Jon and Kate Gosselin Dating Craziness
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| Jon Gosselin and girlfriend Hailey Glassman |
Soon after Jon and Kate Gosselin announced they were separating, with legal proceedings already initiated for a Jon and Kate divorce, all eyes turned to see which parent would step up to the plate and raise the kids. Commentators here at Dad’s House vouched for Jon, saying Kate was a bitch.
And then Jon started dating like crazy.
At first, it didn’t bother me one bit that Jon Gosselin was trying to date. I’m a man, I went through a divorce. Dating after separating is par for the course for a lot of people. Especially given Jon and Kate Gosselin’s marriage.
If Kate Gosselin really did boss Jon around and treat him poorly, like she appeared to on their show (Jon and Kate Plus 8), of course he’d want to immediately find a woman who approved of him, and loved him, and gave him her heart, body, mind, and soul. (Or at least partied with him and made him feel good for a night. Anything to help him forget the Jon and Kate Gosselin couple he was a part of.)
Hey, I went on my own dating rampage after my divorce.
The thing is, I didn’t get a girlfriend until ten months after I separated. And that was a good year and a half after my wife and I decided we’d split. (We lived separated under one roof for nine months before I moved out.)
Not to put a timetable on Jon Gosselin’s dating life, but for him to not only have a girlfriend, but have two girlfriends (as reports suggest) seems sketchy. And dating so publicly – did he think his kids wouldn’t see those covers of People and US magazine at the grocery checkout? Did he hope they wouldn’t google his name when he was in St. Tropez on a yacht, and anywhere else?
You could blame it on the media a bit, I suppose. Jon and Kate Gosselin had a popular reality show, and reality is still happening after their split.
Still… two girlfriends so soon after a marital separation seems a little extreme, even to a single dad like me who would love some feminine energy in my life.
Think Kate will put on a happy Jon and Kate Gosselin coparenting face?
About the girlfriends:
Hailey Glassman is 22 (check the money shot of her falling onto a potted plant. She might have been enjoying some substances beforehand.) Her friends say she’s dating Jon Gosselin in order to become famous. (Ya think?)
Kate Major is 26, a Star reporter who apparently fell for Jon Gosselin when she interviewed him. (Maybe she wants some publicity, too?)
Jon is 32. The ten-year age difference with Hailey Glassman is a little extreme, especially since she looks stoned in some of her pics. (She’d make a great stepmom for his 8 kids, wouldn’t she?) I’m guessing they aren’t at the same life stage. The six year difference with Kate Major isn’t so bad.
But like I said, it’s no one’s business whether Jon Gosselin is dating like crazy, or who he decides to see. The man is going through a divorce. Jon and Kate Gosselin are a couple no more. He probably didn’t get laid in the last few months, or even year. (Rebound sex exists for a reason.)
But Jon Gosselin might be wise to show some public restraint since he’s a media target.
Jon and Kate Gosselin’s eight kids don’t need to be on his post-divorce dating roller coaster ride.
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Comment by The Exception
| July 30th, 2009
I feel badly for ths kids – I have yet to figure out how it is that parents/supposed adults engage in activities that may hurt their kids at any time but especially in such a public forum and when their kids are potentially experiencing insecurity.
Yes, adults are adults and they are working through their own emotions and “stuff” but it seems that there is lip service given to “what is best for the kids” when the adult is actually doing “what is best for my ego or situaiton.”
Is it possible for John to do this out of the public eye? Is it possible for adults experiencing emotional change such as divorce to truly take care of themselves and put their kids stability first?
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Comment by MommaSunshine
| July 30th, 2009
This whole thing is a huge tragedy if you ask me. Separation and divorce is difficult enough, but then even worse when it happens in the public eye like this. I know a lot of people say that they brought this on themselves by choosing to be in the public eye, but PLEASE – they *never* expected it to end like this. How could they?
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Comment by Paula
| July 30th, 2009
Those kids were ruined the moment the two of them allowed all those TV cameras into their house. Both parents appear to be money grubbers who used their kids to avoid a ‘real job.’
I noticed (in the grocery store line) that one magazine had Jon & his GF on it along w/ a huge pic of Kate and her body guard with ‘back together’ headlines.
Keep it private? These two thrive on being public and making a buck off it. I think they’re both crazy, and that 22 year old? Rebound…
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Comment by Sandy
| July 30th, 2009
And tell me again….I care about these people why?
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Comment by BigLittleWolf
| July 30th, 2009
To use your words – “it’s no one’s business if he’s dating like crazy or who he decides to see.”
Would you say the same thing about the wife, so soon after the split? Or even a year or two after the split?
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Comment by lisaq
| July 30th, 2009
Restraint & discretion are the key words. Let him do who or whatever he wants to do, but to have it so out there for his kids to see is not at all cool.
