Comments on: When Hanging Out is Better Than Dating

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 16:22:41 +0000

It’s totally possible to just hang out and be friends for the companionship, although it’s super tricky. I would go waaay overboard in explaining my intentions and reinforcing that with non-sexual body language. Even then, we might get drunk and accidentally sleep together. Oopsie!

@Teri, you’re ridiculous. If he says he wants to be friends and you have to pay for your own comedy ticket, which isn’t that expensive btw, then you have no right to get upset or bitchy about it. In fact, because of his exceptional honesty, I would suggest you pay for him a time or too. He’s better off without your friendship.
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By: Kekel

Kekel — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 11:55:52 +0000

I met this guy online and now I’m really liking him. I can usually tell if a guy likes me or not, but with him, I’m all confused. I have explained to him that the FWB situation is not my thing…it didn’t change anything, so I told him that we shouldn’t see eachother anymore. He was upset,didn’t accept it, said that he wanted to keep seeing me, that this wasn’t what was happening, that the problem was everything else that was going on his life. He said: my life is chaotic right now (he got overloaded with work since his dad got very sick), but I’ll make time for us to “hang out”. He usually acts differently from how he speaks. He likes to be the “strong male” , but without a little break, I’ll end up giving up. If I ask him if he likes me, he says he does. “Why do you think that, silly?”. I’m trying to be patiente and understanding, to not put too much pressure on him. But I’m afraid he is playing me and I’ll end up getting hurt. Confused.

By: Mark

Mark — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 01:46:21 +0000

Relationships that begin as friendships can remain friendships and sometimes they evolve into the most wonderful of relationships. You are anal izing this way too much. Invite her over as a friend and take it one step at a time.
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By: Cathouse Teri

Cathouse Teri — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 18:52:51 +0000

I once met a guy at a dating site and we went out a few times. We had fun together, but there was definitely no chemistry between us. At one point, he invited me to go see a comedy show at a local club. I said, “Sure! Sounds cool.” He said, “Okay, the tickets cost such and such…” I thought… hmmm… why is he telling me how much the tickets are? So I asked him. He said, “Well since we are kind of just friends going out, I thought maybe you would want to start going dutch on paying for our outings.” I said, “Um… not only no but hell no. I’m okay with you saying you want to change the way things work when we go out, but you can be sure that I can’t afford to go out to the places you select. So if you want my company, you will have to pay for it. You are welcome to go out on the town alone.”

You see… he had prefaced our original meeting with the idea that he just wanted someone to take out. So he wouldn’t have to go out alone. And this was perfect, because I was looking for someone to take me out! I was so honest about this that my profile said, “I’m just looking for someone to take me out because I can’t afford to take me out any more!”

So then he adds, “Yeah, but when a man takes a woman out and pays for it, she usually does something in return.”

You can imagine what a positive reaction this got out of me.

Suffice it to say that we did go out a few more times (he paid) but then I met my current squeeze … and guess who got to go back to going it alone?
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By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 05:58:48 +0000

How weird! I am busy having this debate/discussion with a friend of mine!

I want to HANG OUT! Watch a movie, go for drinks – in a NON date kinda way!

We are and always will be just friends but he doesnt want to do that!

I dont get it! I mean sometimes you want to hang out but not with your girl friends!
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By: notasoccermom

notasoccermom — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 03:30:20 +0000

This is a tough situation but honesty is always the most important thing.
I dated a man I fell for quickly. He didnt feel the same.. He told me honestly and it hurt a little but now we are friends, we can hang out waiting for the right one to come along…
But if I still had strong feelings for him i would let him go.
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By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 03:22:09 +0000

Lori – interesting word choice: “over time… men tend to think that you want to sleep with them.” As a man, I can tell you we don’t think like that at all. Instead, we think “over time… men tend to want to sleep with you.” Either we want to sleep with you, or not. Whether you want us to sleep with you does not come into the equation. At least not before you put up your defenses.