham bam thank you ma’am kinda dude.
I think it would’ve helped a little if you clarified what you meant by “happy ending” in the beginning.
Because the expression “happy ending” has a cheap, dirty and selfish connotation.
The only time I’ve ever heard “happy ending” or said those words was when I was talking about a massage parlour. Words like “happy ending” are also used with other words like “sucky sucky” or “me love you long time”.
Does not really help your cause.
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Comment by Danielle
| June 9th, 2009
Well, now I even agree more knowing that you meant orgasm. Who has sex and doesn’t want the partner to finish. I have never heard of such crap. Totaly a control move. I would dump that person immediatly. When you are comfortable enough with someone to have penetration, make it worth coming back.
Seriously, people do that?????????
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Comment by chocdrop
| June 9th, 2009
I have to admit that I have done this a few times. I was really wanting to make sure that this guy was really into me. He may have been just about getting in my pants. Sometimes they would never call eventhough things were going well and they said so. It just proved that I could still either put out and get some too or don’t put out and they are gone anyway.
Some men will do what ever they have to to get to the sweet spot!!!! So I decided to say screw it all and I came on strong got what I wanted and walked away!! I became the man in a sense, not that it was right but I didn’t have to get involved in the BS that they were going to feed me and get excited about nothing!!
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Comment by MindyMom
| June 9th, 2009
Uh, Danielle I think David meant fooling around and not finishing the guy off afterward – NOT having sex and then stopping before the O. Sheesh, what’s the point?
And David I think there is a HUGE difference between waiting and playing games. Wanting or pressuring a girl to get you off after a little fooling around on date three – I think – is sending the wrong messege about what you want from her. Seriously, if we can wait for the big O so can you! Take a long and happy shower after she leaves and wait for the next time – or time after…
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Comment by SingleParentPlus2
| June 9th, 2009
I just have no idea where you meet these women? It’s like watching a three hour movie and the ending sucks – ripoff! It’s a total mind game. You are right not to play.
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Comment by kmn
| June 9th, 2009
Where are you finding these women? If you’re already having sex, in bed, spending the night, how/why would this happen?
I agree with MindyMom though. I want a connection. It’s a weeding out process. Too many men only want sex. So if they can’t wait to get to know me, don’t let the door hit ya on the way out. I just dodged a bullet. When you said “we’re grown adults and sex is sex,” there is something you are ignoring and it has been mentioned here many times. For the majority of women, especially those not having grown up in the “hookup” culture, sex is more than just sex. Oxytocin is a powerful chemical!
Comment by krn
| June 9th, 2009
Date three would be too early for me, if I’m interested in a relationship. If not, then I’d clarify the expectation (sex) if the man didn’t already, in a subtle, but clear way.
Call me stupid or naive, but I’m still confused and I’ve read both posts. You are talking about penetration without orgasm?
I would never, ever think that if a partner and I were having sex (penetration has happened)that we’d stop before orgasm. At least, not since I was first having sex and was terrified of getting pregnant. If you are practicing safe sex with a condom, pregnancy shouldn’t be the issue here.
WTH, women do this? Really. Hmmm. That’s teasing. The only thing I can think of is that they are hoping you’ll be very generous and take turns finishing, back-to-back, or something?
Comment by dadshouse
| June 9th, 2009
These were not hookups. They were dates with women I’d seen multiple times. Maybe it’s a Silicon Valley thing? Maybe these women were just confused – i.e. they are bad girls trying to be good? Who knows.
Comment by notasoccermom
| June 9th, 2009
Of course the number one intent is to get to the ‘end’. However in my own experiences, I have yet to not get there.. and I love the journey just as well
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Comment by katherine.
| June 10th, 2009
could be after three dates they actually knew about the weblog and withheld ending happily…thinking this would be a comment provoking topic for you to write about…
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Comment by Renée
| June 10th, 2009
If you rocked my socks, I’d happily and enthusiastically make *sure* yours got rocked as well. If guys did this, they’d be considered selfish jerks, no? Goose, gander, IMHO. Sure, we women are supposedly more complicated and have more hangups about sex and more issues with everything. I get that, and I’d love to tell you to be more patient and try to figure out why. It might be worth it. But honestly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn’t live up to my own advice. If I give my all and make sure the man’s eyes are rolling back in his head and he feels close to nirvana, I feel totally slighted if he then views my experience as optional.