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Comment by Just Me...
| July 30th, 2009
I’m agreeing with Sandy.. I truly can’t care.. But generally, during a divorce, one parent ends up providing the majority of care and the other, well, either plays hard or spends their time irritating the other spouse..
So, this is not very surprising situation.. :)
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Comment by QTMama
| July 30th, 2009
I just don’t know how he can’t live quietly, with the media following him around, hiding in bushes and taking pics of every single thing he does. So I dunno if I can make a judgment about the “to have it out there for his kids to see” because really, unless the man became a hermit? I just don’t see how he can live a private life anymore.
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Comment by Random Esquire
| July 30th, 2009
You know those movies like Shallow Hal that seem to have this great message that it isn’t okay to make fun of fat people…but the entire movie is actually filled with fat jokes?
That’s sort of how I felt while reading this. The analogy isn’t perfect…but I have to wonder how you can say this:
“But like I said, it’s no one’s business whether Jon Gosselin is dating like crazy, or who he decides to see.”
after you just wrote an entry informing many people that he is dating and who he’s dating.
I get that the information is already out there and that you’re offering up your opinion on it but it does feel a little like “The food here is terrible. And the portions are so small.”
Eh, no offense intended – just…seemed odd to me.
Comment by Kat Wilder
| July 30th, 2009
Who would ever think there’d be anything “normal” about anyone who was in a reality TV show?
Jon may be in the public eye, but he’s doing what I imagine a lot of couples do to varying dregrees when they split, kids or not.
I’m thinking their kids have a lot more to deal with than their dad’s dating shenanigans. And, they can thank their parents for that. See, we can always blame our parents for something!
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Comment by dadshouse
| July 30th, 2009
Random Esq – good point. I’m walking a fine line here with Jon and Kate Gosselin and who Jon is dating. On the one hand, I think it’s healthy he’s dating. On the other hand, since he’s in the public eye, he has to figure his kids will find out about specific women. The public shouldn’t judge who he is having fun with, but we have a right to our opinions about how his dating might affect his kids. (At least from a divorce sociological perspective.)
When I divorced, I dated who I chose, and I did not bring them around my kids. I didn’t want my children worrying that every woman I went out with might become their step-mom. Especially when some of those dates were simply for fun. I tried hard to keep my dating life separate from my kids – until I met a woman who I was serious about.
Of course, I didn’t have paparazzi following me around after my divorce, like Jon and Kate Gosselin do. (I do now! haha)
Comment by Sandra
| July 30th, 2009
Jon Gosselin is like a trainwreck that I just can’t look away from. Yeah, maybe it’s no one’s business, but if his pictures are plastered everywhere in every magazine, I guess it’s okay to have an opinion.
You would think that he would choose a better looking chick to bang. But Hailey ? She looks older than Kate. Her cheeks look old and droopy, probably due to her love of substances.
She looks like she was ridden real hard.
He wears Ed Hardy, which is just douchebag fashion in my opinion.
Those poor children. They should’ve never been subjected to the cameras.
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Comment by Andrea
| July 30th, 2009
I think the whole thing is unbelievable stupid and I’m sick of hearing about them.
Their poor kids are going to need therapy for years.
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Comment by T
| July 30th, 2009
I can’t tell if its sad or what but I have no idea who these people are. It sounds like yet another media circus…
But, as people told me post-separation/divorce, kids are resilient.
Let’s hope so!
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Comment by Mark
| July 30th, 2009
Jon by virtue of his fame is under the microscope and his children are being affected by his public displays. In this situation Jon should show some restraint or at very least keep it behind closed doors, however that does not make for good TV or print. I would venture to bet that in some ways the media is directly or indirectly motivating Jon to do what he is doing because of the value it adds to programming and print. The ones hurt in this situation are the children which is a hurt on a much greater scale then children of a normal divorce experience.
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Comment by Susan
| July 30th, 2009
And everyone thought Jon was such the victim only 3 months ago! Truthfully, I think his dating behavior is just showing how much he probably was like Kate’s 9th child than her parenting partner.
Sheesh. No wonder she yelled a lot. Show some restraint and common sense in public, Jon!
(Oh, and you can go away now, too.)
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Comment by debbie
| July 30th, 2009
Its so hard to judge..I waited 4 months and ended up married in a year and headed straight to another divorce! I think thats what we all feel..yes, we know he is a celebrity but if we lived through it we see the train wreck happening…and so publicly at that!! what a mess!!
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Comment by Kristy
| July 30th, 2009
I’ve been reading your blog for a long long time now. I divorced in 2003 because my ex left me for the next door neighbor. Our marriage was over for a long long time. My ex-husband left me on 12-27-02.
