First – the remark as to “you seem like a catch… why aren’t you married?” (I’m paraphrasing.) ARE WE REALLY STILL THERE? Are we still a society that sees a single “goal” for the mating-and-dating dance, the proverbial “happy ending” and the word may indeed be “ending?”

Once we’ve had our kids, must all sexual or love relationships “terminate” in a legal and/or religious ceremony that is costly to undertake, and even more costly to undo (as if it is ever really undone)?

The French have a legal status accorded to those who are committed and live together… something between marriage and dating. I rather like that concept. But more importantly, I like the notion that men and women (or any consenting adults who engage in acts of caring, touching, and sharing their lives) may simply DO so, without necessity to categorize the union or to codify it.

Is it still impossible that some of us choose a (positive) single state, rather than bemoaning a (negative) “unmarried” one?

Bone #2: Might we STRIKE THE TERM WOMANIZER FROM THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE? (Where are the Urban Dictionary guys when you need them?)

Why is it that a man who enjoys women is a “womanizer,” and a woman who enjoys men is a “slut?” (Or as Urban Dictionary might say, a skanky ho…)

Seriously. When are we going to get past all this stuff? And just be men and women enjoying whomever we please, respectfully, according to the privacy of our own beliefs (without imposing them on others), while raising our kids to be happy, tolerant, and contributing members of society?

Must we all move to France? Damn. I hope not. Those metro strikes are bad enough as it is. And Paris gets so muggy when the trains are jammed…
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I think that there are “good” and “bad” apples in all groups. Including single parents of both genders. I have seen both single moms and single dads who worked their asses off to make life as normal as possible for their children, which included getting along with an ex they couldn’t stand and working their social schedual around what the kids needed. I have also seen single moms and dads who fought like cats and dogs, used the children as pawns, and left them with random babysitters to go chase members of the opposite sex.

I have to point out that weather or not a man or woman is fawned over has a lot to do with the quality of person they want around them. I’m a single mom of three, I work a good job and I’m not bad looking, if I wanted I could be knee deep in guys, but I don’t just want A guy, I want THE guy, so I’m picky, I don’t put up with chauvinism and I don’t let people disrespect me and call it joking, so the crowd gets seriously thinned.

Its the same with men, there are women who will throw themselves at anything with a penis, a job, and a pulse, but men who want quality women in their lives wont fall for it. I’ve seen it happen. The woman who is all over any guy who speaks to her may always have one or two on the hook to get with, but very few are permanent additions to her life.

It surprises me how adults change when thecustody of a child becomes involved. No longer is the focus always about what is best for the child but the focus becomes the adults and their agendas, issues, the perceptions of society, their spouse… everything but the child. I have the greatest respect for those parents, like david, who are able to put their kids first and keep them there. It is much harder than David makes it look!!
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People need negativity! They need the stereotype to be true! So its obvious people lap this crap up! It fits the mould of how its supposed to be!

Men are supposed to be players and disrespectful and and and!

Only when we, as men and women, stop accepting it. Stop reading this crap, start making more posts like this will it stop!

Dad’s is spot on about the need to stop promoting hate and anger as a means for supporting societal evolution. Promoting unhealthy, stereotypical viewpoints in the media isn’t helpful, but reading about and watching other peoples’ trainwrecks has become a national pastime. The only to decrease it is to ignore it so that it is not longer profitable, but is this realistic? Not as long as it continues to be fascinating. The collective we seems to be fascinated by negative human behavior more than we are repelled by it. The scale may be tilting, but a tipping point seems a ways off still.

Moving to Silicon Valley to get a date sounds a bit extreme at the moment. But, if my dry spell keeps up for much longer I won’t rule it out. No sense ending up in the Guinness Book of World Records for something unintended when there are so many others striving for that distinction.