Comments on: Chemistry.com Profile – Maybe More Kids?

By: Momma Sunshine

Momma Sunshine — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:21:50 +0000

For me, personally, this is where I stand on the kids issue. I am done having kids. My girls are 4 and 6, and if the decision were mine to make, I would have no more.

However, if I were to meet and fall in love with someone who really wanted children, it would be an option that I would explore. Because I know what it’s like to really want kids. I don’t feel so strongly on NOT having kids that I wouldn’t consider it for the man I love.

That’s just my take on it.

By: katherine.

katherine. — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 14:36:16 +0000

echoing several others…it is a question open to interpertation.

One site I use to be on had the option:
“I would accept other’s kids”

Maybe you could leave that question unanswered and explain in the comment section. And maybe not rule out those women who select maybe for their response.

At my advanced age it won’t be long before it is no longer an issue….laughing…the questions will have to be about grandchildren….
katherine.´s last blog ..down by the Boardwalk…down by the sea-ee-ee

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 03:39:34 +0000

Honestly – I think you should quit the whole online dating thing!

It can get kinda soul destroying!

I dont get why there is a maybe answer to any question – its either yes or no! You cant MAYBE do things!

By: RJ

RJ — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 01:56:47 +0000

When I first tried an online site, this question – how to answer it, and how to interpret their answer – threw me as well. Did a single mom saying “no” mean “no more and therefore I don’t want you to have them.” Conversely, did “yes” from me mean I actually wanted more of my own, or was simply open to the woman also having children.

Then I figured that I was, as I often do, over-thinking things. Typically, within a couple of conversations, the issue was cleared up.

On another note, this is my first comment, but I’ve been reading for a while. As a new nearly full-time single dad to an eleven year old girl, I’ve found you to be funny, insightful, and reassuring, in that I see it can be done. You’ve even moved me to start my own blog – completely different approach, but I hope it gives me an outlet to sort out all of the issues I face raising a girl on the cusp of womanhood.

Thanks. Dad’s House rocks.
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By: Mark

Mark — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:33:54 +0000

This is an interesting observation. I tend to agree with you that “maybe” in any form leaves open the the possibility of a yes and that is a possibility that you have closed off to. I would discount them from you prospects.
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By: Abby Carter

Abby Carter — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:30:44 +0000

Maybe to me means if she finds the right guy, the right situation, then she wants kids, if not then she doesn’t. I wouldn’t write off a maybe though. Nothing is ever that black and white and there are so many other variables to consider as well. It is just a date after all.
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By: Toronto Mama

Toronto Mama — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:01:56 +0000

I agree. The online dating charade totally sucks. I am also not interested in a guy who doesn’t want kids. But that’s because I’m looking in the 28-40 range. It’s understandable for a guy over 40 not to want kids. I get it.

Good luck to you Dads, you will find your match someday :)
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