I met my 2nd husband on Jan 11, 2003. A mere 2 weeks later. We moved in together the very next day. We lived together in sin from 01-11-03 until 11-22-05 when we got married. We are still very happily married.
You come across in this post, like many others, as thinking the entire world’s experiences should mirror your own. That every separated man is out hunting for sex via the Internet. That everyone has the same arrangements as you and your ex-wife, etc. You make assumptions about the world based upon how you live your life. Not everyone is like you nor will they live by your rules.
Quite frankly, it’s wrong of anyone to judge either Jon or Kate when their lives are told to us via the media and the media is full of liars and money seeking pigs. However, I do not feel for their squirming under the heat of the media lights and frenzy, they signed up for it and they are making big money for their troubles.
As far as I’m concerned, he’s separated from his wife and can date anyone he likes, as many as he likes. He will only have to answer to his children someday. Not my problem.
If Jon’s a trainwreck….then wish him well. Being a trainwreck is sad. The dude’s trying to figure it out while in the public eye. I’m sure we’ve all had our not so fine moments. Fortunately for the average guy his life is not televised.
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Comment by Kristy
| July 30th, 2009
Just saw your comment about how you didn’t bring who you dated around your children. That’s YOUR choice. We all have to make that choice.
I moved in like I stated above and my son met my 2nd husband immediately because he became my roommate and my son had a right to know who that person was. I have always chosen to live my life in front of my son rather than hide things from him. You realize you could have told your children that you were dating and let them understand that “dating” means you get to know tons of people until you find the right one and that if you found the right one you’d let them know.
Living a secret life as though it’s not happening teaches your kids to be secretive too ya know.
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Comment by Kristy
| July 30th, 2009
oh and how’s it feel to be judged dadshouse? :-)
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Comment by dadshouse
| July 30th, 2009
Kristy – I don’t feel judged by you. You’re just stating your opinion. And I also don’t feel every man has to live his life like me, or like the divorced man you described (who is not me.) I’m not forcing my opinions on anyone in this post, or any post. I write with a definite opinion because blog posts are short, and being direct tends to jumpstart debate and ellicit responses. If I had a longer forum to discuss ideas, I’d cover every angle with far more empathy. But if I wrote long-winded blog posts like that, no one would read me online.
My purpose in writing this post about Jon and Kate Gosselin and their post-separation dating wasn’t to judge – it was to offer my opinion and start a conversation on what I think is a good way for a single parent to date. I’m surprised you’ve read my blog for so long, yet have commented only twice before, six months ago. If you don’t like my opinion, why keep reading? Or why not debate me more often?
I do think it’s great for a single parent to date in front of their kids. Parents should model adult romantic relationships for their children. However, I don’t think it’s a good idea for a single parent to bring date after date into their kids lives. Kids need stability. If they see a parade of girlfriends, they have nothing solid to hold onto in that department. My kids have met two of my post-divorce girlfriends. Do they need to know I went out with someone new two weeks ago? No. Is that a secret life? No – they know I’m out dating, they just don’t know who I’m seeing. And I think that’s healthy. Why give them false hope and have them meet someone who probably won’t stick around?
Sounds like you were lucky to have found your second husband just two weeks after leaving your first. I think that’s rare and unique.
As for Jon and Kate Gosselin’s kids – they are dealing with the shock of their parents splitting up, and their dad is on the cover of People magazine partying with a 22 year old. Please tell me how that is healthy for his kids.
Comment by Kristy
| July 31st, 2009
I didn’t leave my first husband. He left me.
I rarely comment because I’m a fulltime college student gaining my masters degree. I have a child, a husband, a dog….a busy life.
I skim most of your entries because time is short. Occasionally you push me to type. But only occasionally.
If I were internet dating and text mesaaging for booty I would hide that from my kids too.
Comment by Janey
| July 31st, 2009
Just a reminder that separated is still married! That’s SUPPOPSED to be meaningful to people who are so religious they base their life and death childbirth decisions on their beliefs.
It’s also crucial to have some healing time without the distraction of romance and sex. This is a real train wreck.
Comment by Jennifer Wolf
| July 31st, 2009
David,
Thanks for putting it “out there” that you waited ten months. I think taking some time before jumping into the dating scene is a good thing! Just that little bit of restraint can be so helpful in kids’ overall adjustment to divorce, and I think it also puts the parent in a better position to make wise choices about relationships.
~Jen
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Comment by dadshouse
| July 31st, 2009
Kristy – you are incredibly judgmental.
A lot of people have tried internet dating. There’s nothing wrong with it. I found it didn’t work too well for me – I’ve had much better success meeting women in real life, at dinner parties, BBQs, birthday parties, block parties, etc. I’ve blogged about that fact many times.
