Comments on: Where’s the Happy Ending?

By: Renée

Renée — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:46:30 +0000

If you rocked my socks, I’d happily and enthusiastically make *sure* yours got rocked as well. If guys did this, they’d be considered selfish jerks, no? Goose, gander, IMHO. Sure, we women are supposedly more complicated and have more hangups about sex and more issues with everything. I get that, and I’d love to tell you to be more patient and try to figure out why. It might be worth it. But honestly, if the tables were turned, I wouldn’t live up to my own advice. If I give my all and make sure the man’s eyes are rolling back in his head and he feels close to nirvana, I feel totally slighted if he then views my experience as optional.

By: katherine.

katherine. — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:21:27 +0000

could be after three dates they actually knew about the weblog and withheld ending happily...thinking this would be a comment provoking topic for you to write about... katherine.´s last blog post..watch out for the wave

By: notasoccermom

notasoccermom — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:06:14 +0000

Of course the number one intent is to get to the 'end'. However in my own experiences, I have yet to not get there.. and I love the journey just as well notasoccermom´s last blog post..Murphy- what have you done?

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:32:38 +0000

These were not hookups. They were dates with women I’d seen multiple times. Maybe it’s a Silicon Valley thing? Maybe these women were just confused – i.e. they are bad girls trying to be good? Who knows.

By: krn

krn — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 01:09:32 +0000

Date three would be too early for me, if I’m interested in a relationship. If not, then I’d clarify the expectation (sex) if the man didn’t already, in a subtle, but clear way.

Call me stupid or naive, but I’m still confused and I’ve read both posts. You are talking about penetration without orgasm?

I would never, ever think that if a partner and I were having sex (penetration has happened)that we’d stop before orgasm. At least, not since I was first having sex and was terrified of getting pregnant. If you are practicing safe sex with a condom, pregnancy shouldn’t be the issue here.

WTH, women do this? Really. Hmmm. That’s teasing. The only thing I can think of is that they are hoping you’ll be very generous and take turns finishing, back-to-back, or something?

By: kmn

kmn — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:38:14 +0000

Where are you finding these women? If you’re already having sex, in bed, spending the night, how/why would this happen?

I agree with MindyMom though. I want a connection. It’s a weeding out process. Too many men only want sex. So if they can’t wait to get to know me, don’t let the door hit ya on the way out. I just dodged a bullet. When you said “we’re grown adults and sex is sex,” there is something you are ignoring and it has been mentioned here many times. For the majority of women, especially those not having grown up in the “hookup” culture, sex is more than just sex. Oxytocin is a powerful chemical!

By: SingleParentPlus2

SingleParentPlus2 — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:12:53 +0000

I just have no idea where you meet these women? It's like watching a three hour movie and the ending sucks - ripoff! It's a total mind game. You are right not to play. SingleParentPlus2´s last blog post..Thank heaven for my little girls