Comments on: Older Men and Younger Women

By: Anamika

Anamika — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:59:46 +0000

Older men has a lot to offer interms of maturity and experience which attracts a younger woman. You cannot also rule out the chances that she is a gold digger or she is genuinely in love.
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By: Annoyed

Annoyed — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 03:44:49 +0000

My father is dating a woman who is two years younger than me. He’s 56 and she’s 26. I find that repulsive and disgusting. It makes me think of those dirty old men that check out my friends at bars. If those men didn’t have money, no woman would be looking their way. Men are silly to think that 20 something women don’t want their money.

By: Joel

Joel — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 09:25:18 +0000

This is only slightly off topic, maybe deserves it’s own topic. I am a single dad aged 39. My girlfriend is 27. She has no children and has never dated anyone with children before me. We have been dating for five months now, spending most of our time together.
Currently I have my son(10) and daughter(8) one week on, one week off. We have discussed it and she is not sure if she wants kids. Though she recently had a dream where we had a baby girl together. She says this was the first time she has ever had such a dream, and told me that she woke up feeling very happy.
The question is this. She has voiced concern to me that she is not sure if she wants children and she is confused because she is afraid that if we continue down the road we are on and things progress, she will find herself living with me and involved in two kids lives. She asks, what if I decide I don’t want that? She is afraid of hurting me, wasting my time etc.
I have told her that I do not want to put any pressure on her. My children have a mother, and I would never ask, or put that on her. I only ask that she is their friend. My children like her, and are open and actually enjoy the idea that I am with her.
I have fallen in love with this women. I know what I want, but I am willing to be patient and not push things. I am enjoying our time getting to know each other, and I am not looking to push the fast forward button.
I don’t know what to tell her to ease her mind. What do you say to a girl without kids that will ease her worries?

By: squiggles

squiggles — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:28:15 +0000

I’m not a blogger but am considering this very issue because I have (after a long road) met the woman of my dreams. It is interesting to note that the icky factor seems to be less important than the true happiness involved for so many.

WM1082, your age gap doesn’t sound at all horrific although I cannot comment on meeting real/fake at a bar in L.A.! There is obvious interest and if you are prepared to bridge the chasms created here, best wishes to you. That you are prepared to mesh with a man who comes equipped with a family suggests that you are tolerant and like me pondering this topic. I will however suggest that perhaps it is not the age difference but in your case that you need some independence from your family nest. I advised a friend to put some space between her and her daughter and it was the best thing that ever happened to them. She moved a mere 150 miles and the animosity evaporated.

Think about my suggestion that perhaps you are looking at the wrong issue?

By: WM1082

WM1082 — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:28:44 +0000

I just read the post by roadrunner. I am in the same situation, but I’m the younger girl. My boyfriend is 46 and I’m 28. We met four years ago at a bar in LA, just two people who happened to sit next to each other. He looks younger, and I was instantly attracted to him not knowing his age.

He is not from, nor does he live in the US, and was newly divorced then. The timing never added up for us until recently. We carried on a fling for 4 years, and would travel to see one another when we were both single. Now, that I’m a little older and more certain of what I want, we have decided to give it a real try. I will likely end up moving to be with him and try our life together.

I’m very close to my parents and they (especially my mother), are horrified by this whole thing. Other than the age, they remember when I first met him at age 23. My mom hated him then, since she thought he would take me away from her (the moving). Also, he is divorced with kids. She has never met him, and I think if she does, she will understand more where I’m coming from. Any advice on how to handle?

By: roadrunner

roadrunner — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:58:30 +0000

Well, I am here to tell you that it can work.

I am 45, my girlfriend is 27. This is the best relationship that I have have ever had. Like everyone else, I was also worried about the age difference at first. But she quickly put that to bed, plus her father is 55 and married with a 29 old, they already have two kids.

Someone once told me than once you listen to your heart, everything falls into place. Well, this is exactly what happened, I finally let go of what everyone thought…and who cares? In the end, the real people see the truth of this relationship and agree with it. And the ones that dont, you do not need them.

The key is to NOT play games, it can be scary at first, but if you find the one real person, ultimately everything else will fall into place.

By: Alexis85

Alexis85 — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 04:47:50 +0000

Your instincts about the old man young woman thing being creepy were right. It should be illegal for a man to date a woman more than 10 years younger than he is. Men need to stop chasing young women and get real. It makes me wanna vomit.