Comments on: Planning a First Date is So 2000 and Late

By: JLEIGH

JLEIGH — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:06:20 +0000

I personally think it’s BULLSH** when a man cannot plan a date ahead with you — I have men that do this to me ALL the time! I am sooo sick of it — to me, that shows that you are not respectful of MY busy calendar. I HAVE to plan dates ahead, I don’t have a choice! I work long hours and I have other obligations and I am a planner, so if Men think it’s ‘weird’ to have to plan ahead, think of it as you are being respectful of the other person’s busy life and planning ahead is a GOOD thing — I love being able to know on Wed. that on Fri. night I have a date to look forward to. Men need to know that MOST women LOVE the anticipation of meeting up with you at a later date — IF and when the relationship goes from just casual dating to more serious, then of COURSE you can be more spontaneous, but please don’t be this way when you are FIRST meeting up with someone, please—that is not gentlemanly at all nor chivalrous–to me, it downright SUCKS!

By: Erik Giles

Erik Giles — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 16:51:13 +0000

Planning a date… so 2000 and late! :-)

Here is what I’ve figured out. A planned date is too much of a commitment in this day and age. It is something that you’d do after a couple of get togethers. A planned date in 2008 is the weekend getaway of 1998. Think how you’d feel if a women you exchanged a couple emails with wanted to take you to her cousin’s wedding in Denver.

I do it this way. Get together a couple of times and if there is Chemistry and it seems to be going well, propose to take her on a “real” date. If she says yes, you are probably on the same page; if she puts you off, she may just be killing time.

Just my 2 cents.

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:57:03 +0000

I’ve had this thought often as well, although my market is younger and seemingly a little less busy, so it’s not as prevalent. If I would have gotten the line about personal calendars I would have dropped her right then and there.
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By: Danielle

Danielle — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 21:05:34 +0000

I have actually had men tell me that they date women that don’t want men to hold doors for them. How the hell do people know how to act anymore. I personally am all for the good old days of Chivalry. In fact, I kinda demand it.
Planning is the only way for me to do anything.
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By: ilinap

ilinap — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 19:19:09 +0000

I say planning a date is more romantic; the anticipation can make you downright giddy, which is awesome. This texting/tweeting thing seems rude to me.

By: Ginger Magnolia

Ginger Magnolia — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 19:17:33 +0000

At the very least, the way these women acted was rude. It’s not difficult to be courteous.
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By: Florinda

Florinda — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 17:23:50 +0000

I don’t get this. Not when you’re talking about adults, anyway. I’m with several of the people who have commented ahead of me: I prefer things to be planned. Maybe not weeks ahead of time, but we’ve all got so much going on already, how do we fit other things in without a plan?

I met my second husband via online dating. We planned our first date via e-mail.
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