Comments on: A Woman Walked Out on Me in a Bar

By: Sarah Timbers

Sarah Timbers — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 12:46:11 +0000

I totally understand that lady. She has self respect. Nobody likes to be pointed at like some thing. And nobody forces the men to date her – they choose so.

By: The Exception

The Exception — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:29:54 +0000

Although I can see several of the points above, I would have enjoyed the debate as well – never pass up the chance to engage and learn more and find out something new!!
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By: canadian52

canadian52 — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:32:19 +0000

WOW! She was clearly very touchy on the subject. But, your observations were truthful. Here’s a blog entry you’ll appreciate that questions if narcissism is part of the female condition. http://kenbesseder.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/what-happened-with-me-and-jane/

By: alley

alley — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:47:51 +0000

Well, I’m just a single mom in kansas who works full time and attends school full time, so the time left for dating is negligible to the point that I have officially put the whole thing on hiatus. But anyway, here’s my take. First of all, I think it was a bit rude for the guy to inject himself in the conversation, and more so for you, her companion to allow it when it was excluding her. That’s actually a deal breaker for me, weather it be friend, boyfriend, what ever, don’t ask me to hang out and then exclude and ignore me. Second, her reaction seems a bit over blown, but if she’s an artist it could be that she has a more dramatic flair than the rest of us.
Third, if the single dude to single female ratio is that out of whack there, I may relocate, how much do teachers make there?

Fourth, and this is probably the only thing that might be at all worth reading, maybe if you are having the same problem over and over, you are going after the wrong women? Maybe the fun for you is in the chase and not in the catching? So maybe you are going after women with personalities that cause them to drop men when things get a bit complicated and who like having attention from lots of men and wont be exclusive? I know you’ve sated before you have a specific type, but maybe its time to change things up just a bit.

By: Bobbi Janay

Bobbi Janay — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 16:45:42 +0000

I have been a lurker for a while and decided to comment out of hiding do to this post. First of all her not wanting you to talk about who you are dating is unfair if she can’t do the same. Also as someone who used to bar tend in college that is the kind of thing bar tenders do.
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By: krn

krn — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:53:18 +0000

Great post and comments.

Dad’s wasn’t responsible for protecting or defending his friend, though that might have been a kind thing to attempt. The woman has her own voice. It’s her right and responsiblity to defend herself, and it sounds like she might have been better served to have chosen that approach instead. Walking out is impolite and reeks of avoidance, but since she was very offended, felt threatened and teamed up on, I understand her position. That being said, it sounds like a really interesting conversation in which she had an opportunity to clear up any misconceptions and provide some needed insight. Too bad she wasn’t up for it that night.

Silicon Valley here I come! ;)

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 02:43:18 +0000

Obviously, the chick is a little insecure about what she has going on in her dating life or is totally unused to talking about the subject. The bartender probably shouldn’t have waggled his finger and yes it’s a little threatening to get teamed up on by two dudes, but she should have played it cool and rolled with it.
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