As for booty calls – I’m not the first person to have a one night stand, or even a lover. Have you read the book by Pulitzer Prize winning journalist Laura Sessions Stepp – Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both? I blogged about it here: http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/02/29/hooking-up-i-just-want-to-be-your-lover/
Hooking up is a sad but true artifact of modern dating for a lot of people of all ages throughout the US. I have blogged countless times that hooking up is unfulfilling, and that I’m looking for a committed relationship. Partly due to my living in Silicon Valley where there are far more single men than women, this has been hard to find. That said, I have found a committed loving relationship on a few occasions, post divorce.
As for texting – it’s a modern way to communicate.
Also, please keep in mind, the stories I share on my blog are one tiny aspect of my life. It’s not how I live my life every day. I actually don’t hook up very often. Sounds like even one hookup would be too much for you. I respect that. No need for you to judge me and anyone else who occasionally seeks intimacy when I’m in-between relationships. I tend to share the more salacious stories since it attracts readership and encourages debate and social commentary.
Perhaps you have been stung in the past by someone and their “secret” booty call life. If that’s the case, I’m sorry that happened, and sorry it still causes you so much pain that you feel the need to put down others.
Comment by Barry
| July 31st, 2009
First, Jon and Kate should fall of the face of the earth. I believe it was Paula who mentioned ruining their kids. All about $$. Makes me nauseous.Any parent willing to put their kids in the national spotlight…well. I better stop.
David, waiting 10 months, I am standing and applauding. So many single parents rush into relationships. Great example and also terrific dad for not putting your kids through roller coaster with new people in their lives right away. Many think they are ready, but they are not.
Lastly, I am begging for people to just not watch this Jon and Kate garbage. Of course, it you do, it will help pay for their kids therapy sessions down the road.
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Comment by eathan
| July 31st, 2009
I’d hate to have the media spot light on me…but then that would give me a chance to use my Elvis costume. It’s just sad that everything they do that is viewed as negative will make it on the news stands. But they created the media storm by starting the show.
Where is Dr. Phil when you need him. lol
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Comment by this new place
| July 31st, 2009
i think he should do what he wants. and hey, if the media spotlight floats his boat, great, it will save some deserving star who would rather not be in the spotlight. I only read this in the line at the market. never seen the show except when the cable was out and I found an episode online to watch. ha. ha.
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Comment by Dad Blog
| August 1st, 2009
I am so happy to see Jon going out on dates. Before I was married to the greatest wife on Earth, I was almost married to someone just like Kate. I felt 2 inches tall just for stating an opinion or my feelings. Jon was under oppression way too long, it is time for him to have some fun BUT he still has to be a good model for his children. He may be crossing the line on the father figure.
Comment by G
| August 9th, 2009
Who cares who jon dates but i think majority of us do care bout his kids…the marriage falling apart is strictly between jon n kate n only they will kno wat happened….jon should date but discreetly… Maybe he thinks his kuds cant read or dont understand tabloid fotos???? All the money they make are either flaunted by the two are spent on kids counselling….i just think its not as acceptable u dont just “date” in the midst of a divorce…he’s almost wanting to race against time , wanting to live a fraternity life or somthing…
Comment by Kim
| September 10th, 2009
dadshouse,
I just have to stand up for you with Kristy. I wish my ex felt the same way you do. We have 3 girls and he see’s people with kids. I’ve asked that he not subject them to “family” get together’s with these women and kids unless he can say they are definitely serious. I don’t want my kids to think they are getting another family, only to have them break-up and have the kids even more upset.
Good job! By the way, I would never move a man I’ve only known for 2 weeks into the home with my kids. 2 weeks does not tell you what kind of person this man is.
Comment by Mark- 24 year old bouncer from louisiana
| October 17th, 2009
At first, I had to stick up for Jon since the media is saying such despicable things about him and harassing everyone he’s ever known and/or loved. I mean, who is Rachel Maddow to judge someone’s family values just because they were on a t.v. show focused on shedding some light into just how HARD it is to parent such an extraordinary family.
Just from watching 10 minutes of their show, anyone could tell that that couple genuinely loved their kids, and each other, even though they had their problems with their marriage. After reading your point of view, I must say I shifted a little in my own opinion. Although I would never judge him for dating so soon (who am I to say how long a fellow father has to wait to get some joy in his life amidst a divorce and separation from his kids?), he has to realize what his kids are going to be put through now and in the future. Shelter your children all you like, they are going to hear things. If you are in the public spotlight you HAVE to be more discrete if you want to protect them. By all means have fun, he missed out on a huge part of his life, but take the proper precautions so that no one ever finds about it for your kids’ sake, if not your own.